Pain to understand Someone

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JayBlue

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How does one person understand another. Usually it's when those two people have something in common. But there are billions of people in the world. Many of which we have things in common with... but we cannot understand them... and they cannot understand us. Why can't people understand? Is it the language barrier? The color of our skin? A difference in morals?


Maybe...
There are probably more reasons why.


But there are the things that we all do have in common.
We are human.
We can bleed.
... We feel pain.
We feel it emotionally, mentally, spiritually, physically. We feel pain. We can relate to anyone with that feeling of pain. God knew that this was one very important thing for us to feel, cause without pain, would we be able to help anyone? Would we be able to understand anyone?


Jesus felt this pain too, the day he died on the cross. Perhaps he understands us better than we know.




Thoughts anyone? Feel free to add to this :)


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:) I wrote this in 10 minutes. I might not be conveying what I want to say accurately.
 
Lynx

Lynx

Folksy yet erudite
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Aug 13, 2014
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Why did I walk through the valley
Why was I forced to my knees
Why did the sun parch and dry me
As I walked through the desert of defeat
Then came the clouds and the rain fell
I thought I'd never make it through the night
But God gave me the answer when I prayed with you
He let me see the dark to hold a light

Now I can kneel with a brother
Who is bearing a burden
And say I know just what you're going through
I can pray with a sister
In the midst of her sorrow
And say I know because I've been there too
I can put my arm around
Someone who is down
And tell him to have faith and confidence
What in pain I could not see
I now fully believe
God prepared me for such a time as this"
 
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CallmeQ

Guest
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#4
The biggest limiter to our ability to understand others, is ourselves. To understand someone you have to want to. You have to honestly be willing to look at things from there perspective. Not just a passing curiousity, but a true desire to know.

To a point, the ability to understand someone, is tied to your ability to love them.
 
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Galatea

Guest
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I think Q is probably pretty accurate. We have to get out of our own ways and try to see events from the other person's perspective. But even then, that can be limiting. We can TRY to walk a mile in another's shoes, but I don't believe we can really ever see things completely from another's perspective. We haven't had their experiences. I would imagine that siblings close in age and raised together can understand each other best. To a large extent, they have most things in common- a common upbringing in your formative years is pretty binding. It's really hard for us to get in the head space of an Islamic terrorist. We can see things from his perspective to a degree, but not completely, because we have not had his experiences. I heard a former radical Muslim speak, and he was able to communicate why these guys get caught up in thinking jihad is noble. It was enlightening to me. Many times, we think it is motivated by a one way ticket to Paradise with 72 virgins, but that is not really it at all. Many radical Islamists think that jihad will make the world better. They are being martyrs for the future civilization of the world, when the whole world will be Muslim and worship the true god, Allah. It is horrific behavior, evil, but it is understandable in a way.

It is like Christians who evangelize, we believe Christ is the only way, so we try to witness to others. Many people who are antiChristian think we are seeking to control everyone and make people conform. If they understood that we believe that unless they know Christ, they will go to Hell and that witnessing is an act of love, then we might be understood better. Perhaps atheists and agnostics would still hate proseltyizing and think it was all brainwash, but they might be able to understand us better if they could see things from our perspective.

I think there has to be a willingness or an ability to communicate, too. For example, if people are able to explain why they feel or or think, then the other person can understand. I used to work at a mental hospital for children. Sometimes, they were quite violent with themselves, other children, or staff. We had one child who became violent at the same time every day before bedtime. She refused to go to bed. She would fight us and I remember once being bitten by her and blood being drawn. She was able to tell the therapist that the reason why she hated going to bed was because that was when she was abused. It made her fearful, and the fear was manifested in anger and violence. It helped us understand why she did what she did.
 
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JoDel

Guest
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#7
Understanding requires the ability to accept the right to another's opinion on something with which you don't agree. Understanding and comprehending are sometimes mistaken for one another. Comprehension is from the brain which allows you to make sense of..."what ever". ~ Understanding is from the heart which allows you to love even if you can't comprehend.
 
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