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    I am a 19 year old who is having trouble with feeling lonely and feel like I will never be in a relationship much less get married. Everyone I know are in a relationship had already been in a relationship or married by the time they are/were my age. Does anyone feel the same way I do?
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    The difficulty in your view is perspective.
    It's easy to see the happy side, but chances are half will end up divorced. And not all those that don't divorce will be happy.
    You're barely out of high school and are already determining the next 50 years of your life? Think it through. It makes little sense.
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    Dont think about marruage on ur young ages.. U still have long journey jysr go to outside,go to church and meet many new people and makw new friend...
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    Hi! Sis welcome to CC

    Please let me tell you something... I had a three-week holiday last month...I went home...and accidentally ran into my old classmate in highschool... We had a wonderful conversation.. She told me she has 3 kids and already married for almost 15 years yayy...after almost an hour we said goodbye to each other...yayy it is really great to see an old friend you know...

    I went back to my place...and still thinking about my classmate..she has 3 kids and a loving husband...and me...? Yayy single and ohh...I feel sad at that moment I feel like I am very much left behind and began to feel that maybe I will never become a wife...maybe I will never become a mother...I am 39 and my chance is getting smaller and smaller day by day...how I wish that youth and time were on my side...

    I want you to know that what you are feeling right now is a journey of every single person sometimes you feel lonely..sometimes you feel like you are on top of the world and that's normal... Sis you are very young you are only 19 years old you don't need to hurry just enjoy every moment,love every moment while you are single Focus more about your relationship with the Lord ,yourself,your friends and family ... don't worry about being single because we have our own separate journey in this life and each direction has its own time...

    God bless you sis smile
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    Howdy Monkey, and welcome to CC Singles.

    You will hear many opinions here about many things. Some will be right, some will be wrong. That's just how it goes with advice you get on a forum.

    My personal opinion is, getting married is not the be-all and end-all of human existence. You shouldn't let your whole life go by and miss all the fun stuff just because you're looking for that one part of your life that everybody says you need. I'm 39 and single, and happy, and enjoying life.

    But that's just my opinion. As with all other opinions, I could be wrong.
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    I struggle with this too. You being young has little to do with feelings.
    I'm much older than you and have never had my situation change.
    I did trace back why I feel this way and what I really need.
    Mine has to do with not having a family that embraced nurturing. I've always felt alone and thought if I had a man it would all go away. Pretty much gave up on my family as being a source. Then it would put a lot of pressure on a man by looking to him for it all. I had to give that to God so I could be whole. It is a process.
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    See my family is very nurturing and I am the only one who does not have "that one". And with being in college and away from my family I have no one and I am so lonely.