Beware Blinders

[Foxtail]

Haha... straight to the Singles forum I go. lol


Long story short, last week I went on a first date with a guy I hadn't met before. "Blind," if you will. He told me he went to church twice on Sundays, probed me about the authenticity of my faith. We had a lot in common and we talked all the way to midnight.

Things went pretty well but today I told him we were done. And I'm a little unsettled about the whole affair.

The details aren't the important part, it's more about the expression, "love is blind." We see this all the time with people in obviously toxic relationships, but they can't see how bad the other person is for them.

What's unsettling is how fast those blinders come up. One good date, and I suddenly became dumb and naive and missed comments that were beyond red flags. I wasn't even swooning over the guy. After one date with a stranger, I just was ready to get to know him. And yet... I had already started building in my mind what kind of person he was and when he point blank showed me his true nature I didn't see it.


I'm not hurt, I'm okay. I wouldn't even go so far to say that he's a horrible person. All I wanted to say is to be careful. Man or woman, watch those blinders.

 

[Dino246]

Thanks for sharing. Welcome to CC Singles. It's safer here, but we can be a bit crazy at times.

 

[Lynx]

Speak for yourself Dino. Some of us are more sane than sanity itself.

Welcome to the forum Foxtail. And unfortunately what you say is all true - them blinders come on real quick. I've never been there myself but I've seen a lot of friends with the blinders on. I think it has something to do with wanting so badly for it to be true that you ignore all indications that it might be false.

 

[toinena]

Thanks for sharing. Welcome to CC Singles. It's safer here, but we can be a bit crazy at times.

I am not sure. There are some crazy people here that surely can make a wounderable woman like my self feel quite unsafe. Redflag alert should be handed out for sure. Also here. There are some safe people here, though. (I am not that wounderable. I am God's bulldozer regarding men. Hitting my head against the wall over and over again. One day it is going to break. I just hope my headache will not kill me or drive me insane before that day).

Welcome to CC Foxtail. I hope you will enjoy it here.

 

[toinena]

Speak for yourself Dino. Some of us are more sane than sanity itself.

Welcome to the forum Foxtail. And unfortunately what you say is all true - them blinders come on real quick. I've never been there myself but I've seen a lot of friends with the blinders on. I think it has something to do with wanting so badly for it to be true that you ignore all indications that it might be false.

Ehh.. Does a man posing as a Lynx count as sane??????? Well. Actually you are one of the more sane ones here. That says alot, doesn't it?

 

[Foxtail]

Lol thanks everyone for the warm welcome. And it's okay! Crazy I can handle.

Speak for yourself Dino. Some of us are more sane than sanity itself.

Welcome to the forum Foxtail. And unfortunately what you say is all true - them blinders come on real quick. I've never been there myself but I've seen a lot of friends with the blinders on. I think it has something to do with wanting so badly for it to be true that you ignore all indications that it might be false.

I've seen it happen to my friends time and time again. Real problems can seem so obvious to outside parties. I guess I thought that I would be very shrewd about any man who'd knock on my door. Blah, this must be why falling in love is so hard for me. I never want to lose my wit and let my heart feel.

 

[Yahweh_is_gracious]

I went on a blind date once. It was horrible. I ended the date before our appetizer even arrived, then went to the friends who set the thing up and chewed them out for knowing me so badly they thought the woman they had set me up with was suitable.

Ugh. My jaw clenches just thinking about it.