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    Hey Everyone,

    Have you ever slightly "embellished" your single status?

    In other words, have you ever told someone that you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, when you were actually as single as the day is long?

    Maybe it was to avoid some unsavory person who kept making advances (including your Aunt Thelma, who always pinches your cheeks and tells you that you need to get married.)

    I was once in a situation where a guy from a local maintenance company kept asking my co-workers about me in Spanish, and it was making me a bit uncomfortable--NOT because he spoke another language, but because he would look me up and down like a steak thrown on the grill and then talk to people right in front of me while making gestures. I did my best to avoid him as much as possible.

    Lo and behold, a few months later, this guy was replaced--by his brother--and I had the same kinds of uncomfortable encounters with the second brother as well (and both of these guys were huge--they had arms the size of my legs and could have easily snapped me in half like a toothpick.)

    Now please understand, I am NOT saying anything bad AT ALL against huge muscle-bound men who speak other languages (I know some women would swoon), but for me, I felt uneasy because a person can usually tell when someone doesn't have the best of intentions. And it's even more uncomfortable when they keep talking about you in a different language (I don't know if they spoke much or any English, but Spanish was all they spoke in front of me) and you have no idea if your safety is on the line.

    So just in case these two had any other brothers or other family members that I wanted to avoid, I was tempted to ask my Spanish-speaking co-workers to please tell them that I had a boyfriend who was a Green Beret Marine with a nasty jealous streak and a huge knife collection!!

    (Please note that I am NOT, in any way, shape, or form, trying to insult or put down anyone who doesn't speak English as their native language--I'm simply trying to illustrate how uncomfortable the situation was to me.)

    Fortunately, my first defense tactic of choice--complete avoidance--worked well enough that I didn't have to make up any stories that I might later be required to prove.

    How about the rest of you?

    * Have you ever told someone you had a significant other when you really didn't? What were your reasons?

    * Would you consider doing so a lie, and do you feel it could be justified? Why or why not?

    * Has anyone ever told YOU that they had a significant other, but you later found out that they really didn't? What were the reasons, and how did you react? Did you confront them about it, and what did they say?

    I would love to hear your thoughts and experiences.

    Thank you for sharing. <3
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    Default Re: Have You Ever Told Someone That You Have a Significant Other When You Actually Do

    I've done it a few times, and there are some, I wish had done that to also.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tommy379 View Post
    I've done it a few times, and there are some, I wish had done that to also.

    I knew a guy in college whose girlfriend apparently got so much attention (according to him), that she went so far as to wear a fake wedding ring.

    I'm not sure how I feel about that.

    I certainly understand the reasoning behind it but I have to admit that I'd be uncomfortable about it, especially if people tried to ask me about my "husband."

    (I'm not criticizing you at all, Tommy ... Just kind of thinking out loud as to how I'd feel if that were my situation.)
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    So you are talking about like girlfriends, right? Not like the inner significant others thing going on. Right?




    am I saying any of this out loud?
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    Quote Originally Posted by 17Bees View Post
    So you are talking about like girlfriends, right? Not like the inner significant others thing going on. Right?




    am I saying any of this out loud?
    No.

    It's all in your head.

    You can go back to talking to the other voices now, 17.
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    Quote Originally Posted by seoulsearch View Post
    No.

    It's all in your head.

    You can go back to talking to the other voices now, 17.

    that's a relief! ha ha. .....


    umm.... are you one of em'?

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    Quote Originally Posted by 17Bees View Post
    that's a relief! ha ha. .....


    umm.... are you one of em'?
    Why, of course.

    And I just happen to be the most important one of all: I am the Voice of Reason.

    Just don't take anything I say too seriously.

    Look around at some of the things I say... You'll see that reason has no place here.
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    Quote Originally Posted by seoulsearch View Post
    Why, of course.

    And I just happen to be the most important one of all: I am the Voice of Reason.

    Just don't take anything I say too seriously.



    Look around at some of the things I say... You'll see that reason has no place here.

    the voice of reason is pretty talkative.


    here i thought the voice of chastity wouldn't shut up.
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    Quote Originally Posted by 17Bees View Post
    the voice of reason is pretty talkative.


    here i thought the voice of chastity wouldn't shut up.
    Who do you think has to keep the Voice of Chastity in line?

    If Reason didn't keep giving Chastity pep talks, Chastity would eventually give up and say, "I'm done with trying to babysit all your actions!! Y'all are on your own--and good luck with that!!!"
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    I don't know what's going on with YOU guys...

    but I would never let the voices in MY head have their on CC account and post in the forums without me.



    Somebody around here need to keep a little better watch over their voices.

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    I haven't lied about my status. If I were to say "I have a boyfriend" in response to an unwanted advance, it might imply that I only rejected the guy because I'm taken, not because I'm just not interested (which is the real reason). Then the guy might think if I didn't have a boyfriend, I would date him, which is not the case. I would rather just say that upfront.
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    Default Re: Have You Ever Told Someone That You Have a Significant Other When You Actually Do

    What is a significant other??
    Spouse I know. Wife or husband. My better half.
    She who must be obeyed.

    But significant other? Is this a real person?

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    No, but I have met people claiming that they didn't have a significant other.

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    Quote Originally Posted by seoulsearch View Post
    I knew a guy in college whose girlfriend apparently got so much attention (according to him), that she went so far as to wear a fake wedding ring.

    I'm not sure how I feel about that.

    I certainly understand the reasoning behind it but I have to admit that I'd be uncomfortable about it, especially if people tried to ask me about my "husband."

    (I'm not criticizing you at all, Tommy ... Just kind of thinking out loud as to how I'd feel if that were my situation.)
    Apparently I'm so damn sexy, these women force me to it. We have some really pushy broads up here..... They are making sexual advances towards me often. I'm just not into them. I guess someone is according to the number of kids they have and former boyfriend's names tattooed on them. I just have too much respect for mini-me. Some girl that was in the first half of her 20s asked me if I'd cook dinner for her sometime. I didn't know her. I said oh sure. I get home from work, and she is in my driveway with a suitcase. I told that one my mom was coming over. My mother has been dead for over 12 years.

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    I play gay to shut down advances from women. Probably excessive, but effective. Kind of gives me a reputation, but nothing I can't handle.
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    Yes... back when the chat rooms were more of a big thing here I had a very persistent, very pushy man that kept wanting my number messaging me... so I told him I had a boyfriend.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pipp View Post
    Yes... back when the chat rooms were more of a big thing here I had a very persistent, very pushy man that kept wanting my number messaging me... so I told him I had a boyfriend.
    Hey cutie.... put your number in my phone.

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    There have been times I have been tempted to tell matchmakers a few other things... but I was polite and didn't say what I was thinking, bless their meddling little well-meaning hearts. But no, I have never considered claiming a chimerical girlfriend.

    seoulsearch in situations like the OP I think claiming a defensive (preferably body-building) older brother would be more effective. =^.^= Or claiming ownership of a pocket taser, complete with a threatened demonstration of its efficacy.
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    Does setting my online profile to "married" count?
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    Quote Originally Posted by AbigailZeke View Post
    Does setting my online profile to "married" count?
    That would definitely be a deterrent for some.
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