Ohhhhh I wish being a new Christian came with a Handbook on dating LOL. I find myself with well-meaning friends that know I am both Christian and going thru a divorce, setting me up with 'friends' of theirs. They know my stance and it is firm. I don't want to date, perioud. The thought of it scares me. I didn't date my husband, in fact, I don't think I EVER 'dated'. Now, I find myself quite out of sorts when a man asks me out, even if just for a cup of coffee, to the point I get scared. Hmm not sure of what, however I react oddly, even to the point of rushing home to my dogs and crying, reminding them it is OK to bite strangers hahaha. So, less than a month to go before the divorce is final and my view is that I can not even CONSIDER dating, I can not see my views changing that much in a month.
Sadly, even compliments from men make me a bit uncomfortable. It may be that I view myself as still in a covenant with God, regardless if hubby is a part of it or not, or perhaps who knows. I have had ppl say "When you are divorced would you like to go out?" and my response is always... "Thank you however I can't think about it right now, I will honor my vows until GOD releases me, NOT hubby."
They can take that any way they want, however I believe if they have enough GOD in them, they will see God in that answer and be content with being friends. Even being alone with them NOT in a public place, holding hands, etc gives me the chills just thinking about it at this point to be honest.
I wish you luck, strength and wisdom.
God bless you.