“Few tasks are more like the torture of Sisyphus than housework, with its endless repetition: the clean becomes soiled, the soiled is made clean, over and over, day after day.” —Simone de Beauvoir
I have to say I never minded keeping my house clean. I like doing my own work for myself. The responsibility and ownership comes with the territory. In fact, I am a zealous cleaner. When I start to do something, it has to be the best, most clean state that I can achieve.
This made me think of relationships and I realized, as much as I liked cleaning, I would have no patience with someone who didn’t take up their share of chores.
This might seem trivial in the larger scheme of things. There can be bigger decisions like settling accounts or deciding if anyone has to move to join their significant other.
However if your partner can’t help you in the drudgery, household everyday tasks of life, there’s no point in even continuing a relationship (at least for me).
I am all about splitting tasks 50/50. I can forgive, ignore and handle guests who just want to relax at my place but if someone were to live with me as a life partner, they would have to do their share.
I guess it would be different if someone has elected to specifically stay at home and be a house spouse. However I did have a conversation with someone on CC, who confided that some of the biggest relationship troubles they had witnessed was on matters like, who would clean the dishes, who would take the trash out etc.
According to a study from Indiana University, chores are still gender determined, and in many households, women do the bulk of the housework.
Even when women earned higher wages than their partners, they still had responsibilities towards child care (if they had children).
If things like this play such a significant part in bitterness and souring of relationships, have you worked such a scenario in your mind?
Would your rather have a “traditional” marriage where the man works and the woman stays at home to clean. Or are you more modern and you would like to help out and split tasks?
I suppose for people who have been single longer, been through relationships and are older, this may not even be a big issue. [I can’t say]
I would rather prefer my independence than being tied to someone who could not contribute to a comfortable lifestyle.
Thoughts?
I have to say I never minded keeping my house clean. I like doing my own work for myself. The responsibility and ownership comes with the territory. In fact, I am a zealous cleaner. When I start to do something, it has to be the best, most clean state that I can achieve.
This made me think of relationships and I realized, as much as I liked cleaning, I would have no patience with someone who didn’t take up their share of chores.
This might seem trivial in the larger scheme of things. There can be bigger decisions like settling accounts or deciding if anyone has to move to join their significant other.
However if your partner can’t help you in the drudgery, household everyday tasks of life, there’s no point in even continuing a relationship (at least for me).
I am all about splitting tasks 50/50. I can forgive, ignore and handle guests who just want to relax at my place but if someone were to live with me as a life partner, they would have to do their share.
I guess it would be different if someone has elected to specifically stay at home and be a house spouse. However I did have a conversation with someone on CC, who confided that some of the biggest relationship troubles they had witnessed was on matters like, who would clean the dishes, who would take the trash out etc.
According to a study from Indiana University, chores are still gender determined, and in many households, women do the bulk of the housework.
Even when women earned higher wages than their partners, they still had responsibilities towards child care (if they had children).
If things like this play such a significant part in bitterness and souring of relationships, have you worked such a scenario in your mind?
Would your rather have a “traditional” marriage where the man works and the woman stays at home to clean. Or are you more modern and you would like to help out and split tasks?
I suppose for people who have been single longer, been through relationships and are older, this may not even be a big issue. [I can’t say]
I would rather prefer my independence than being tied to someone who could not contribute to a comfortable lifestyle.
Thoughts?