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    When I think about a man providing safety for a woman, I think it's about all aspects: emotionally, physically, and financially(which is really a combined subcategory of emotional and physical). Women like to be provided for. And I realize that many of you will read that and say "I have my own job" or "I can take care of myself" etc. But that is not quite what I'm talking about. There is this sense in which a man "covers" a woman and bears the weight of the pressures of the world. Just as Christ covers us and bears our sin. I think that the emotional aspect has been covered by the ladies better than I would have articulated myself so I'll let their answers stand in. Physically however I don't know that many men realize how scary it can be to be a woman. Men are so much stronger than women, even when there is no size difference. As a man I try to conceptualize it as: Think if you were going to walk down an unknown street in the city at night where the people were of unknown character, but they were all heavyweight class MMA fighters and you had to carry a bank roll of 100's in each hand. Women are walking around where the majority of men are stronger than them, sometimes very much, like what they have (their bodies), and have no indicators as to what kind of person they are or their intent. By the very act of walking around with a woman in public you are covering her and extending your "privilege" of strength to her. And I think that the act of sex (at least a certain kind) is a physical representation of the relationship of headship as it relates to a man being the protector. The wife's back is protected and her vulnerable and vital parts are turned towards him and his to hers, and their mutual vulnerability allows them to be intimate. But she is not exposed, but rather she's covered by her husband and his back is turned to the world. And that reflects the way Christ exposed his back to the world so that he could bear our stripes. And when a woman feels emotionally and physically safe she feels loved and flourishes like the Church flourishes under the love of Christ. At least I've always taken note of the way a woman who marries a good man starts to act and carry herself. I apologize if this derails the thread, but if you can't tell I've done a lot of thinking on this subject.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Conversationand View Post
    And when a woman feels emotionally and physically safe she feels loved and flourishes like the Church flourishes under the love of Christ.
    Same could be said for a man... I reckon we all flourish when we feel emotionally secure in Christ, there's no rest without him (spiritually speaking).

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    I like people who have a really "chill" personality, who are really easy going and dont spend too much time worrying about things that dont matter. My favorite people are the kind of people who can talk things out, especially when talking about things like serious issues. Too many people react emotionally from the start of a subject, and that can be really frustrating. I like people who are able to rationalize and take the time to talk to understand what someone is saying, over taking everything on an extreme level and letting their emotions take control of their thinking.
    (this is about both male and female btw, so dont take it as a personal attack)

    But yeah, if I were gonna date, they girl that I would date would definitely have to be calm and capable of talking things out and junk, otherwise it would be hard for me to deal with them for long periods of time : p Ive met women like that and all that, so Im not talking as if "they dont exist" or anything like that.

    I know the OP didnt mention looks, but others on the thread have. And eh, Im really weird about that whole thing. Im really not too worried about that. Id just want to be with someone who can understand me and my difficulties, and is able to communicate with me well and all that. Im definitely not great when it comes to communication, so hopefully theyd be able to connect with me and understand me and all that : p
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    Quote Originally Posted by Yeraza_Bats View Post
    I like people who have a really "chill" personality, who are really easy going and dont spend too much time worrying about things that dont matter. My favorite people are the kind of people who can talk things out, especially when talking about things like serious issues. Too many people react emotionally from the start of a subject, and that can be really frustrating. I like people who are able to rationalize and take the time to talk to understand what someone is saying, over taking everything on an extreme level and letting their emotions take control of their thinking.
    (this is about both male and female btw, so dont take it as a personal attack)

    But yeah, if I were gonna date, they girl that I would date would definitely have to be calm and capable of talking things out and junk, otherwise it would be hard for me to deal with them for long periods of time : p Ive met women like that and all that, so Im not talking as if "they dont exist" or anything like that.

    I know the OP didnt mention looks, but others on the thread have. And eh, Im really weird about that whole thing. Im really not too worried about that. Id just want to be with someone who can understand me and my difficulties, and is able to communicate with me well and all that. Im definitely not great when it comes to communication, so hopefully theyd be able to connect with me and understand me and all that : p
    I felt a need to clarify a bit, Im not the kind of person who wants to take time to like... "tippy toe" around and always be sensitive to everything. Like, when talking about a wrong way of living, you wont often see me spending time going on about how we should "love everyone", because I feel like people should already know this and that they dont need to be talked down to, and I feel like we should be able to just say "this is wrong" without having to constantly remind each other to "behave" and all that. I like people who understand that, and dont feel the need to be told "be sure that you love everyone" before talking about such things.
    And taking that on a more personal level, if I say something stupid out of a lack of good communication skills, Id want to be with someone willing to point out that I did, so that I can apologize and explain myself better, and be able to let go of any bad feelings that may come about over letting themselves think Im just being passive aggressive or anything like that. Im more than willing to listen to how I may have done something wrong, I just need to be shown how, so that I can understand : p
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    I naturally gravitate to people who value and love themselves (not narcissism). I think it's a great character.
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    Quote Originally Posted by NoNameMcgee View Post
    the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,meekness, temperance

    (these make the best personality for both men and women i think)
    EXCELLENT! we all want to have a happy marriage always.
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    i have nothing special request about it. iam very simple one
    coz standrad is only in a piece of note and no one is perfect only GOD is.
    I always believe every person have their own criterion or standard or what ever its name even woman or man
    but for me basicly i have no special request for it as long as me and him (us) feel comfort n communication between two of us goes well like friend n we both feel comfort means thats always be possible for everything or next step

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