There was a hot girl in church today.
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LOL! Funny. I was gonna say pour a bucket of ice water on her.
There was a singles program at my former church where one Christian guy met and married another Christian girl, but then the Christian girl changed her mind and began committing adultery behind his back and her mother and sisters knew it before he had found out. They got a divorce.
So.. not a guarantee in finding the right girl or guy for that matter. I think when looking for a Christian mate in a singles Christian meeting, masks tends to go up and not share how they really feel about issues as well as what they all believe in Christianity.
I think the danger is that couples join up by assumption rather than actually getting to know the other person in respect to the faith. Some may not be rooted in the word as they ought to be.
I think I heard this in passing where one atheist had joined a singles group to find a Christian for a mate assuming that person would be good & honest. Not. Jesus died for sinners, people. We are not perfect yet nor will we be until He takes us Home.
Course, there is that race to run by faith in Jesus Christ to help us lay aside every weight & sin in following Him by the grace of God & His help.... to heed that upward call in Christ.
But not every saved believer is running that race depending on Him every day to live as His.
I believe Christian singles should go to singles groups seeking friendship, rather than romantic love. That way, you are not motivated in getting married, but finding a lifelong friend.
As it is, most marriages add extra vows of professed love to each other, but in the actual marriage covenant that God performs, all that is required is agreeing to the marriage covenant and say "I do" in taking the other person as a spouse; and that being one man and one woman... in case any one should be misunderstanding what kind of a marriage I agree with.
The reason I make a point of this is because love is not boastful; and thus there should be no vows of love to each other, especially when we are supposed to be relying on Jesus Christ all the time for the love we need to love each other since love is a fruit of the Spirit: Philippians 1:6,11
So instead of advertising a Christian singles group... give it a name that would refer to an age group or an event like church bowling or something where people of an age group can go out to have fellowship and fun with other like minded believers.
There was a singles program at my former church where one Christian guy met and married another Christian girl, but then the Christian girl changed her mind and began committing adultery behind his back and her mother and sisters knew it before he had found out. They got a divorce.
So.. not a guarantee in finding the right girl or guy for that matter. I think when looking for a Christian mate in a singles Christian meeting, masks tends to go up and not share how they really feel about issues as well as what they all believe in Christianity.
I think the danger is that couples join up by assumption rather than actually getting to know the other person in respect to the faith. Some may not be rooted in the word as they ought to be.
I think I heard this in passing where one atheist had joined a singles group to find a Christian for a mate assuming that person would be good & honest. Not. Jesus died for sinners, people. We are not perfect yet nor will we be until He takes us Home.
Course, there is that race to run by faith in Jesus Christ to help us lay aside every weight & sin in following Him by the grace of God & His help.... to heed that upward call in Christ.
But not every saved believer is running that race depending on Him every day to live as His.
I believe Christian singles should go to singles groups seeking friendship, rather than romantic love. That way, you are not motivated in getting married, but finding a lifelong friend.
As it is, most marriages add extra vows of professed love to each other, but in the actual marriage covenant that God performs, all that is required is agreeing to the marriage covenant and say "I do" in taking the other person as a spouse; and that being one man and one woman... in case any one should be misunderstanding what kind of a marriage I agree with.
The reason I make a point of this is because love is not boastful; and thus there should be no vows of love to each other, especially when we are supposed to be relying on Jesus Christ all the time for the love we need to love each other since love is a fruit of the Spirit: Philippians 1:6,11
So instead of advertising a Christian singles group... give it a name that would refer to an age group or an event like church bowling or something where people of an age group can go out to have fellowship and fun with other like minded believers.
Z
You have a unique way of titling your threads.
Who says part of church isn't to meet someone? How else do you come together with someone like minded or equal in yoke?
I'm thinking back to when service was held in the homes of believers while the NT was being written.
I don't know much about history or customs so I don't know of any other event where believers would or could meet.
Who says part of church isn't to meet someone? How else do you come together with someone like minded or equal in yoke?
I'm thinking back to when service was held in the homes of believers while the NT was being written.
I don't know much about history or customs so I don't know of any other event where believers would or could meet.
U
Actually, he's right. The Purpose of Church is not to bring singles together to find mates. The purpose of church is for believers to come together to learn, edify one another and praise God.
That is, however, frequently a byproduct of Church. Singles meeting. And that's fine. But that's still not the purpose. And if that is a person's purpose for going then they have a severe misunderstanding of the gospel.
