Pleasing the wife? 
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I happen to believe that a loving and faithful husband providing for his wife and trying to please her is a respectable thing in the eyes of God. If God is placed in the center of the marriage it can become a ministry in itself as well as the ministry of setting a good example outside of the home and in the workplace. I don't believe that being single can necessarily add to being a humble servant of the Lord and that being married doesn't necessarily subtract from this either. Being a humble servant of the Lord is a matter of allowing Him to guide you and work through you regardless of your marital status.
My ex cheated on me too. I can understand your acceptance of your current single status. Based on my experience from my first marriage I chose to remain single and celibate for 18 years. The thing is, I was just really living only for myself and I eventually found that lacking. Divorce can leave one very bitter about the whole marriage thing.
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we are SUPPOSED to cherish our wife
which involves making her happy
but theres a reason scriptures talk about this...
if you choose to not marry
and devote yourself to God
you may recieve great rewards
like those who made themselfs like eunuchs
Matthew 19:12
12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
◄ 2135. eunouchos ►
Strong's Concordance
eunouchos: a eunuch
Original Word: εὐνοῦχος, ου, ὁ
Part of Speech: Noun, Masculine
Transliteration: eunouchos
Phonetic Spelling: (yoo-noo'-khos)
Short Definition: a eunuch, keeper of the bed-chamber
Definition: (a) a chamberlain, keeper of the bed-chamber of an eastern potentate, eunuch, (b) a eunuch, castrated person, or one who voluntarily abstains from marriage.
but to have a good husband or wife after Gods heart
who truely loves you here on earth
is a blessing here on earth
and you can still live for God
i dont think we should say either is "better" than the other....
which involves making her happy
but theres a reason scriptures talk about this...
if you choose to not marry
and devote yourself to God
you may recieve great rewards
like those who made themselfs like eunuchs
Matthew 19:12
12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
◄ 2135. eunouchos ►
Strong's Concordance
eunouchos: a eunuch
Original Word: εὐνοῦχος, ου, ὁ
Part of Speech: Noun, Masculine
Transliteration: eunouchos
Phonetic Spelling: (yoo-noo'-khos)
Short Definition: a eunuch, keeper of the bed-chamber
Definition: (a) a chamberlain, keeper of the bed-chamber of an eastern potentate, eunuch, (b) a eunuch, castrated person, or one who voluntarily abstains from marriage.
but to have a good husband or wife after Gods heart
who truely loves you here on earth
is a blessing here on earth
and you can still live for God
i dont think we should say either is "better" than the other....
I find no fault with your wise words my good man. Entering into marriage is definitely not something to be taken lightly because it will come with a cost, sometimes a great cost. I realized this and accepted it and found that it was well worth the cost of admission to become a married man once again. I especially concur with your last sentence. I believe that you would make an excellent husband if you were to chose, with the grace of God to walk down that path.
After reading through this thread, I have to say that I can certainly relate to both "sides" of this discussion...
When my husband left me, I was devastated, miserable, and my greatest fear in life was being alone forever. I had hoped to find someone as soon as possible (after the divorce was finalized), but God has had other plans.
I've been single now for 15 years, and while it took almost all that time for the dream to die down (a little), God has turned my attention to other things (such as looking out for other singles), and that desperate sting of trying to find someone RIGHT NOW has eventually dulled.
I would still like to find someone and I still hope to not be alone forever.
But I just know that I'm a lot less anxious about it than I used to be, and because of that, am able to enjoy some of the good things in life a lot more than I used to.
P.S. Tommy, best wishes on your date. Not all women are train wrecks, I promise.
Actually, I think I'm more like a shipwreck--my heart sank straight to the bottom--but with God's help, it is being resurrected.
When my husband left me, I was devastated, miserable, and my greatest fear in life was being alone forever. I had hoped to find someone as soon as possible (after the divorce was finalized), but God has had other plans.
I've been single now for 15 years, and while it took almost all that time for the dream to die down (a little), God has turned my attention to other things (such as looking out for other singles), and that desperate sting of trying to find someone RIGHT NOW has eventually dulled.
I would still like to find someone and I still hope to not be alone forever.
But I just know that I'm a lot less anxious about it than I used to be, and because of that, am able to enjoy some of the good things in life a lot more than I used to.
