Parting ways with the one!!

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CBforJC

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I'm madly in love with this girl Ive only know for 6 months and have no doubt she is perfect for me. But out of nowhere she tells me she doesn't feel God wants her in a relationship. She still loves me I know it she's told me and wants to continue being a part of my life. But I feel God is telling me this is the reason she's in my life. And it's causing me to resent God for making her feel this when I think she is the one I've been looking for my whole life and we are a perfect team together. Where do I go from here as I am losing faith...?
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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Does it have to be now or never? Becoming embittered towards something she values (God) because you can't have her is likely to inhibit your chances.
 
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WUKONG

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Do not blame God or hate Him because of that really simple thing. It may seem BIG to you because, you know, you're in love. But if such a simple thing would cause you to thwart your faith and hate God, how much more if someone points a gun at you and shoots you if you don't deny God?

Be strong my dear brother. Boy-girl love is your own situation. And the girl's not ready for a relationship yet. Let her be. She just wants to be friends with you. Don't hate God. He loves you so much and is maybe telling you to wait for the right girl. The girl you love is Christian doesn't mean she is for you. Wait for the one. I used to hate God when my first relationship broke apart. Years later I began to realize who God truly is, knew Him, got baptized, said my sorries and all, and continued my devotion and relationship with Him, and I never asked to find the girl He wants me to be with. I just prayed that He in His own time and place will give me the wife He wants me to have. After years of patiently improving my relationship with God not asking for anything besides waiting, He gave me my wife. Worth the wait? Yes.

If I hated God then and avoided Him? Well would He have given me the best woman in the world for me? Surely not.

Trust me I have experienced that. And the worst thing I did was to place even a little ounce of hate for God from what happened to me "in my own choices". For you she is perfect, but for God she's not cause nobody's perfect. And He chooses the right one for you. Not "you" choose the right one for "you". God controls your life and chooses His gifts to you. Be patient, my brother.

But ultimately, trust God. Let Him give you the girl you deserve my strong brother in Christ. ;)
 
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Shawn2516

Shawn2516

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I'm madly in love with this girl Ive only know for 6 months and have no doubt she is perfect for me.
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All the reason why you should sit and wait. Your not thinking straight or clearly. Your basically rushing into a relationship because your getting strong feelings for a girl. Every man has had strong feelings for a girl at 1 point in time or another, and rushing things during this time phase, when your addicted to her, is not good. Your better off getting to know her first.

But out of nowhere she tells me she doesn't feel God wants her in a relationship. She still loves me I know it she's told me and wants to continue being a part of my life. But I feel God is telling me this is the reason she's in my life.
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Is that what God said, or is that what you feel? Because it sounds like you want to use your strong feelings, to justify that God said something to you, otherwise, why would you feel that way?

And it's causing me to resent God for making her feel this when I think she is the one I've been looking for my whole life and we are a perfect team together.
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When you keep saying perfect, it throws up so many red flags. No one has a perfect team or a perfect relationship. There are really good and efficient ones, but perfect? No. What your basically seeing is the lovely dovey phase. Where everything she does is beautiful, everything she says is smart, everything she does you laugh at.

Also, I don't know why its causing you to resent God, as if he is the one causing you suffering?

Where do I go from here as I am losing faith...?
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Sounds like your not putting your faith in God, but in your feelings.
 
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Ugly

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I thought I had found the girl I should be with. Prayed and it seemed I was always being guided to her. Even when I wanted to walk away at times. So o stick with it. When she broke up with me I still felt confident God wanted us together. Jump ahead to now. We aren't even friends. We went almost 6 months without speaking. When she tried to contact me I didn't respond.
It's easy to convince ourselves what we want is God's will.
And I do understand because I was doubtful at first. I spent months questioning the direction I was sent before believing God was talking to me. And ice heard of many others in similar situations.
Truth is feelings, even strong ones, are not an indicator of God's will, only ours.
 
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