But broadening the idea to mean fellowship, such as how you did, is only a matter of word games, not actually dealing with the specific intent of the question. Which is singles using church to meet other singles to date. Again, that is Not the Purpose of church. Or the church taking the responsibility on of pairing up singles.
Fellowship and prowling for a spouse is not the same thing, by the way.
Singles and ministry are quite difficult. Even if you intend to have a ministry for singles to make friends with other singles, and not intended as a dating platform, inevitably people will misuse it and treat it as a mixer to prowl, rather than make friends of both genders. This site is a perfect example.
That is, however, frequently a byproduct of Church. Singles meeting. And that's fine. But that's still not the purpose. And if that is a person's purpose for going then they have a severe misunderstanding of the gospel.
But broadening the idea to mean fellowship, such as how you did, is only a matter of word games, not actually dealing with the specific intent of the question. Which is singles using church to meet other singles to date. Again, that is Not the Purpose of church. Or the church taking the responsibility on of pairing up singles.
Fellowship and prowling for a spouse is not the same thing, by the way.
Singles and ministry are quite difficult. Even if you intend to have a ministry for singles to make friends with other singles, and not intended as a dating platform, inevitably people will misuse it and treat it as a mixer to prowl, rather than make friends of both genders. This site is a perfect example.
That's about all there is to say there. An idea that popped into my head is a guided dicusion group, someone leads by bringing up various doctrines and topics and then those topics are discussed in small groups, and maybe some fun activities like bowling and what not so everyone can get a sense of what everyone's personality is like. And friendship should be emphasized, not express marriage.
Okay THAT was clever! Three points for the OP.
I have been to some meetings that were designated "for singles." The air of "we hope you will find a spouse, you poor deprived single person" was so thick you could have bounced a softball off it. I went anyway because there was food. *shrug*
Since I have never been on a date before, I think the effort failed. But the food was decent.
I have been to some meetings that were designated "for singles." The air of "we hope you will find a spouse, you poor deprived single person" was so thick you could have bounced a softball off it. I went anyway because there was food. *shrug*
Since I have never been on a date before, I think the effort failed. But the food was decent.
T
Nope. Not the purpose of church by any means. BUT, it's the best place to do it 
. Faith should be what is most important to a Christian, right? So what can be a better place to meet a potential mate? Programs and stuff...meh. I guess I've never seen the need of that segregation. But I'm from a really small church so...whatever.
. Faith should be what is most important to a Christian, right? So what can be a better place to meet a potential mate? Programs and stuff...meh. I guess I've never seen the need of that segregation. But I'm from a really small church so...whatever.
Hi Zi,
I agree! We are the temple of the Holy Spirit. Not the building. A building is brick and mortar. The building doesn't become holy until we step into it.
So yeah, when we come together whoever we are, we are the church and we do what we are to do together. Fellowship, meals, teaching, singing.......it's all worship unto the Lord. We are to be the temple 24/7 no matter what we are doing. Shopping, pumping gas into the car, depositing money at the bank, etc........we're always the body no matter where we are.
So if singles who are believers come together, they are the church because the Holy Spirit indwells them.
So any aspect of the life of believers is when the body comes together for whatever purposes. At least that's how I see it. But I'm teachable if I'm incorrect in my thinking.
Hi Zi,
I agree! We are the temple of the Holy Spirit. Not the building. A building is brick and mortar. The building doesn't become holy until we step into it.
So yeah, when we come together whoever we are, we are the church and we do what we are to do together. Fellowship, meals, teaching, singing.......it's all worship unto the Lord. We are to be the temple 24/7 no matter what we are doing. Shopping, pumping gas into the car, depositing money at the bank, etc........we're always the body no matter where we are.
So if singles who are believers come together, they are the church because the Holy Spirit indwells them.
So any aspect of the life of believers is when the body comes together for whatever purposes. At least that's how I see it. But I'm teachable if I'm incorrect in my thinking.
A few questions I think should be asked are.
How dose it make the church look to the outside world.? Does their group look like a fun place to meet people and hangout or do they look like people one can turn to for guidance in spiritual matters? And what if singles meetings lead to premarital sex for some? Even if their not members of that congragation, it would reflect poorly on them in the community. And lastly, would outsiders view the church as a group that dose fun things that can make people happy or are they as serious about our holy God and where people will spend eternity?
Just some things to consider.
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