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LittleBit1987

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I feel this is totally necessary on SOooooo many levels.

Most of you all KNOW for a fact I AM married... I Also have a baby boy on the way, due in 9 weeks. I have pregnancy hormones that mess with me and my emotions so I don't always catch things I say before it's too late. So if I seem a little "flirtatious" to you, I'm sorry... that's my personality. I'm a sweet tender hearted person that God created himself, and I can't change that about me. If I seem a little distant... again... pregnancy hormones attacking one again.

And the thing that drives me crazy...

I LOVE making new friends, male or female... I love friends I love my family, I love my husband whom I've been married too too for almost 5 years. We have a baby coming and I would NEVER jeapordize my marriage in any way shape or form. I came to this site years ago cause my marriage hit a rocky road... that lasted for a while and I stuck on here TRYING to get advice and prayer and help my marriage. EveryThing is ok now, MORE than ok... I come on here now cause im bored pretty much..
not to do any harm... or anything else like that. I just want to be friends with folks. But sometimes that's hard to do cause the guys can't just BE "friends" when that's All I want.

So, now that I have made this thread... I am sorry if I "lead" anyone on... or made them think otherwise about my intentions... cause in all honesty... aren't we ALL brothers and sisters in Christ?

Please no negative comments, keep those to yourself as I know some might want too, but I don't have the time or the energy to deal with that right now. My sole focus right now, is going full term with my baby... keep my marriage as strong as I can.. and keep my friendships cause I know I'll need some advice and words of encouragement when times get rough with a newborn.

Thank you.
 
Lynx

Lynx

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Well for what it's worth, I never have seen you say anything that I thought was leading someone on - leading or misleading.

When a guy is lonely and really wanting to believe a girl likes him, it's really easy for him to convince himself. The only thing you can do to prevent that is to be really rude to everybody, or at least every guy, and I know you can't do that.

I hate to say "it's just one of those things" but I'm afraid it is. Sorry. I wish there was something I could say that was actually helpful.
 
Conversationand

Conversationand

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Well, if you want a friend, I'd love to be just friends. Like, actual friends. Not "kind of a friend while angling for something else" friends.


Sorry the men on here aren't representing Christ and men the way that they should. :mad:
 
Dino246

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Congrats on your soon-coming arrival! May the Lord bless you all with peace and joy... and wisdom! :)
 
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LittleBit1987

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Thank you Gentleman for your kind words..

Just some guys on here aren't totally following Christ like they should be, and that's what irks me. Which is why I had to make this post.

Conversation- it would be awesome if we could be friends...I would like that very much.

Lynx- you're a great guy and thank you for your honesty. :)

Dino- thank you!! We are super excited and overjoyed with love from our loved ones :)
 
tourist

tourist

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You're going to be a very good mother. You are already a very good wife.
 
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17Bees

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Lynx said:
Well for what it's worth, I never have seen you say anything that I thought was leading someone on - leading or misleading.

When a guy is lonely and really wanting to believe a girl likes him, it's really easy for him to convince himself. The only thing you can do to prevent that is to be really rude to everybody, or at least every guy, and I know you can't do that.

I hate to say "it's just one of those things" but I'm afraid it is. Sorry. I wish there was something I could say that was actually helpful.
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Why ruin your record?


sorry. you actually help everybody but this was just such low hanging fruit I had to take it. I'm so weak. it's a problem.


LittleBit1987 said:
Thank you Gentleman for your kind words..

Just some guys on here aren't totally following Christ like they should be, and that's what irks me. Which is why I had to make this post.

Conversation- it would be awesome if we could be friends...I would like that very much.

Lynx- you're a great guy and thank you for your honesty. :)

Dino- thank you!! We are super excited and overjoyed with love from our loved ones :)
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So does this explain all my returned letters? MINUS THE CHOCOLATES??!
 
J0Hnnatcc3

J0Hnnatcc3

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Dino246 said:
Congrats on your soon-coming arrival! May the Lord bless you all with peace and joy... and wisdom! :)
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Yeah, congrats on your incoming little guy! :) Will be praying for good health and favor for you and your fam.
 
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LittleBit1987

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17Bees said:
Why ruin your record?


sorry. you actually help everybody but this was just such low hanging fruit I had to take it. I'm so weak. it's a problem.





