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Tinuviel

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misskayanne said:
Does anyone else just get really down about being single? I'm almost 30 and have been single for 3 years, and it isn't for lack of trying. I have dated many people and it never evolves into more. I am beginning to believe that I will never find anyone to marry, and that devastates me :( I don't know what I'm doing wrong or why it seems no one wants me...just feeling so alone right now and miserable...
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Yep, I do. Some people really look down on me for saying that at 18, but there it is. I'd like to get married. God knows that, I try to leave it in His hands. When I feel alone, I pray. I've spent up to 3 hours just praying, and it really does help.
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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misskayanne said:
Does anyone else just get really down about being single? I'm almost 30 and have been single for 3 years, and it isn't for lack of trying. I have dated many people and it never evolves into more. I am beginning to believe that I will never find anyone to marry, and that devastates me :( I don't know what I'm doing wrong or why it seems no one wants me...just feeling so alone right now and miserable...
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It sounds more like you're down about feeling rejected, unwanted, not as much about being single. Most people, probably, would be pretty melancholy about that.

I can't relate to being bummed over being single, but my heart goes out to you. There are some decent guys here, for what it's worth.
 
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Tinuviel

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Siberian_Khatru said:
It sounds more like you're down about feeling rejected, unwanted, not as much about being single. Most people, probably, would be pretty melancholy about that.

I can't relate to being bummed over being single, but my heart goes out to you. There are some decent guys here, for what it's worth.
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Calling Blue_ladybug, calling blue_ladybug. ;D
 
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CaptainGoat

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misskayanne said:
Does anyone else just get really down about being single? I'm almost 30 and have been single for 3 years, and it isn't for lack of trying. I have dated many people and it never evolves into more. I am beginning to believe that I will never find anyone to marry, and that devastates me :( I don't know what I'm doing wrong or why it seems no one wants me...just feeling so alone right now and miserable...
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How are things? You are a very pretty young lady so dont worry. Your chances are great of finding a nice young man! Hope all works out for you! God bless!
 
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Rachel20 said:
It's better to be single than to be in a wrong relationship - one that could be mediocre, pathetic, boring, insipid and settling for less.
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I like that word 'insipid'. What's it mean?
 
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I have my moments, but it doesn't overtake me. I'm content with being single, but like I said, I have some moments.
 
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WIJeff

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misskayanne said:
Does anyone else just get really down about being single? I'm almost 30 and have been single for 3 years, and it isn't for lack of trying. I have dated many people and it never evolves into more. I am beginning to believe that I will never find anyone to marry, and that devastates me :( I don't know what I'm doing wrong or why it seems no one wants me...just feeling so alone right now and miserable...
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yep, I"m 50 and feel same way. Seems like nobody is interested and wonder if nobody cares.
You're not alone.
 
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CaptainGoat

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Aww people. There is nothing impossible to God!
 
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Gosh girl, dating is tough. I severely dislike it because most of the time it just seems like a waste of time. I was researching another option: courting at this site "https://www.gotquestions.org/difference-dating-courting.html". And then after reading that article, it sounds like a dating/courting hybrid would be a good fit. And I'm also an old fashioned girl and like the guy to make the first move. Ugh, it's tough and I feel for you. I just keep praying for my future husband...that he finds me. And then I leave the rest up to God. Let me ask you, how are you finding the guys that you've been dating?
 
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misskayanne said:
Does anyone else just get really down about being single? I'm almost 30 and have been single for 3 years, and it isn't for lack of trying. I have dated many people and it never evolves into more. I am beginning to believe that I will never find anyone to marry, and that devastates me :( I don't know what I'm doing wrong or why it seems no one wants me...just feeling so alone right now and miserable...
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I'm almost 42, never been married. I'm finally in a relationship that feels like it will last. But I went through a Lot of heartbreak first. So much so that my last gf hurt me so badly I hated the idea of dating. I was broken.
Different people have different stories and journeys to take. Some pleasant and some painful. But at the end of the day God knows if He even wants us to marry or not (marriage is never promised) and if so if we are ready.
I spent many years believing I was ready. But this recent relationship has shown in me personal growth that is fairly recent. Much of it came from the lessons I learned it past relationships.
When I joined this site 6 years ago i felt like you. Worse, actually. But one thing I learned is not to waste your life wishing and waiting for something that may or may not happen. I spent much of my life wallowing in misery about being single. Total waste.
So, yes, I can relate. But I also have the experience to know that you'll feel better when you learn to enjoy where you are, instead.
Lastly I don't go on dates. I make friends. Sometimes with the hope of it evolving into more. Sometimes expecting nothing. I hate the idea of going through throngs of random people hoping one sticks. Sounds so insincere. I find it much better to make a friend and see if that goes somewhere or not.
 
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