Loneliness

[lilbittie]

On this Easter Day I am trying my hardest to not feel so lonely. Although I have known Christ my whole life, I completely surrendered to Jesus almost three years ago. Since then my family has turned against me including my mother, and I have been casted out. I have has zero contact with them. I lost every single one of my friends for one reason or another and I am finding it difficult to find new ones. It seems as if God is putting the block on me have any sort of social life. Granted I am in college full time and work and also a single mom so I don't have a lot of time for extensive relationships, especially dating, but friends? Has anyone gone through anything like this?

There are days that I am okay with this solitude and I am sure God is working on me and preparing me for the next season of my life. Other days I find myself crying asking God why. I have not a single person I can call and talk to. I sound pathetic I know but I still can't wrap my head around this. If there is anyone who has gone through this can you please share your story so I can have some words of encouragement?

 

[JJ140]

On this Easter Day I am trying my hardest to not feel so lonely. Although I have known Christ my whole life, I completely surrendered to Jesus almost three years ago. Since then my family has turned against me including my mother, and I have been casted out. I have has zero contact with them. I lost every single one of my friends for one reason or another and I am finding it difficult to find new ones. It seems as if God is putting the block on me have any sort of social life. Granted I am in college full time and work and also a single mom so I don't have a lot of time for extensive relationships, especially dating, but friends? Has anyone gone through anything like this?

There are days that I am okay with this solitude and I am sure God is working on me and preparing me for the next season of my life. Other days I find myself crying asking God why. I have not a single person I can call and talk to. I sound pathetic I know but I still can't wrap my head around this. If there is anyone who has gone through this can you please share your story so I can have some words of encouragement?

Loneliness is hard to deal with. You have had issues hit you from all directions. Sometimes you just have to say, "I am going to get through this." If you get depressed and settle, it is hard to change your situation. Keep praying and thank God in advance for your prayers to be answered.

 

[Ugly]

This is typical of many people. Being a single mom college student in her late 30s only takes what's normally difficult and makes it more difficult. Add to the level of judgment you may face as a single Christian parent. I've dated some and a few took a Lot of heat for it, regardless of the reasons why. But modern churches are so worldly it's not likely to be an issue anymore. Take note my point is Christians are often judgmental and the world doesn't care. Not saying you are worldly.
The problem is most church folk are too busy for friends or to do anything but run around being busy. Many churches neglect singles on top of that.
And usually the most social places are in bars, parties and the like.

Not the most encouraging post, but it's honest. But sometimes God pulls people away from us for a reason. Maybe that's what going on. Maybe it's not. But whether it's God doing it or just a collection of bad circumstances trust God will work it out, you may just have to sustain and be patient till then. Perhaps being here will help some for a while. As a person that's had trouble getting out much for years CC has helped with loneliness at times.

 

[ChristCenteredGirl]

I know it's certainly not easy. I applaud your attitude and willingness to surrender it all to Christ. Like you said, there isn't anything wrong with having solitude with God. Sometimes, God will cut people out of your life just so you and Him can have the quality one on one time. I don't know of one person who has never been through the pangs of loneliness. It sucks. But also remember that loneliness on earth is only temporary. There is a difference between being alone and experiencing loneliness. I am praying for you, that God will give you His peace and comfort. As well as assurance that you are never alone when you are with Him. I encourage you to read my post on loneliness and isolation down at my signature at the bottom. I hope it helps!

On this Easter Day I am trying my hardest to not feel so lonely. Although I have known Christ my whole life, I completely surrendered to Jesus almost three years ago. Since then my family has turned against me including my mother, and I have been casted out. I have has zero contact with them. I lost every single one of my friends for one reason or another and I am finding it difficult to find new ones. It seems as if God is putting the block on me have any sort of social life. Granted I am in college full time and work and also a single mom so I don't have a lot of time for extensive relationships, especially dating, but friends? Has anyone gone through anything like this?

There are days that I am okay with this solitude and I am sure God is working on me and preparing me for the next season of my life. Other days I find myself crying asking God why. I have not a single person I can call and talk to. I sound pathetic I know but I still can't wrap my head around this. If there is anyone who has gone through this can you please share your story so I can have some words of encouragement?

 

[everlasting_melody]

I actually just joined christianchat today for similar reasons. I didn't think i was going to get personal here but i just feel like if maybe if its any help, i can tell you that i've been living through similar circumstances for over a long time.

I was 12 when my parents had my little brother and we weren't exactly well off. My dad was disabled and my mother worked two jobs. I raised my little brother while going to high school, and decided not to go to college to take care of him (he was always sick and had a condition that kept him out of school for long periods). So during this period, i had no friends, my parents were always busy, and i was raising a child. I didn't get to make friends at work because life lead me to being able to work from home which i am so thankful for, but that limited the way i could meet people. I know how hard it is to maintain friendships when you are caring for a child, its hard to keep up since relationships take so much time and work, and you are just doing your best for this little one that you love more than life. Also sometimes its really hard for others to understand your struggles.

I know what its like to wish someone would notice you. But i can tell you confidently without a doubt, God notices you, he loves you more than you can even fathom. I can tell you with 100 percent certainty that he has not forgotten about you, and you are not an after thought to him.

I am 30 now, and I could never imagine that this little boy i cared for, grew up to be my best friend.

