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    Recently I've had "Adoption" heavy in my heart, I in the season of self growth while waiting for my boaz ♥️ Do any of you went into marriage wanting adoption and did your partner as well or how was it dealt with ? Any thoughts ?

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    If it's something you would feel called to do in your marriage, by all means, let any potential men know before you're married . They'll either respect and agree or not, and if you feel it is a big enough deal you can decide based on that.
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    Yes of course I feel communication and confirmation prayer are key in situations like these Thank you
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    Personally, if I were married, I would like to adopt in addition to trying to have our own biological children. There are adopted children in my extended family, and they are a blessing. Of course if I had a husband, I would have to be on the same page as he is. He may not be on board with adoption. If it is something you are called to do, like Tinuviel says, by all means talk about it with your potential mate when you are dating.

    God bless you for working with abused children, that is a tough job- spiritually, emotionally, mentally. There are so many children who need loving homes.

    On a sad side note, I heard on the radio that there are a million people on waiting lists, waiting to adopt babies. And a million babies are aborted every year. How tragic.

    It sounds like you are interested in adopting older children. If you are interested in adopting a baby one day, the best way is to go through foster care then adopt.
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    Most definitely, It's so rewarding and I give glory to God through the struggle and challenges I face. Thank you for your input ♥️
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    I thought about it once when I had the resources,but I'm just not the type,I figure that at least I'm aware of my limitations.
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    Hey Vi, God bless you for considering adoption.

    I am adopted and my parents happen to be white, which obviously causes mass confusion for a lot of people who see my family together... but we seem to have managed.

    If you're interested in adopting a baby, I would also suggest to perhaps look into international adoption. The very reason my own parents did this was because at the time, it was a 5-7 year wait for a domestic adoption, but 2-5 years for an international adoption. It took them about 2 1/2 years to get me. However, I know a lot has changed since then, and these days, you might be required to make several trips to your child's home country (at the time, my parents were not required to do this.)

    At one time in my life, I had hoped to have a family through both birth and adoption, but since that hasn't worked out, I participate in my old adoption agency's sponsorship program instead.

    My adoption files say that I was found in a cardboard box in front of a theater and taken to the police, and then the adoption agency. I don't know if this is actually true though, as I've recently read that many of these stories are prettied up. Most often, in the country I came from, it's really a case of an "accidental" baby who would be seen as a shame to the family, and so they are quietly disposed of in some way or another. God bless you for being open to adopting children like me.

    I was able to visit my old adoption agency in 1994, and talk about a heartbreaking experience. One of the things I've often asked God is why He would choose to rescue me when there are SO many other kids out there. I always feel a need to somehow give back, even if it's in a small way.

    It might be very possible that you might do well adopting on your own? I've known two other adoptees whose mothers adopted them on their own and never married. Neither one of these girls I met had ever felt like they were missing something even though they'd never had a father.

    I'm always amazed at how God knits families together is so many different ways, and maybe He has a unique plan for you and your future family as well.

    Please PM me if you would like--I'd be happy to give you the name of my former adoption agency, as well as any other information I might be able to help you with.
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    Oh my heart ❤️ Feels full. Thank you so much for sharing this I salute your testimony I advocate for neglected and abused children and I've been feeling that in my heart for awhile now I will get in touch with you in the near future
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    I have a desire to adopt and/or foster when I get married as well. I just love the idea of it.
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    My mom and dad couldn't have kids so they adopted. So me and all of my brothers and sisters are all adopted. They got my two older brothers as babies. Then they decided that they wanted to adopted a girl. And they ended up adopting a sibling group of three girls. Then later on down the road they adopted one more girl. My parents say that they are glad that they adopted all of us. So if you have the time and money. And once you are married then I'd say go for it. Because kids cost a lot of time and money. And it's better if you have a for life partner who is there to help you. Plus kids do better with a mom and a dad. So good luck to you. And God bless.

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    What a blessing.. thank you
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    I am glad to see that there are more people out there who care about those that are abused. I'm the middle girl in the sibling group of three. When we were adopted my older sister was 7 I was 5 and the youngest was 2. When Amy parents adopted us it was the best thing that ever happened to us. Because we had been in so many foster homes and had been abused so much. We had been abanded, sexually abused, and had so much more done to and had happened to us that people were about ready to separate us. If some one did take us.

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    I wouldn't mind adopting kids not because I myself am adopted( by my father's side of the family by my uncle and aunt,started out on my mother's side of the family,with my mother.)but because so many children need a home that has "Love" because so many are born yet many are abandoned sometimes there after or abused when they did nothing wrong,they never asked to be born after all,so there are many children who need a loving home because of such decisions by their birth parent or parents,and nothing wrong with adopting when you feel a longing to help a child,no matter their age or cultural differences,what matters is either do you wish to have and care for a child or is God reaching out to you to help a child,normally I would say when you are called only by God to do so but considering this ultimately is your choice or anyone's choice to make, it can still work out if you adopt because you simply desire to,because as long as you keep God close to your heart and strive to do right by the child then you need not fret over the details of why you adopted the child,but rather let God guide you once raising the child and things will be alright(I say this because naturally you'll have a fight or disagreement down the line with the child,but that's all apart of parenting so no big deal lol!)For me nothing would deter me from adopting a child,not unruliness,not cultural boundaries,not age,not even if they believed differently than I do toward God,to me it's all about compassion,learning,and guidance and Most of all caring for the child even if for a time they may not care for me at all,why? because I've been through physical,emotional and spiritual abuse,and I wish for no child to have to suffer as I have,even if I could only help one child out of countless,I would be glad and grateful to have tried my best for the child alongside God no matter what the end result might be!
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