So I know that we should not be unequally yoked and that two should be in agreement when it comes to Christ. However I'm very confused! I've been talking to a Woman that I met on FB through a mutual friend for about 9 or 10 months now. We text or talk everyday but have yet to meet as I live about 4 hours from her and haven't been able to visit her yet. She is half Jewish by blood and was raised in a Jewish household. Until tonight we haven't really spoken much about God but she is very aware of my beliefs, if from nothing else than the way I talk and posts I've made. I haven't asked her and I guess part of me didn't want to address the issue because I was afraid to know but I assumed she followed Judaism. Turns out that she has that I'm spiritual and believe in being positive type attitude and that truth is relative mentality that is so prevalent today. Now before you jump to" well this is an easy one"...I have been praying for a sign from God about this for a long time. And there have been events that have happened in my life where she came out of nowhere with something that I needed to hear or told me something pretty early on that someone else had told me many years ago that related to a powerful experience that God used/moved in in my life! I can't even say how great she is..and it's not lust driving my actions. Maybe its folley but maybe she would see my love of Christ and the fact that He is the reason i have a big heart and can empathize and feel other peoples emotions. Maybe The Lord would use me to touch her life. Thats not such a bad purpose in life...and i could use purpose at this stage and circumstance in my life lol. I would appreciate any thoughtful insight as to what to do...but please think it through for me or try and put yourself in this situation. Sorry this is so long and thank you for reading!
My teaching has taught me but...all things point towards..
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I sympathize with your quandary, however please be advised that random people on a forum are probably going to give you random and very disparate bits of advice which will not agree with each other and most of which will be totally wrong.
As for my advice, I have no advice because I do not know the whole situation. Even if I knew both of you personally I would still not know the whole situation. This is one matter where you need either much prayer and fasting, and yes the fasting is an integral part of it, or a pastor's advice. Sorry I cannot be of more assistance, but that's just the nature of this question.
I sympathize with your quandary, however please be advised that random people on a forum are probably going to give you random and very disparate bits of advice which will not agree with each other and most of which will be totally wrong.
As for my advice, I have no advice because I do not know the whole situation. Even if I knew both of you personally I would still not know the whole situation. This is one matter where you need either much prayer and fasting, and yes the fasting is an integral part of it, or a pastor's advice. Sorry I cannot be of more assistance, but that's just the nature of this question.
I concur with Lynx that there are too many opinions on the forum that you would need to wade through.
So anyway, here's mine...
Firstly, why don't you meet her in real life and get to know her more? From what it sounds like, (I could be wrong) you are in love with her already and value her opinions/insights in your life.
You definitely need more time to really know who this person is - what is her lifestyle, how does she truly live and would that be compatible etc. How do you know you haven't built a perception in your mind that doesn't reflect reality?
If anyone tells you how wrong this person is, your mind will race back to a time when she "magically/spiritually" did something that somehow confirmed X that means Y. You see, if you are already in love with her - you are a lost cause.
So just sit back, enjoy the ride and if its really meant to be, it will happen. Otherwise your differing viewpoints, lifestyles, values will come back to explode in your face or else it catalyzes a situation that works... It is chance.
So anyway, here's mine...
Firstly, why don't you meet her in real life and get to know her more? From what it sounds like, (I could be wrong) you are in love with her already and value her opinions/insights in your life.
You definitely need more time to really know who this person is - what is her lifestyle, how does she truly live and would that be compatible etc. How do you know you haven't built a perception in your mind that doesn't reflect reality?
If anyone tells you how wrong this person is, your mind will race back to a time when she "magically/spiritually" did something that somehow confirmed X that means Y. You see, if you are already in love with her - you are a lost cause.
So just sit back, enjoy the ride and if its really meant to be, it will happen. Otherwise your differing viewpoints, lifestyles, values will come back to explode in your face or else it catalyzes a situation that works... It is chance.
Thank you Rachel 20 and Ugly. Rachel I think what you said is wise and I am very taken with her although I've not wanted to say in love because I haven't met her. But yes the feeling is there. This conversation we had put me off a little tho. Im just scared that I'm gonna do what I want to do again and not what God wants for me.
Hello and welcome. 
I respect the others who have responded, though I will choose to be a little more direct. You have gotten yourself significantly involved with someone whose faith/worldview you do not know. This is critical, because a difference in faith will cause major strife in a marriage.
For the sake of your own spiritual health, ask the girl what she believes. If she does not share your faith, it really is best to break off the relationship. While fasting and praying are wise in obtaining guidance, you need to have had the conversation with the girl first. Otherwise, basically what you are saying is, "God, I don't know if she's a Christian, but could you give me a sign as to whether she's the right one for me?"... in case you missed the sarcasm, that is a foolish course. You wouldn't go to a work supervisor with this kind of ignorance... I hope. Don't make Solomon's error and allow her to pull you away from Christ, because she probably will if she doesn't believe.
As an aside, if you've been talking to the gal for ten months, and have not had this conversation yet, I have to wonder how important your faith is to you.
I respect the others who have responded, though I will choose to be a little more direct. You have gotten yourself significantly involved with someone whose faith/worldview you do not know. This is critical, because a difference in faith will cause major strife in a marriage.
For the sake of your own spiritual health, ask the girl what she believes. If she does not share your faith, it really is best to break off the relationship. While fasting and praying are wise in obtaining guidance, you need to have had the conversation with the girl first. Otherwise, basically what you are saying is, "God, I don't know if she's a Christian, but could you give me a sign as to whether she's the right one for me?"... in case you missed the sarcasm, that is a foolish course. You wouldn't go to a work supervisor with this kind of ignorance... I hope. Don't make Solomon's error and allow her to pull you away from Christ, because she probably will if she doesn't believe.
As an aside, if you've been talking to the gal for ten months, and have not had this conversation yet, I have to wonder how important your faith is to you.
Four hours away is nothing and this short distance should not be a reason to not meet each other. Exactly, what type of sign from God are you expecting? You obviously care about each other, call her up and tell her that you're coming this weekend. Stop being so tentative and just make a move. Glad to have you join us. Welcome to CC.
Look bruh i dont wanna be that guy but i have to we should not be unequally yoked (if someone says yolked bruh...... Not eggs please dont think this id about food) and i know how it feels i was there it's better to let it go while you can and before it hurts both of you even more. Yea it's gonna suck but your a man deal with it and do what God would want you to do. Now that doesn't mean you cant be friends and maybe even lead her to Christ but as it stands right now nah you shouldn't do it. God bless
Alright, here is your sign, this here is a word from God that can always be trusted.
Corinthians 6:14-15. Do not be yoked with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial?
She may seem nice, but there's atheist and satanist that seem nice too, when it comes to Christ the divide between you is shown to be much bigger than it looked before.
Corinthians 6:14-15. Do not be yoked with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial?
She may seem nice, but there's atheist and satanist that seem nice too, when it comes to Christ the divide between you is shown to be much bigger than it looked before.