I know a girl, that is very proud of being a virgin. Of course to be without sex is a good thing before marriage. But talking a bit further, it turns out she has had oral sex several times. But that doesn't count, does it? Of course it does! Did she protect herself? No. Because it is only westerners that have STD.... The girl is from an middle eastern country. She stated that that is something everyone does. And it is not sex!
The logic here is to protect the sacred virginity, with having any other sexual activity that doesn't involve intercourse. This is such bigotry, and I wonder if this is also spreading to young Christians in Europe and the Americas. If so, how should we address it? I will print out some info about STDs for a starter... let's see if it helps.
The whole point of being a virgin is to be clean and pure. STDs are a punishment for having more than one sex partner. And this comes about by germs. It doesn't matter how it got in her body. That's like if an Old Testament Israelite was able to blend and inject pig into his blood stream, and said "It's ok because I didn't eat it." It still counts. And I don't care how scientific you get about the timing, the germs are microscopically there, not visable to the naked eye.
But there is more wrong here than having more than one partner- oral sex is perversion. God did not mean it to be that way- He made a key to fit a key hole. There are certain parts of your body that are not meant to touch other certain parts of even your spouse. For example, lips are not to touch where poop comes out. I don't care if you don't see any, microscopically it is unclean. God put a stink in it for a reason- it is not to enter a body after it exits a body. Although it may carry out some nutrients from the body, it's main purpose is to carry out disease from the body. This is why using manure as firtilizer is sinful and spreads disease. Do put your mouth where God did not intend for it to go. God intended sperm to go up the vagina, not down the throat.
Whether it is of a sexual nature or not, doing the opposite of what God intended is perversion. And the Bible says "They will be punished for thier perversion."
On another note, there is something real about 7 years. Still in today's world debt must be forgiven after seven years. The Bible talks about letting land rest before you grow more crops in it. Anyways, if it's been more than seven years since a person has been celibate, they are clean once again- just like a virgin. If no symptoms of STDs have shown up in seven years, they never will. Anyone concidering marrying someone who has biblically divorced or been widowed over seven years ago, should not feel hesitant about making them thier spouse.