What Would You Do?

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Lighthearted

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This is a decision I already made recently. I must say that Pipp and Seoul certainly got my funny votes. It is so important to clearly hear what a person is saying. I didnt have a problem with my emotions. I had a problem not showing my affection toward a person I was very close to. They are very different things. I found using scripture as backup very helpful in knowing I made the best decision and not holding on to something while someone insisted on eliminating all their baggage. We're human...we come with baggage. People that love each other move past all that together or alone.
 
Lighthearted

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So...thanks for good advice post op!
 
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Lighthearted said:
This is a decision I already made recently. I must say that Pipp and Seoul certainly got my funny votes. It is so important to clearly hear what a person is saying. I didnt have a problem with my emotions. I had a problem not showing my affection toward a person I was very close to. They are very different things. I found using scripture as backup very helpful in knowing I made the best decision and not holding on to something while someone insisted on eliminating all their baggage. We're human...we come with baggage. People that love each other move past all that together or alone.
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Do you mind sharing which scriptures helped you the most?
 
Lighthearted

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The scripture Enow gave in his post we're definitely helpful. When you're walking in the Spirit, it is important to be richly upholding the fruits of the Spirit. This is when we are close to his will and walking with Him means that others should know this by seeing what He does in our lives. Truly being recognized as examples by others.
 
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Pipp said:
Set up a box trap... put a cupacke under the box and hide. When the guy takes the cupcake, pull the string and capture him ♡
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Bacon works better :p
 
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Wow! Are you trying to be intellectual now? Francis Bacon is a great topic. Makes you not think of food....
 
Lighthearted

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If I had stayed with this person...he would have picked unripe fruits and I wouldn't have been walking as close to God. I would have been the woman preoccupied with a relationship to have been an example for Christ.
 
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toinena said:
Wow! Are you trying to be intellectual now? Francis Bacon is a great topic. Makes you not think of food....
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I'm just making sure I made a wise decision according to my Bros and sisters. And I feel I made the best choice. But I would like the Bacon, Pipps cupcake, and a woman cave! :)
 
Lighthearted

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toinena said:
Wow! Are you trying to be intellectual now? Francis Bacon is a great topic. Makes you not think of food....
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I'm just making sure I made a wise decision according to my Bros and sisters. And I feel I made the best choice. But I would like the Bacon, Pipps cupcake, and a woman cave! :) And why not throw in some meatloaf?
 
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Lighthearted said:
I'm just making sure I made a wise decision according to my Bros and sisters. And I feel I made the best choice. But I would like the Bacon, Pipps cupcake, and a woman cave! :) And why not throw in some meatloaf?
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... walks by, tosses some meatloaf into the cave, and sneaks away enjoying the pilfered maple bacon cupcake... ;)
 
Lighthearted

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Dino! Ok...tell you what...my meatloaf is good....so let's split the meatloaf and the cupcake...I don't mind sharing! :)
 
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Lighthearted said:
Dino! Ok...tell you what...my meatloaf is good....so let's split the meatloaf and the cupcake...I don't mind sharing! :)
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Cupcake? What cupcake? I know nothing of any cupcake. ;)
 
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Oh I made that mistake and things changed in our relationship, he didn't have feelings for me and never would again. Now he found someone else.
Trust me, keep them hidden or things will happen.
 
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If I found myself wanting to show affection towards someone, I'd retreat, re-assess those thoughts, question why they exist, then take time to see if the inclination remains or if it fades to nothingness. Generally, it fades so I know it wasn't "real".
 
OneFaith

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Lighthearted said:
What would you do if you found yourself struggling to hide your affections?
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If the affection is wrong, or not mutual, treat it like a temptation. Otherwise you just constantly embarrass yourself like Gunther who longed for Rachel on the show 'Friends.'

All my life guys always pursued me. I never had a not-mutual situation with me being the one who was rejected, until the last situation I've experienced. It never dawned on me that that was possible lol. I guess I lost it. Men used to whistle at me, stare at me, think I was just the sweetest thing, not anymore.

But I gave it a shot. I told him how I felt, he said he didn't feel the same, and I backed off. I mean I still treat him like everyone else, I don't ignore him completely. But anything romantic that I would do or say if it were mutual is simply restrained.

But I'm kinda glad it didn't work out. Because at first I thought he was 'the one', but now that I got to know him better, I realize he so not the one. It's not because everyone has faults, and that his faults turned me off, it's that I now see he does not match my earlier thoughts on who 'the one' is. Today if he were to persue me, I would turn him down.

But it's easy for me to hide my affections because I'm a quiet person.
 
Lighthearted

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Yahweh_is_gracious said:
If I found myself wanting to show affection towards someone, I'd retreat, re-assess those thoughts, question why they exist, then take time to see if the inclination remains or if it fades to nothingness. Generally, it fades so I know it wasn't "real".
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Yah...you never cease to amaze me... Your brain must have trillions of little compartments! :)
 
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Well, I messed up badly once when I was 18 and I gave into an impulse rather than use good common sense, and it was a lesson I paid for dearly. I only had to make that mistake once to learn to be really, really careful where romance was concerned and to think about my choices and the possible consequences before acting.

So, if I think I like somebody, I better figure out if it's true or if it's just testosterone and prolonged celibacy talking.
 
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Well, to quote an old Bob Seger song..."i aint good lookin but ya know I aint shy, aint afraid to look ya girl in the eye". I figure take a shot and let the person know. Babe Ruth hit the most home runs but he struck out the most too. Besides, if I like someone and all they care about is looks or material things I think it's best to find out early. That said taking any kind of relationship advice from me is like taking driving lessons from Stevie Wonder.
 
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