View Poll Results: If I Started Dating Someone on CC, I Would:

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  • Announce it to as many people as possible, as soon as possible. After all, we're in LOVE!!!

    1 4.35%
  • Never announce it to anyone but close family and friends. No one else needs to know.

    2 8.70%
  • Possibly announce it after we had been seeing each other for some time (4-6 months). (Or what time frame would YOU be comfortable with?)

    4 17.39%
  • I would announce it if we became engaged, but no sooner.

    1 4.35%
  • I would only announce I was with someone from CC if we got married.

    2 8.70%
  • It would depend on what the other person wanted to do--we would decide together.

    12 52.17%
  • If one person wanted to announce it, but the other person did not... We would flip a coin! (Seriously, how would you handle this?)

    0 0%
  • Bibbity Bobbity Boo--I will explain my answer in my post.

    4 17.39%
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Thread: If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

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    Default Re: If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

    It might be fun to stay quiet and see who can figure it out.

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    Default Re: If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

    I would totally date someone from CC. I'm not one of those folks who thinks they are going to find the person they want to spend the rest of their life with in their backyard. (meaning their city). Also, think about the risk reward factor. The risk is that some people who you will most likely never see and who can't talk to you unless you log in get mad at you. Seems kind of jaded, but if people are going to berate you or stop talking to you because of what happens in your relationships then you probably don't need to interact with them anyway. The payoff for that small risk is that you find the love of your life. AND, there is a record of the things the person has said on file. You can judge their consistency over time and see what others think about them. That goes a long way in the vetting process. As far as long distance is concerned, the reward comes out much greater than the risk.

    As for telling people here about it? Both parties would have to agree, and we'd have to be really serious about it. Like, really serious.
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    Default Re: If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

    I'm married, but I'm going to answer anyhow, because I want to.

    The younger me probably woukd have said, I think we should tell everybody. The younger version of me was before Social Media. We live in a world where people share so much, sometimes way to much to soon.

    The older more mature, settled me would wait until it was a serious I know this is headed somewhere, before I would feel like sharing it.

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    Default Re: If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

    I don't really understand online dating and the chances of me dating someone from CC are almost zero lol. But if it ever were a thing, I would not go out of my way to tell people. Not because I want to hide it, but it's just not how I am.

    Having said that, if she wanted to tell people, I'd say go for it. If people know, they know. For me, it wouldn't make any difference.
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    Default Re: If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

    Quote Originally Posted by seoulsearch View Post
    * Some started out with a bang, but fizzled quickly. * Some ended horribly,

    I've known of this situation and was so thrilled for the girl when she found someone new. The guy was just a bully and thankfully she saw the light and moved to a real christian man who she's still with today. The guy had so much growing to do in Christ and things ended for the betterment of the girl.

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    Default Re: If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

    4 years ago, I would have been itching to announce it to the world. But after my FB Newsfeed was filled with pre-marriage, marriage, post-marriage, pre-delivery and post-delivery photo shoots, I have learnt to do better. I do not think I will announce it to the world, not even if I am getting married... Here is how I look at it - If I would never announce it on FB (or CC, for that matter) that I have a few gold bars in my safe, why would I announce something that is far more precious than gold?

    Thank you for your concern, but this is private.

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    Default Re: If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

    I probly wouldnt wanna tell anyone : p Im a somewhat private person anyway, and I wouldnt feel comfortable pushing whoever I was with to make an announcement.

    If they wanted to, though. Id be willing to let them. But I would be 100% fine with keeping it between us as well : p
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    Default Re: If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

    I wouldn't mind people here knowing, but I wouldn't make a spectacle out of it. Small communities are prone to gossip. The last thing I (presumably both of us) would want is to have romantic drama circulating in a small online circle.