So does this explain all my returned letters? MINUS THE CHOCOLATES??!
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You sir, never cease to amaze me with your perfect timing with humor! Props to you for making me crack that smile and giggle for once today lol. And no... this does NOT explain that... but I'm not sorry that I ate ALL the chocolates :p
 
Pipp

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I love you LittleBit!
 
AbigailZeke

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Congratulations again sister! Can't wait to see baby pics. :)

And about the guys, just block them. Not even worth your time when you got someone precious on the way.
 
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Ugly

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I've heard from many women on this site that being married is not a deterrent for some men here. And neither is it always a deterrent for some married women on the site, either, which probably encourages those men even more. Sometimes people just hear what they want, hence the accusations of 'leading on'. Probably wisest to accept that this will not change, no matter the posts you make. And perhaps use more caution around men until you can be more confident of their expectations. Not a criticism against you, or an accusation, just something to consider that may be of help to you in the long run, considering the history of many men on this site.

Congratulations on your impending child. (Impending child? That sounds so ominous haha)
 
Lynx

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"You must spread some reputation around before giving it to Ugly again."

Feh.

Oh well, there's always the "like" button. If I start getting a message about having to like somebody else's posts before liking this one's again I'm going to ragequit.
 
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LittleBit1987

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Pipp said:
I love you LittleBit!
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Lol, I love you too Pipp! ^_^

Ugly said:
I've heard from many women on this site that being married is not a deterrent for some men here. And neither is it always a deterrent for some married women on the site, either, which probably encourages those men even more. Sometimes people just hear what they want, hence the accusations of 'leading on'. Probably wisest to accept that this will not change, no matter the posts you make. And perhaps use more caution around men until you can be more confident of their expectations. Not a criticism against you, or an accusation, just something to consider that may be of help to you in the long run, considering the history of many men on this site.

Congratulations on your impending child. (Impending child? That sounds so ominous haha)
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Hahah!!! Thanks Ugly, At least those of YOU who have read this can back me up IF some loon decides that this post isn't good enough, I have you guys to be my F.R.I.E.N.D.S (yes like the tv show) and help me out. :)

Not playing the "victim" just clearing the air on how I feel. :)

But thank you guys again...honestly <3
 
zeroturbulence

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Does this mean you want me to stop stalking you, Lilbit?? :rolleyes: :p
 
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Zi

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Some may think you're inviting or looking for something more when you post in the singles forum.. Some may think rejection is playing hard to get. You want a chase, a thrill because you're bored.. Idk some people will misconstrue everything.... :(

Rock and a hard place...

I actually like Uglies advice..

May I'll do a "bro she's married" if I happen to see a guy lingering a little to long around your posts.. ruin the moment:p
 
J0Hnnatcc3

J0Hnnatcc3

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Zi said:
Some may think you're inviting or looking for something more when you post in the singles forum.. Some may think rejection is playing hard to get. You want a chase, a thrill because you're bored.. Idk some people will misconstrue everything.... :(

Rock and a hard place...

I actually like Uglies advice..

May I'll do a "bro she's married" if I happen to see a guy lingering a little to long around your posts.. ruin the moment:p
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Could always throw a "happily married since#/#/#" in your signature or something like that. Might help get rid of some unwanted attention ya know.
 
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LittleBit1987

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Zi said:
Some may think you're inviting or looking for something more when you post in the singles forum.. Some may think rejection is playing hard to get. You want a chase, a thrill because you're bored.. Idk some people will misconstrue everything.... :(

Rock and a hard place...

I actually like Uglies advice..

May I'll do a "bro she's married" if I happen to see a guy lingering a little to long around your posts.. ruin the moment:p
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J0Hnnatcc3 said:
Could always throw a "happily married since#/#/#" in your signature or something like that. Might help get rid of some unwanted attention ya know.
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Both are good ideas... but I'm usually hanging around the BDF thread anyways. So I'm not gonna worry about it too much.

But thanks for the advice :)
 
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MollyConnor

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I'm sorry that you're going through that. I recently have been through something similar. The men that approach me through PM eventually get banned. I guess they approach lots of women and we all end up reporting them lol.
If a guy tries to mess with you again, I suggest you report him. The mods are usually good with that. If I get one of those messages from some guy in another country that wants to get to know me, they are banned within a few hours. :p

I think people need to realize this isn't ChristianMingle. This is a place to make friends. Now, I'm not saying people can't fall in love on here...of course they can. And that's awesome! But that shouldn't be their main objective.
 
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