Where are all the single christian men?!

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Lady4Him

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Perhaps this could help! Be content in the Lord first, wherever you are in your life and trust him.
 
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DelightinHim

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Amen :) God bless you.
 

Lady4Him

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a094d53bcd6559d71cd04fc43197c966.jpg This is a good one too!
 

Lady4Him

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Also if women want good godly men, then they must be a good godly women. It goes both ways!
 

Favored21

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It is of course centered around Gods timing..I stated in a previous post that I had been praying for my husband for about eleven years.. however I didn't do everything I was supposed to do in those 11 years. I am abstinent now but there were times I wasn't... There was pain I had to be delivered from.. so the single season is for a reason whether it is to change some things in you, or the person God has for you, or others that are watching you walk out your single season.. I have been a single mother for 14 years and I never ever would have thought that that would be me and deep inside I fight with the fact that no God fearing man will want me because of my past, but that's when I have to dive deeper into the Word and the Word says I am in right standing with God and that Jesus exchanged my wrongs with His right so that whomever my husband is, he will see Jesus, he will see the anointing of God, and not some poor single mother with her head down, cause I have no reason to feel that way except some people have tried to make me feel that way (unfortunately it's been people at church mostly). I am super busy in my life right now and the struggle is soo real when you get lonely... I'm cool in the bad times lol for me it's the good times that you don't have anyone to share with that are the worst. But like I said I put on praise and worship, I pray, I dance, I keep God first cause I swear I wouldn't have made it without Him..maybe one day here I will share my testimony..but my thing is I don't even see anybody in my age group anymore.. everybody I see in my city is either much older or too young...I'm really confused about that..even at my church, I have nobody to relate to, everyone is a senior citizen for the most part... That's fine, I just don't see anyone that looks like me.. quite discouraging
 
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Lol.

Its soo funny... Its hard to meet someone right for any person, but i think its that have to be hard to meet true love, so that we can appreciate and not easy to do something bad and lost them... I trust my real couple from God is a the best man which God give for me later, Coz i trust God will give the best for all kids of God
 

KaraBoo22

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You all are making me laugh over here. I am not desperate nor have I spent years looking. I don't just sit around just hoping some man will find me. lol Some people assume, and you don't even know me. :)
 

Lady4Him

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You all are making me laugh over here. I am not desperate nor have I spent years looking. I don't just sit around just hoping some man will find me. lol Some people assume, and you don't even know me. :)
I wasn't trying to assume anything. The post just struck me as that way. Sorry if it seemed as if I was. I just thought that the pics I posted could apply here, it wasn't a refection on what you had said or anything.
 
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kaylagrl

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I wasn't trying to assume anything. The post just struck me as that way. Sorry if it seemed as if I was. I just thought that the pics I posted could apply here, it wasn't a refection on what you had said or anything.
Your pics were good advice, you have no need to apologize.I saw your post and had to look in and see what was up. Dont apologize, you gave good Godly advice.
 

Lady4Him

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Your pics were good advice, you have no need to apologize.I saw your post and had to look in and see what was up. Dont apologize, you gave good Godly advice.
Thank you. I won't apologize for what I posted, I'm just apologizing for the fact that it was taken the wrong way. I wasn't intended to imply something, I just thought it was good advice. I honestly think that what I posted could also apply to friendships as well.
 

Test_F_i_2_Luv

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You all are making me laugh over here. I am not desperate nor have I spent years looking. I don't just sit around just hoping some man will find me. lol Some people assume, and you don't even know me. :)
nor have I spent years looking I did.

I don't just sit around just hoping some man will find me. That's good. After all, the UPS/USPS/Pizza delivery person isn't likely to be a one's future mate.

Some people assume, and you don't even know me. There could very well be some women out there reading this thread that are coming to the realization that they don't have to take the incompetent/incapable/sit-around-and-wait approach to getting a significant other.
 

Yeraza_Bats

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Ive always felt that a partner had to be a good friend first. The idea of hooking up with someone you barely know is a really uncomfortable thing for me.

So, my advice, make friends first : p And maybe one of them will be the guy that you are looking for.
 

Test_F_i_2_Luv

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Ive always felt that a partner had to be a good friend first. The idea of hooking up with someone you barely know is a really uncomfortable thing for me.

