Is that what you're wearing?

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Innerfire89

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How important are a persons clothes to you in considering dating? I don't just mean if they are dressed modestly, but what if there dress in old worn out clothes or maybe their shoes need a shine. Or what if they're dressed like they're going to a meeting in the white house even when they just go to out to a movie?
 
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Yahweh_is_gracious

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I don't give it much thought. I don't think I ever did really.
 
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renewed_hope

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Honestly, the thought never crossed my mind. I went out on a date wearing jeans and heels and he was perfectly fine by it and he wears slacks or shorts and it doesn't bother me. One time my dates socks didn't even match but I didn't care because I was with the greatest guy a girl could ask for and still am. I guess the only thing that may make me think twice is if he is wearing dirty or stained clothes when he goes out with me.
 
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toinena

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I was interested in a guy once that apparently only took a shower and changed his shirt once a week. And the egg stains on Monday remained there until Thursday. He had a nice shirt, though. I think I could date him on Friday and let him be for the rest of the week ;-)
 

Lynx

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toinena that last sentence was classic! :cool:

Reminds me of this preacher my grandmother was watching one time. He was talking about a boyfriend and girlfriend need to ask some questions about each other before getting serious about their relationship. What was amusing was when he got into hygiene.

"Do you shower? Do you shower regularly? Do you wait three days and then take a shower? How is your relationship with soap and water?"
 

Lynx

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As for me, I usually look at a person's face to form my first opinion. The emotions that are expressed most often will leave permanent marks on a person's face, and you can usually tell if a person spends most of his life (happy, judgmental, grumpy, whatever) by a glance at the face.

Clothes I usually don't notice. I mean if the pastor got up on stage to preach and he was wearing raggedy blue jeans and a wrinkled, stained t-shirt my brain might ring up a "DOES NOT COMPUTE" but I don't really notice what people are wearing a lot.
 

Dino246

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When I was in university, I was interested in a gal... we made plans to meet for lunch. She showed up in odd-coloured sweats which did absolutely nothing good for her appearance. I got the sense she chose the outfit deliberately to push my buttons. She only succeeded in pushing me away.

I have no problem with casual clothes. However, I check the mirror to ensure my outfit looks decent, and I would hope the same of a lady if I were just dating her.
 
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How important are a persons clothes to you in considering dating? I don't just mean if they are dressed modestly, but what if there dress in old worn out clothes or maybe their shoes need a shine. Or what if they're dressed like they're going to a meeting in the white house even when they just go to out to a movie?
Something to talk about before actually dating. If the dating process has begun, then it's even more important.

I wouldn't want to be involved with a woman that always dresses up or vice versa. There's a time for each.

If a person always goes to the extremes of either always dressing up or never dressing up, there may be a reason for it. Talking it out may reveal something happened in the past.

I have a male friend who has dozens(might be an understatement!) of pairs of dress-up shoes. Turns out that, as a child, he never had nice shoes. Now he practically hoards them.
 
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Yahweh_is_gracious

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There have been two points in my life where I was forced to place importance on clothing. Once was in the military where I had to keep up with my units extremely high daily uniform standards. The other was the 6 and a half years I spent working in an office at the University and had to wear dress clothes every day. I could see the "need" for the emphasis on looking a certain way in each case, but I did not appreciate the time and energy I had to spend to keep up the standards. I've gone to the opposite end now and I dress like a slob. Things are clean and serviceable, but they are not "nice" and they are for pure comfort.
 

Innerfire89

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I was interested in a guy once that apparently only took a shower and changed his shirt once a week. And the egg stains on Monday remained there until Thursday. He had a nice shirt, though. I think I could date him on Friday and let him be for the rest of the week ;-)
toinena that last sentence was classic! :cool:

Reminds me of this preacher my grandmother was watching one time. He was talking about a boyfriend and girlfriend need to ask some questions about each other before getting serious about their relationship. What was amusing was when he got into hygiene.

"Do you shower? Do you shower regularly? Do you wait three days and then take a shower? How is your relationship with soap and water?"
People can be pretty gross and there's not much of an excuse for it really.
 

Innerfire89

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When I was in university, I was interested in a gal... we made plans to meet for lunch. She showed up in odd-coloured sweats which did absolutely nothing good for her appearance. I got the sense she chose the outfit deliberately to push my buttons. She only succeeded in pushing me away.

I have no problem with casual clothes. However, I check the mirror to ensure my outfit looks decent, and I would hope the same of a lady if I were just dating her.
Sounded like she wanted to draw attention to herself or to have wild crazy fun. That would put me off too.
 

Innerfire89

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There have been two points in my life where I was forced to place importance on clothing. Once was in the military where I had to keep up with my units extremely high daily uniform standards. The other was the 6 and a half years I spent working in an office at the University and had to wear dress clothes every day. I could see the "need" for the emphasis on looking a certain way in each case, but I did not appreciate the time and energy I had to spend to keep up the standards. I've gone to the opposite end now and I dress like a slob. Things are clean and serviceable, but they are not "nice" and they are for pure comfort.
The only time I care to put on dress clothes is on Sunday or if had to go to a job interview or something like that. Otherwise people are lucky if they see me with a shirt and shoes on. Lol.
 

garet82

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Lol very interesting threat.
Well i dont think about it too much as long as he feels comfort with what he uses thats fun.
 
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I like to look nice, not because I'm vain or because I care what people think, I do it because I take pride in my appearance. Also, being well dressed is a confidence booster.
 

Innerfire89

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Not saying it's wrong, but what is it about clothing that makes you more confident? And would you still be confident if you had to dress in rags?
 
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Miri

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I hate dressing up I usually go for smart casual.

It also stems from the fact that I struggle to find clothes to
fit my hour glass figure. Dresses either hang straight down with
no shape or style. Or they are too tight in one place or other. Or
the waistline is in the wrong place, or the sleeves too long etc.
Im currently a UK size 14 (I think that's a US 10?)

So I would more than likely turn up in smart jeans and a top!

As to how others dress, as long as they are clean I don't mind.
After all I have purple hair with a blond streak!
 
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Miri

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Not saying it's wrong, but what is it about clothing that makes you more confident? And would you still be confident if you had to dress in rags?
Some styles are rags lol


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Innerfire89

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I hate dressing up I usually go for smart casual.

It also stems from the fact that I struggle to find clothes to
fit my hour glass figure. Dresses either hang straight down with
no shape or style. Or they are too tight in one place or other. Or
the waistline is in the wrong place, or the sleeves too long etc.
Im currently a UK size 14 (I think that's a US 10?)

So I would more than likely turn up in smart jeans and a top!

As to how others dress, as long as they are clean I don't mind.
After all I have purple hair with a blond streak!
Lol, that's sounds pretty wild. What shade of purple?
 
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toinena

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I find it insane to pay for holes in my clothes. And it seems not proper to wear such clothes. If I should ever manage to pass the test to get on a date I would wear a dress or skirt. Something femine, atleast. Right now I am wearing a green woollen dress that is one of my favourites with a nice scarf. I could wear that one a date if it is cold weather outside.