P.S. Tommy, best wishes on your date. Not all women are train wrecks, I promise.
Actually, I think I'm more like a shipwreck--my heart sank straight to the bottom--but with God's help, it is being resurrected.
C
I'd imagine the work of the Lord is full devotion to God in whatever way that is possible.
Paul's just saying that if you are married, your interests will be divided into pleasing God and pleasing your wife.
Finding a good wife is like finding a precious treasure, a good wife shouldn't subtract too much from pleasing God, and won't need much to be pleased.
An ungrateful and unhappy wife... no matter your actions... is something best to be avoided.
I'm truly happy for you if you have found a great wife!
However, the rest of us are on the singles forums for whatever God declares as his purpose for us
I am spending my time to be 100% devoted to God.
Paul's just saying that if you are married, your interests will be divided into pleasing God and pleasing your wife.
Finding a good wife is like finding a precious treasure, a good wife shouldn't subtract too much from pleasing God, and won't need much to be pleased.
An ungrateful and unhappy wife... no matter your actions... is something best to be avoided.
I'm truly happy for you if you have found a great wife!
However, the rest of us are on the singles forums for whatever God declares as his purpose for us
I am spending my time to be 100% devoted to God.
I don't know her personally but I think it's unfair to accuse her of this. :/ We're all different.
One of my greatest desires is to find someone who gets me emotionally without judging. And sometimes I may not understand why all people don't think like me. Lol But, we'd be in trouble if they did, so I'm thankful they don't. I believe our differences help balance things.
After reading through this thread, I have to say that I can certainly relate to both "sides" of this discussion...
When my husband left me, I was devastated, miserable, and my greatest fear in life was being alone forever. I had hoped to find someone as soon as possible (after the divorce was finalized), but God has had other plans.
I've been single now for 15 years, and while it took almost all that time for the dream to die down (a little), God has turned my attention to other things (such as looking out for other singles), and that desperate sting of trying to find someone RIGHT NOW has eventually dulled.
I would still like to find someone and I still hope to not be alone forever.
But I just know that I'm a lot less anxious about it than I used to be, and because of that, am able to enjoy some of the good things in life a lot more than I used to.
P.S. Tommy, best wishes on your date. Not all women are train wrecks, I promise.
Actually, I think I'm more like a shipwreck--my heart sank straight to the bottom--but with God's help, it is being resurrected.
When my husband left me, I was devastated, miserable, and my greatest fear in life was being alone forever. I had hoped to find someone as soon as possible (after the divorce was finalized), but God has had other plans.
I've been single now for 15 years, and while it took almost all that time for the dream to die down (a little), God has turned my attention to other things (such as looking out for other singles), and that desperate sting of trying to find someone RIGHT NOW has eventually dulled.
I would still like to find someone and I still hope to not be alone forever.
But I just know that I'm a lot less anxious about it than I used to be, and because of that, am able to enjoy some of the good things in life a lot more than I used to.
P.S. Tommy, best wishes on your date. Not all women are train wrecks, I promise.
Actually, I think I'm more like a shipwreck--my heart sank straight to the bottom--but with God's help, it is being resurrected.
I told you we could meet up, I still got those Applebees gift cards to use. After 9 it's half priced appetizers.
Yeah, I was being facetious. Sorry, I should have put more indications that I was not being completely serious in my previous post. Maybe a few smileys or something.
Galatea: Please be aware my previous post was facetious. (Besides, I couldn't imagine that website paying anybody enough to be a shill on a forum.)
But really, you are ALWAYS talking about being single as though it is something broken that needs to be fixed. If you are not happily single I can understand that, put please understand that "single" is not always a problem. It is not always something terribly wrong that needs correcting by finding a spouse.
And please try to not make blanket statements about all singles when you're complaining about the trials of single-hood. Some of us are happy.
Galatea: Please be aware my previous post was facetious. (Besides, I couldn't imagine that website paying anybody enough to be a shill on a forum.)
But really, you are ALWAYS talking about being single as though it is something broken that needs to be fixed. If you are not happily single I can understand that, put please understand that "single" is not always a problem. It is not always something terribly wrong that needs correcting by finding a spouse.
And please try to not make blanket statements about all singles when you're complaining about the trials of single-hood. Some of us are happy.