So, my advice, make friends first : p And maybe one of them will be the guy that you are looking for.
The idea of hooking up with someone you barely know is a really uncomfortable thing for me. Hooking up...is that the same as being in a serious/exclusive relationship?
 

Yeraza_Bats

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Yap, it was in no way meant to mean physical relations.
 

tourist

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Hello! I am almost 30 years old, and can't seem to find any decent single men. Where are they? lol :)
There are plenty decent single men on this site. Maybe this post will attract the attention of that special one.
 

Test_F_i_2_Luv

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Ive always felt that a partner had to be a good friend first. The idea of hooking up with someone you barely know is a really uncomfortable thing for me.

So, my advice, make friends first : p And maybe one of them will be the guy that you are looking for.
The idea of hooking up with someone you barely know is a really uncomfortable thing for me. Hooking up...is that the same as being in a serious/exclusive relationship?
Yap, it was in no way meant to mean physical relations.
I met a gal through this website & we were talking on the phone and/or facetime almost daily for about 3 months before I traveled from ND to the west coast to meet her in person.

By the end of the first day we were in each other's company we mutually agreed to go exclusive.

We had first become good friends as best as was possible given the distance factor.
 

polarguyinak

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Jesus said those that marry someone who has been divorced commits adultery so don't make that mistake.
I really hope that's not exactly what he meant. I didn't follow my own advice about it and foolishly married an immature, ungodly gal who cheated on me while I was away for work and divorced me when I found out, refusing to try to fix things. I so deeply desire a family, and a good relationship with a woman who truly loves the Lord. Since she divorced me without my agreeing to it, does this mean I've got a life sentence to the marital garbage can without a family for the rest of my life? I don't know, but I really hope not. I've done years of introspective examination and repentance for my part in the failed relationship, but I don't blame myself for what she did.

It breaks my heart still and i don't know what to do about it. It's beyond profoundly lonely. I'm dismayed that people see the word "divorced" next to my name (as I do when I see it next to others) because they will probably assume that I condone divorce or that I pursued or agreed to it. I don't ever feel it's truly justified, though I think God gave some grace to people in my situation. I really hope so. I guess it's just the way the cookie crumbles? :(
 
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Favored21

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I really hope that's not exactly what he meant. I didn't follow my own advice about it and foolishly married an immature, ungodly gal who cheated on me while I was away for work and divorced me when I found out, refusing to try to fix things. I so deeply desire a family, and a good relationship with a woman who truly loves the Lord. Since she divorced me without my agreeing to it, does this mean I've got a life sentence to the marital garbage can without a family for the rest of my life? I don't know, but I really hope not. I've done years of introspective examination and repentance for my part in the failed relationship, but I don't blame myself for what she did.

It breaks my heart still and i don't know what to do about it. It's beyond profoundly lonely. I'm dismayed that people see the word "divorced" next to my name (as I do when I see it next to others) because they will probably assume that I condone divorce or that I pursued or agreed to it. I don't ever feel it's truly justified, though I think God gave some grace to people in my situation. I really hope so. I guess it's just the way the cookie crumbles? :(
I'm sorry that happened to you.. I have never been married but I have much experience in things I have seen and it's not the same as doing it, I know but I have seen quite a lot. My parents were married for 36 years and my father was murdered in the process of committing adultery. I was almost married like almost right there at the altar but thank the Lord for God's grace, I always prayed about every relationship I got in and the guy left the relationship before the marriage happened... I didn't even have to leave him lol but afterwards I had a choice to take him back which I refused. My brother is going through a divorce and described it as feeling like death. I guess I question that too though.... Never being married and being in my mid thirties, it's hard to come across someone who has never been married or isn't divorced so am I wrong if I talk to someone who was married previously? And I haven't been married but I have children so am I forced to be alone because I fornicated in my past?.sometimes I feel that way.. I'm not sure but I know God forgives us and I believe there is a new life for any past mistakes we may have made (which my children aren't mistakes but the fornication was not of God). I believe God knows our hearts and it's never too late.. you may see yourself as divorced like it's a title but that doesn't define you. I never judge anyone because we all are prone to be led by our emotions at some point or another, it happens to the best of us... You recognize where you went wrong and then you change it....but you are still the Head and not the tail, you are still blessed and highly favored through the divorce, God loves you no less than He did before the divorce.. don't be so hard on yourself... It's ok.