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JosephsDreams

JosephsDreams

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...ideal of perfection in a spouse or gf/bf that you had in mind? Or even your ex spouse or ex bf/gf if you are not married or not dating at this moment.

His he or she a 9 out of 10?
A 5 out of 10?
A 9.9 out of 10?

What was the area he or she most different then your "perfect" or idealized dream mate?

My wife was a 9.5 out of 10. I did not like her short hair and sometimes she was a little to intense.
Otherwise her personality, communication, spirituality, humor, looks, work ethic, morality, mannerisms and loyalty were about right on for what was the quintessential mate for me.
 
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Yahweh_is_gracious

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Both of the women who were wives were pretty far off from what I would have preferred. I settled though, so that's on me.

I didn't like their personalities, their sense of humor, their beliefs, and I wasn't attracted to either of them. They were willing to put up with me though, and back then, that was enough.
 
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Stranger36147

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She's a perfect ten.

Oh wait, my imagination doesn't count. Nevermind, sorry.
 
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NoNameMcgee

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JosephsDreams said:
...ideal of perfection in a spouse or gf/bf that you had in mind? Or even your ex spouse or ex bf/gf if you are not married or not dating at this moment.

His he or she a 9 out of 10?
A 5 out of 10?
A 9.9 out of 10?

What was the area he or she most different then your "perfect" or idealized dream mate?

My wife was a 9.5 out of 10. I did not like her short hair and sometimes she was a little to intense.
Otherwise her personality, communication, spirituality, humor, looks, work ethic, morality, mannerisms and loyalty were about right on for what was the quintessential mate for me.
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*ahem* (singles thread)


im sure if i had a wife shed be a 10 to me
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WineRose

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One out of ten. He never gives me any chocolates of bouquets, ignores me when I'm in the room, and he never lets me kiss him! He has never even said "I love you" to me before, and we've been in this for 15 years! 15!!! SO disrespectful!!! The ONLY reason why this isn't a zero out of ten is because we don't ever fight, and he always shows up to dates...but he still NEVER SPEAKS!!! And yet...despite all this...I still desperately need him. I feel as if I would've not even existed if it weren't for him, and if he left my side even for a few minutes, I would just die...
 
Lynx

Lynx

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Yeah McGee, that was my first thought. We single folk here.

But even if I were married, I don't have any idea what my ideal would be because I haven't made up a construct in my mind of what the perfect wife for me would be. It always seemed futile when I don't even know what she will be like if I ever do meet her.
 
WineRose

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WineRose said:
One out of ten. He never gives me any chocolates ​or bouquets, ignores me when I'm in the room, and he never lets me kiss him! He has never even said "I love you" to me before, and we've been in this for 15 years! 15!!! SO disrespectful!!! The ONLY reason why this isn't a zero out of ten is because we don't ever fight, and he always shows up to dates...but he still NEVER SPEAKS!!! And yet...despite all this...I still desperately need him. I feel as if I would've not even existed if it weren't for him, and if he left my side even for a few minutes, I would just die...
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Corrections... :/
 
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WineRose said:
One out of ten. He never gives me any chocolates of bouquets, ignores me when I'm in the room, and he never lets me kiss him! He has never even said "I love you" to me before, and we've been in this for 15 years! 15!!! SO disrespectful!!! The ONLY reason why this isn't a zero out of ten is because we don't ever fight, and he always shows up to dates...but he still NEVER SPEAKS!!! And yet...despite all this...I still desperately need him. I feel as if I would've not even existed if it weren't for him, and if he left my side even for a few minutes, I would just die...
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hard to believe,I mean even I a nearly unsocial person would have plenty to talk to you about,honestly if I had a wife or girlfriend that didn't talk to me,I'd either think she hates me or I've done something wrong,I appreciate the peace of silence but if it was nearly everyday I'd go stir crazy or worse start bugging the tar out of her lol!
 
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SweetmorningDew78

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I just came here to read the comments :D



















God bless ❤
 
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My guy is wonderful, but definitely not perfect so I wouldn't give him 10/10. One of the things that we struggle with quite a bit is communication and the other is he works quite a bit (not his fault, the nature of the business)....from the moment we met our eyes locked and I knew there was something about him, just couldn't put my finger on and he is able to read my mind for the most part and can tell me what it is I am thinking which is truly remarkable. I would give him 8 out of 10....so he would have room for improvement, but never perfect because I like him to have some flaws :)
 
Dino246

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Methinks this thread is just askin' fer trouble...
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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JosephsDreams said:
...ideal of perfection in a spouse or gf/bf that you had in mind? Or even your ex spouse or ex bf/gf if you are not married or not dating at this moment.

His he or she a 9 out of 10?
A 5 out of 10?
A 9.9 out of 10?

What was the area he or she most different then your "perfect" or idealized dream mate?

My wife was a 9.5 out of 10. I did not like her short hair and sometimes she was a little to intense.
Otherwise her personality, communication, spirituality, humor, looks, work ethic, morality, mannerisms and loyalty were about right on for what was the quintessential mate for me.
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Hey JosephsDreams, I hope I'm not being presumptuous here, but I thought, from your other posts, that you aren't married to this woman anymore (or anyone else), correct?

So may I ask, if she was a 9.5 out of the 10 that you wanted, what went wrong?

It's interesting because it just goes to show that even if we get most (or everything) of what we want, there's still no guarantee the relationship will work out or survive...
 
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joefizz

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Dino246 said:
Methinks this thread is just askin' fer trouble...
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not for us "Single" people,we can still dream and envision a great spouse,oh how interesting it is to do so...
 
WineRose

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joefizz said:
hard to believe,I mean even I a nearly unsocial person would have plenty to talk to you about,honestly if I had a wife or girlfriend that didn't talk to me,I'd either think she hates me or I've done something wrong,I appreciate the peace of silence but if it was nearly everyday I'd go stir crazy or worse start bugging the tar out of her lol!
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Uhh...joe, did you...get it? :p Lol.
 
JosephsDreams

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seoulsearch said:
Hey JosephsDreams, I hope I'm not being presumptuous here, but I thought, from your other posts, that you aren't married to this woman anymore (or anyone else), correct?

So may I ask, if she was a 9.5 out of the 10 that you wanted, what went wrong?

It's interesting because it just goes to show that even if we get most (or everything) of what we want, there's still no guarantee the relationship will work out or survive...
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That's why I said she WAS...in this realm of existence anyway. She's in heaven now.
Maybe I should have said diseased wife...sorry if I did not make it clear.
I am not married. Just a single dad blessed raising two wonderful girls.
 
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seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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JosephsDreams said:
That's why I said she WAS...in this realm of existence anyway. She's in heaven now.
Maybe I should have said diseased wife...sorry if I did not make it clear.
I am not married. Just a single dad blessed raising two wonderful girls.
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I am very, very sorry for your loss.

May God bless you and your family.
 
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