Worst mistake singles make (the dinner story)

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Rosemaryx

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Lynx said:
There is a mistake I have seen many single people making... but first let me tell you about this dinner I went to last night. I swear it's connected to the mistake.

A friend's church was having a dinner, and being a friend of this church member I was invited. I am not one to lightly pass up a free dinner at a church, as that is usually where the really good food is to be found. And I was expecting some really good food at this dinner because my friend had told me of a cake that one of the church ladies bakes, and he had reason to believe it would make an appearance last night.

You know what an italian creme cake is? Basically it's a really good cake, soaked down with sweetened cream, covered in cream cheese/nut/coconut icing. And it's usually three layers. Now imagine that in a chocolate version. That's the kind of cake my friend was telling me about, and I couldn't wait to try it.

Unfortunately it seems that lady wasn't feeling too well yesterday and she didn't even come to the dinner, much less make that cake. Man, I was upset! I'd been anticipating this cake for DAYS and it didn't show. I was so upset that I didn't eat much that night. There was a lot of good food there, I guess, but I was so hung up on that cake that I didn't get much on my plate. And what I got, I kind of just picked at. I kept watching the door, hoping that lady would show up with that cake in spite of the odds. I missed a great meal because I was too busy wishing for the cake I didn't have.

Sound silly? Yeah, it would be silly if it really happened. But that's the way I see it when people get so hung up on getting married that they miss their whole lives.

I see it a lot. In fact most of the single people I know (most = more than half,) talk a lot about trying to find a date, trying to hash things out with their date, trying to get themselves and their significant others straightened out so they can get married without divorcing the next day, trying to get over a break-up, trying to find a new date... and they let their WHOLE LIVES go by. They miss their lives because they spend all their energy trying to get that one thing they don't have that they think will make those lives complete.

To anybody who is single and unhappy because you are single, I say that life is a big long table full of great things to try. If you keep focusing on that one thing you think is missing, you are going to miss the whole meal - your whole life will go by before you know it, and you will have missed almost all of it.

Bon appetite!
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Hi Lynx...I have to tell you this...As i was reading down your post i was crying laughing :D I have not laughed like that in a while with such a funny story...I had visions of you in my head as i was reading it, then it turned all serious, it was good while it lasted, but i get what your saying...xox...
 
tourist

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Lynx said:
Yeah but I described that mythical cake so well that now I wish it was real. It sounds delicious...
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Invite this lady to your home asking her to bring the cake and you'll cook the dinner. Afterwards, you can enjoy the cake for dessert. Of course, if she's married don't do this. For dinner nuke something in the microwave and for dessert eat a chocolate Twinkie.
 
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tourist said:
Invite this lady to your home asking her to bring the cake and you'll cook the dinner. Afterwards, you can enjoy the cake for dessert. Of course, if she's married don't do this. For dinner nuke something in the microwave and for dessert eat a chocolate Twinkie.
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The lady was made up...lol as was the cake. It all came from his imagination.
 
Pipp

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Lookie what I found....

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JonahLynx

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Another analogy is that you were asked to bring icing for the cake, and so you go and wait for an indefinite period of time for the cake to show up. But after an hour you wonder if you wasted your money. Personally I was gonna enjoy my dinner regardless, just give me back my $4.00.
 
Lynx

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tourist said:
Invite this lady to your home asking her to bring the cake and you'll cook the dinner. Afterwards, you can enjoy the cake for dessert. Of course, if she's married don't do this. For dinner nuke something in the microwave and for dessert eat a chocolate Twinkie.
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A WHAT?! We speak of homemade desserts and you mention a chocolate twi... twin... I just can't say that word. I have tried those and they are neither chocolate nor cake.
 
tourist

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Lynx said:
A WHAT?! We speak of homemade desserts and you mention a chocolate twi... twin... I just can't say that word. I have tried those and they are neither chocolate nor cake.
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They do have creamy filling though, of some sort.
 