What helped me through it was practicing god's love for me personally. He is not somewhere far away where you can only access him when you die. He's right next to you in real time, even if you can't see him. When it hurts, tell him it hurts, when you are troubled, tell him all your burdens. And when you cry, know you are in his presence, and he does care.

In some of my loneliest times, i would say a little prayer and ask god to speak to me through his word, the bible. These are some of the bible verses that touched me the most and helped me through hard times.

Isaiah 43:18-19
“Forget the former things;do not dwell on the past.19See, I am doing a new thing!Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?I am making a way in the wildernessand streams in the wasteland.

psalm 58:5-6

A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows,is God in his holy dwelling.6God sets the lonely in families,

Psalm 27:10
Though my father and mother forsake me,the Lord will receive me.

Isaiah 43:1-3
Do not fear, for I have redeemed you;I have summoned you by name; you are mine.2When you pass through the waters,I will be with you;and when you pass through the rivers,they will not sweep over you.When you walk through the fire,you will not be burned;the flames will not set you ablaze.3For I am the Lord your God,the Holy One of Israel, your Savior;

I hope this has encouraged you in some way . Just know that you are part of a bigger family, believers who think of you as a sister and love you very much. Though that love can never beat the way that Jesus loves you.

 

[antoniomitchell]

I actually just joined christianchat today for similar reasons. I didn't think i was going to get personal here but i just feel like if maybe if its any help, i can tell you that i've been living through similar circumstances for over a long time.

I was 12 when my parents had my little brother and we weren't exactly well off. My dad was disabled and my mother worked two jobs. I raised my little brother while going to high school, and decided not to go to college to take care of him (he was always sick and had a condition that kept him out of school for long periods). So during this period, i had no friends, my parents were always busy, and i was raising a child. I didn't get to make friends at work because life lead me to being able to work from home which i am so thankful for, but that limited the way i could meet people. I know how hard it is to maintain friendships when you are caring for a child, its hard to keep up since relationships take so much time and work, and you are just doing your best for this little one that you love more than life. Also sometimes its really hard for others to understand your struggles.

I know what its like to wish someone would notice you. But i can tell you confidently without a doubt, God notices you, he loves you more than you can even fathom. I can tell you with 100 percent certainty that he has not forgotten about you, and you are not an after thought to him.

I am 30 now, and I could never imagine that this little boy i cared for, grew up to be my best friend.

What helped me through it was practicing god's love for me personally. He is not somewhere far away where you can only access him when you die. He's right next to you in real time, even if you can't see him. When it hurts, tell him it hurts, when you are troubled, tell him all your burdens. And when you cry, know you are in his presence, and he does care.

In some of my loneliest times, i would say a little prayer and ask god to speak to me through his word, the bible. These are some of the bible verses that touched me the most and helped me through hard times.

Isaiah 43:18-19
“Forget the former things;do not dwell on the past.19See, I am doing a new thing!Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?I am making a way in the wildernessand streams in the wasteland.

psalm 58:5-6

A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows,is God in his holy dwelling.6God sets the lonely in families,

Psalm 27:10
Though my father and mother forsake me,the Lord will receive me.

Isaiah 43:1-3
Do not fear, for I have redeemed you;I have summoned you by name; you are mine.2When you pass through the waters,I will be with you;and when you pass through the rivers,they will not sweep over you.When you walk through the fire,you will not be burned;the flames will not set you ablaze.3For I am the Lord your God,the Holy One of Israel, your Savior;

I hope this has encouraged you in some way . Just know that you are part of a bigger family, believers who think of you as a sister and love you very much. Though that love can never beat the way that Jesus loves you.

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[tourist]

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[tourist]

On this Easter Day I am trying my hardest to not feel so lonely. Although I have known Christ my whole life, I completely surrendered to Jesus almost three years ago. Since then my family has turned against me including my mother, and I have been casted out. I have has zero contact with them. I lost every single one of my friends for one reason or another and I am finding it difficult to find new ones. It seems as if God is putting the block on me have any sort of social life. Granted I am in college full time and work and also a single mom so I don't have a lot of time for extensive relationships, especially dating, but friends? Has anyone gone through anything like this?

There are days that I am okay with this solitude and I am sure God is working on me and preparing me for the next season of my life. Other days I find myself crying asking God why. I have not a single person I can call and talk to. I sound pathetic I know but I still can't wrap my head around this. If there is anyone who has gone through this can you please share your story so I can have some words of encouragement?

I will pray for God to address your loneliness in a positive way. Ugly offered wise counsel.

 

[Daylilies]

Hi lilbittie!

Just wanted to reach out to say that I am praying for you. Loneliness can be overwhelming sometimes, I think we have all experienced it at one time or another, so don't feel like you sound pathetic - you definitely don't! I am in school full-time too and find it really difficult to balance school, work and time with my family; trying to have a social life seems like one more thing to do. One of the things that I find helps me most when I feel lonely is to do some sort of volunteer work. It's a nice way to meet people and helps me to take a break from school. Maybe you could check into opportunities to meet new people through school, too? Maybe a nontraditional student group or something associated with your major?

Hang in there! Oh, and check out Ryan Stevenson's "Eye of the Storm" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-sx8wTnnfSc - it's one of my favorite go-to songs when I feel sad or overwhelmed. - Daylilies