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    Default Re: If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

    Quote Originally Posted by Roh_Chris View Post
    4 years ago, I would have been itching to announce it to the world. But after my FB Newsfeed was filled with pre-marriage, marriage, post-marriage, pre-delivery and post-delivery photo shoots, I have learnt to do better. I do not think I will announce it to the world, not even if I am getting married... Here is how I look at it - If I would never announce it on FB (or CC, for that matter) that I have a few gold bars in my safe, why would I announce something that is far more precious than gold?

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    Default Re: If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

    To some extent this article relates to the topic when offline: https://relevantmagazine.com/article...ing-seriously/
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    Default Re: If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

    On a previous relationship i believe we were more outspoken about it. But my last relationship we never made a bit deal about it publicly, anywhere. The relationship seemed more deep and mature and genuine so i think we didn't feel a need to announce it or make an issue out of it, even on fb with our family and friends. Not that we hid it, but just didn't feel a need to draw attention to it.
    While it's doubtful i'll be in another relationship, if i were, i think i prefer not making a public ordeal about it. It felt better that way.
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    Default Re: If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

    fascinating to learn that a lot of you men prefer to be quiet.. I thought I was being hidden. It's a real thing tho.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zi View Post
    fascinating to learn that a lot of you men prefer to be quiet.. I thought I was being hidden. It's a real thing tho.
    I remember one time my aunt found out I was going on a date with a girl, she asked me her name, where she was from, whether she had siblings, how many texts we had sent and when I was going to bring her by to meet my aunt. This was before the first date. If I can't tell my family about it I'm certainly not telling anyone else about it. Except maaaybe a good friend. Otherwise it's under wraps for a while.
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    Idea for a thread.. I don't know anything about men in general. I was around a lot of sleaze bags and assume a lot I guess..
    Quote Originally Posted by Conversationand View Post
    I remember one time my aunt found out I was going on a date with a girl, she asked me her name, where she was from, whether she had siblings, how many texts we had sent and when I was going to bring her by to meet my aunt. This was before the first date. If I can't tell my family about it I'm certainly not telling anyone else about it. Except maaaybe a good friend. Otherwise it's under wraps for a while.
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    Default Re: If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

    When I was in the beginning stages of dating the woman who would become my first ex-wife, she and I dated for about 6 months before anyone else in the world knew about it. We both wanted our privacy to make our own mind up about the relationship without all the unsolicited advice and snooping that comes with a bunch of people knowing about it.

    If I were dating in the present, I'd be quiet mostly to have time to myself to figure out if I am in the relationship because I want to be and because I actually like the woman, or if I am doing what I used to do, which was just go along with the relationship because I felt lucky to have a woman willing to have anything to do with me. Basically I would need to figure out if I am settling or not.
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    Default Re: If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

    When I dated someone from here, we kept it only to a few people on here and my family and friends knew.

    I am not really that active anymore on here. I wouldn't announce it on here.

    I'm already sort of talking to a guy, but that would most likely be the extent of what I share on here.
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    Default Re: If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

    Quote Originally Posted by Roh_Chris View Post
    4 years ago, I would have been itching to announce it to the world. But after my FB Newsfeed was filled with pre-marriage, marriage, post-marriage, pre-delivery and post-delivery photo shoots, I have learnt to do better. I do not think I will announce it to the world, not even if I am getting married... Here is how I look at it - If I would never announce it on FB (or CC, for that matter) that I have a few gold bars in my safe, why would I announce something that is far more precious than gold?

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    Default Re: If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

    Quote Originally Posted by Zi View Post
    fascinating to learn that a lot of you men prefer to be quiet.. I thought I was being hidden. It's a real thing tho.
    wait...I'm quiet???,Zi you have read my posts right???? hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha!
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    Default Re: If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

    I said a lot not all!!

    I meant opting to not announce being involved with someone.

    Quote Originally Posted by joefizz View Post
    wait...I'm quiet???,Zi you have read my posts right???? hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zi View Post
    I said a lot not all!!

    I meant opting to not announce being involved with someone.
    well ok you don't have to shout,hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha!
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