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That sounds similar to a tres leches cake
 
Lynx

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Maybe it was a hybrid. All I know is what a lady at my church used to make and she called it italian creme cake. Man, it was good! If it had been chocolate... Oh, if only it had been chocolate!
 
christian74

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Lynx said:
There was a lot of good food there, I guess, but I was so hung up on that cake that I didn't get much on my plate.
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It was a great way to illustrate your point - and at the same time, personally I would just go for another plate if I had room for dessert..



seoulsearch said:
I think so many of us singles look at marriage the exact same way--we think we're going to get a fluffy, answer-to-all-our problems, sugary confection with a Walt Disney happily-ever-after ending.

But real life (including marriage) just isn't nearly as delicious as we sometimes fantasize it to be, and unfortunately, the unrealistic expectation also seem to contribute to why a lot of marriages then break up.
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Spot on - thinking meeting the "one" (usually people will conclude he/she is the one when there's chemistry and chemistry is usually present in the beginning) and thinking getting married will solve all of his/her problems.



Pipp said:
The lady was made up...lol as was the cake. It all came from his imagination.
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Well Pipp.. I don't know about that - the story sounds too legit to be made up - perhaps it is based on a true story? If not, then Lynx definitely got the talent and should consider writing.
 
Lynx

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The italian creme cake a lady at my church made was real. The rest, including the chocolate, was fiction. The real cake would have been an awesome cake if it had been chocolate.

For the record, you sound like a friend of mine. He never eats dessert because, "If I have room for dessert, I have room for another pork chop."
 
Lighthearted

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Lynx said:
There is a mistake I have seen many single people making... but first let me tell you about this dinner I went to last night. I swear it's connected to the mistake.

A friend's church was having a dinner, and being a friend of this church member I was invited. I am not one to lightly pass up a free dinner at a church, as that is usually where the really good food is to be found. And I was expecting some really good food at this dinner because my friend had told me of a cake that one of the church ladies bakes, and he had reason to believe it would make an appearance last night.

You know what an italian creme cake is? Basically it's a really good cake, soaked down with sweetened cream, covered in cream cheese/nut/coconut icing. And it's usually three layers. Now imagine that in a chocolate version. That's the kind of cake my friend was telling me about, and I couldn't wait to try it.

Unfortunately it seems that lady wasn't feeling too well yesterday and she didn't even come to the dinner, much less make that cake. Man, I was upset! I'd been anticipating this cake for DAYS and it didn't show. I was so upset that I didn't eat much that night. There was a lot of good food there, I guess, but I was so hung up on that cake that I didn't get much on my plate. And what I got, I kind of just picked at. I kept watching the door, hoping that lady would show up with that cake in spite of the odds. I missed a great meal because I was too busy wishing for the cake I didn't have.

Sound silly? Yeah, it would be silly if it really happened. But that's the way I see it when people get so hung up on getting married that they miss their whole lives.

I see it a lot. In fact most of the single people I know (most = more than half,) talk a lot about trying to find a date, trying to hash things out with their date, trying to get themselves and their significant others straightened out so they can get married without divorcing the next day, trying to get over a break-up, trying to find a new date... and they let their WHOLE LIVES go by. They miss their lives because they spend all their energy trying to get that one thing they don't have that they think will make those lives complete.

To anybody who is single and unhappy because you are single, I say that life is a big long table full of great things to try. If you keep focusing on that one thing you think is missing, you are going to miss the whole meal - your whole life will go by before you know it, and you will have missed almost all of it.

Bon appetite!
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Well...how about getting that cake made anytime you want it?
 
JesusLives

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I still have a daughter that's available Lynx.....Just saying.... She's real not imaginary.
 
Lynx

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Either somebody missed the whole point of the thread or somebody REALLY wants to get somebody married off. :p
 
Lynx

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Hellooo that looks about right. If it were in three layers, with icing between the layers, it would be perfect.
 
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