How Many Relationships Have You Had?

[LittleBit1987]

Not ALL women are the same....

Some guys tend to forget that fact.... we are created the same way men are. Only our jobs are different. And it also depends on what certain women have gone through in their lives. So it's not that we are "cold" but we are "cautious" cause of our up bringing, or what we dealt with in the past.

If that were the case, I would be running away from everything all the time and never face my fears or talk to god about anything. Cause that was my childhood. But we can Always change... it just depends on what the lord guides us to do and how we take that role.

Just a thought.

 

[Reborn]

I've been in 2...many serious relationships.

9 - 2 be exact.

Each 1 of them taught me something new and exciting about life.
1 was my 1st GF.
1 remains in my thoughts daily.
1 still haunts me.
1 made me want 2 live every 2nd 2 the fullest.
1 made me feel dead inside.
1 is the Mother of the greatest daughter ever.
1 opened my eyes 2 a whole new culture.
1 made me feel as though l deserve 2 be loved, that same 1 later on made me feel like l deserve 2 be hated.
... and 1 is still my best friend after 25 yrs.

In all, I've spent 20+ yrs of my life with these women...each 1 completely different from the others.
... and l still don't know Jack about women.

 

[seoulsearch]

My problem is, I love women too much. The one I married for life, broke me.

You're certainly not alone, Tommy.

My husband divorced me for his girlfriend in 1999. He eventually remarried and had the kids I had dreamed of having with him, but with another woman. Basically, he took the life we had dreamed about and talked about together... and lived it out with someone else.

I've always said that when he left, he ripped out my soul and took it with him, and I've spent all these umpteen years ever since trying to grow a new one back. It wasn't just about him--it was about what my life was like during that time with him, and it felt like he took all that away without so much as glancing back.

I was always dazed by the fact that someone can go from being your spouse one day to literally being a stranger in the world the next. That they can go from promising you forever, to not even if you live or die (and probably preferring that you'd die, because it would make it easier and less expensive for them.)

People have been very kind to me over the years and said, "You could get a guy... No problem..." but the answer in my head is always, "Maybe so... It's just that I can't have the one I married."

Hang in there and keep talking to us. I know it's painful and slow and horrible, and the hours tick away like years.

But God is going to get you through this, day by day. Keep hanging with us and tell us what's going on.

These past couple of polls have really made me think about how much of a difference we all might be making for others when we share and write posts or threads--they're giving people who need hope some kind of personal interaction every day.

We have a lot of lonely people here who are going through some really tough times, and they come here daily for a little bit of comfort and someone to talk to. It's that painfully slow journey of walking out our faith in the worst of times, day after day.

We all know it's not easy. But hopefully, we can all keep on going... together.

 

[shineyourlight]

I've had 10 haha.

None of the options apply to me.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I lost count.

 

[zeroturbulence]

..of my crushes

 

[Yahweh_is_gracious]

I read something the other day I thought was oddly funny:

You never really lose a person in a relationship. You can't lose them because you never had them. All you lose is your turn with them.

I got a chuckle out of it because it hits one of those parts of me that is still sore after all of these years. I laugh past those pains now though.

 

[Lighthearted]

My problem is, I love women too much. The one I married for life, broke me.

This goes both ways...Im not broken though...Im just cracked and dented a little bit in a good way...I call it self preservation!

 

[Tommy379]

I still ask my wife out on dates. She says no, but I ain't no quitter.

 

[Lighthearted]

I still ask my wife out on dates. She says no, but I ain't no quitter.[/QUOTE
Check out thread "Back to square one"

 

[Conversationand]

I read something the other day I thought was oddly funny:

You never really lose a person in a relationship. You can't lose them because you never had them. All you lose is your turn with them.

Been reading that TRP material? That stuff will rot your brain.

I've had no relationships. Many "why not" entries by women, but never an earnest contender.

 

[Yahweh_is_gracious]

Been reading that TRP material? That stuff will rot your brain.

I've had no relationships. Many "why not" entries by women, but never an earnest contender.

TRP material? I don't follow. Please explain.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

I still ask my wife out on dates. She says no, but I ain't no quitter.

Maybe she is a narcissist. They just don't care and you just care too much which could be a sign of codependency. Codependents are their favorites. No contact is the best revenge for a narcissist. Its like giving them a taste of their own medicine. Its not really revenge but a lesson for them for them to grow or change but its very unlikely.

 

[Socreta93]

Why isn't there a zero option? Or people just assume "theres someone out there for everyone"?

 

[Tommy379]

Maybe she is a narcissist. They just don't care and you just care too much which could be a sign of codependency. Codependents are their favorites. No contact is the best revenge for a narcissist. Its like giving them a taste of their own medicine. Its not really revenge but a lesson for them for them to grow or change but its very unlikely.

Yeah, but we have children, and she has been talking to some adulterer in Utah. What an awful state.

 

[seoulsearch]

Why isn't there a zero option? Or people just assume "theres someone out there for everyone"?

When I made the poll about how long everyone had been single, I made several options for people who had never been in relationships.

Since I assumed it was covered in that poll, I didn't think there was a need to repeat it again here. I've learned my lesson!

Next time, I shall be sure to include another "I've Never Been in a Relationship" option.

 

[joefizz]

how many relationships have I had????
let's see 2 times 5 minus seven carry the one divide by 1 times again by 3 count sheep in the pasture,drive around the bend,count the lines on the roads,buy a sweet tea,go back home,throw out all my calculations,and just simply tell the honest well rounded number of....
0

 

[mochi]

I never into relationship until i met my now bf around 1.5 years ago

 

[Lighthearted]

You're certainly not alone, Tommy.

My husband divorced me for his girlfriend in 1999. He eventually remarried and had the kids I had dreamed of having with him, but with another woman. Basically, he took the life we had dreamed about and talked about together... and lived it out with someone else.

I've always said that when he left, he ripped out my soul and took it with him, and I've spent all these umpteen years ever since trying to grow a new one back. It wasn't just about him--it was about what my life was like during that time with him, and it felt like he took all that away without so much as glancing back.

I was always dazed by the fact that someone can go from being your spouse one day to literally being a stranger in the world the next. That they can go from promising you forever, to not even if you live or die (and probably preferring that you'd die, because it would make it easier and less expensive for them.)

People have been very kind to me over the years and said, "You could get a guy... No problem..." but the answer in my head is always, "Maybe so... It's just that I can't have the one I married."

Hang in there and keep talking to us. I know it's painful and slow and horrible, and the hours tick away like years.

But God is going to get you through this, day by day. Keep hanging with us and tell us what's going on.

These past couple of polls have really made me think about how much of a difference we all might be making for others when we share and write posts or threads--they're giving people who need hope some kind of personal interaction every day.

We have a lot of lonely people here who are going through some really tough times, and they come here daily for a little bit of comfort and someone to talk to. It's that painfully slow journey of walking out our faith in the worst of times, day after day.

We all know it's not easy. But hopefully, we can all keep on going... together.

Preaching to the choir sister...I hear ya! She's right Tommy!

 

[BruceWayne]

I've had 12 that I can count.

* Do internet "relationships" count if you never meet the person in real life?

Sure. I don't see why not. I would assume that if you never meet them, it was a failed relationship though.

* Does spending a lot of time with someone in real life count as a relationship, or does it have to cross over into holding hands/kissing, etc., in order to "count"?

It's some form of relationship, but not a romantic one imo.