Good Guys versus Bad Boyz book

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Batman1978

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Hey everyone, a new book have just been published called "Good Guys versus Bad Boyz".

The links are below:
http://goodguysversusbadboyz.weebly.com/
(Temporary site)
http://www.authorhouse.com/Bookstore/ItemDetail.aspx?bookid=70248 (US)
http://www.authorhouse.co.uk/Bookstore/ItemDetail.aspx?bookid=70248 (UK)
 http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=542497268#!/group.php?gid=129611273724296&v=info

The description are as follows (let me know what you think):
The book is written for the Good Guys i.e. nerds, respectable, decent, quality, etc. guys out there that have trouble winning over a woman's heart.

In this present world, and centuries before, Good Guys have always/mostly lost out to the Bad Boyz. This book reveals where Good Guys go wrong in their pursuit of a woman and how they can fix their problems. It also reveals the Bad Boyz traits used to win women over and how Good Guys can utilize some of those traits to win a lady without compromising their morals or value systems. It's based on research done from interviews with women and men of different ages, races, cultures, relationship statuses, and religions.

The book is mostly aimed at the Christian Good Guys of the world but it is also applicable to any Good Guy of any religion or stature. The book provides good and sound practical information that would level the ground in the Good Guys versus Bad Boyz battle. But in all honesty it gives the Good Guys an advantage over the Bad Boyz.

The book is applicable to the modern day man and uses smart and witty slang of the day.

Published by:
AuthorHouse™ UK Ltd.
500 Avebury Boulevard
Central Milton Keynes, MK9 2BE
UK Book Publishers, Books, Self-Publishing Publish a Book, UK Self-Publishers
Phone: 08001974150

ISBN: 9781449095482

Target market: its mostly aimed at guys, but the book was given to a few females to read and they loved it. The part they mostly like is where it is explained why women fall for Bad Boyz instead of the Good Guys…so females go ahead and read away.

Pricing: the book is available on the AuthorHouse UK and US website, by middle July 2010 it will be available on 25000 difference international websites including Amazon UK. At the moment its £6.90 on the UK site and $10.40 on the US site. If you live in those countries you would pay the normal delivery fee, but if you live abroad you would pay a pricy shipping fee, but as said the book will soon be available on different websites internationally so it would be cheaper to buy it in your own country (pricing of the book would also differ from country to country), otherwise you can buy it now if you don’t want to wait.

Peace.
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Well, I don't think the right recipie is to change one selves so that that will make one better succeed. I think it is wrong to change so that one can seem and look more attractive. I have always thought that when girls never fall for a good guy, they are being mostly simpleminded and more focused on how the world describes love, passion and romance. They focuse more on the lustly desires of the world than on what's pure and good. Whilst the good guys are often what is described in books about princesses, they are the ones who will respect and protect their wives, love them for who they are, care for them and taking care of them. Girls/Women in general needs to learn what are the real sources of finding a boyfriend and a mate for life, or that if they aren't ready for long lasting relationship that they should rather wait till they are marital ready. The same it goes for guys/men.

We are living and learning about many myths seen through the world's eyes, not necessarily seen the way God sees it. If we could try focusing more and seeing it more the way God does, that's when we will succeed more for sure.
 
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Batman1978

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Ah darling, you would have to read the book first before making a judgment call on it. The book has sound knowledge and believe me it will help any guy alot and you ladies will benefit from it. Its more about just teaching guys on how to win a lady they like, its about becoming a great and responsible man of God too. The old saying goes "Never judge a book by its cover" is so true. Please read the book and you will see whats it all about. Believe me, there's nothing sinister about this book.

Most ladies usually ask "Where are all the Good Guys???" and "Why haven't I found a good husband yet? Why Lord, WHY???". Well they are out there and closer than you think but they lack the knowledge to come up to you and ask you out, and this is where this book come in to help those good guys, and as I said: in turn you will benefit coz then you will gain a good husband.

Thank you for your comment.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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How has this book been of any benefit to you personally???
 
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Batman1978

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I'm the author dear.

The book is based on research I've done from interviewing mostly women, so this is my findings.

So its not stuff I've sucked out of my thumb. Personally the info has done wonders in my life, I am more confident, bolder, its also easier to profess my faith. people don't see me as a spiritual freak anymore (especially women) coz I'm more balanced, and stronger.

I gave the book to some guys that was hopeless at winning a woman's hand and now thankfully they can.

as i said, this book is nothing sinister, theres alot of scriptures to back up my findings.

any other questions?
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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This is not meaning to come off as rude, if it does i apologize, but if you know all of this stuff about women now. How come your not married???
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
This is not meaning to come off as rude, if it does i apologize, but if you know all of this stuff about women now. How come your not married???
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Ever heard the expression "Those who can't do teach?"
 
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No.................
 
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Batman1978

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its fine, its not rude of you to ask...lots of people ask me that.

well, in terms of the word "success" it has different meanings to different people. some people think that being a single and a millionaire travelling the world is success, others think having a wife and two kids by the age of 30 is success. success depends on your culture, backround and your environment. Me: well i would like to think that i am successful even though i am single. I am content being 32 and single, in fact I said that when I'm 33 I will only consider going into a serious relationship, the other factor is also that i haven't found anyone i would want to get married to,plus i have a few projects i want to finish this year that is taking alot of my time...but that won't stop me pursuing a woman i think is worthy of being a potential wife.

Most Christian relationship books written out there are from pastors that got married at an early age, statistics prove that there's a higher divorce rate in people that got married under the age of 25 than people that got married above 25. In the USA alone 56% of Christian marriages end in divorce, thats alot and not a good reputation to hold, reason being for this is that unfortunately the stigma in the church is that if you're 25 and over and still single you are labelled as a loser, or there must be something wrong with you. You actually only get to know who you are when you above 28. Thats why guys that married under the age of 25 have affairs in their nineth/tenth year of marriage coz they go through this "mid-life" crisis as they only find out then who they really are and what they could have achieved if they weren't married. So they are stuck in a marriage with a wife and three kids so tired already while their single friends are enjoying the single life, and now hey want it too.

I was engaged before and that is a long story on its own, but looking back i am so glad i didn't get married then. Not condemning marriage as i do so much wanna get married but as i said i am content being a single person. Also statistics doesn't lie.

Let me know if i answered your question.
 
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lightbliss

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Batman1978 said:
Thats why guys that married under the age of 25 have affairs in their nineth/tenth year of marriage coz they go through this "mid-life" crisis as they only find out then who they really are and what they could have achieved if they weren't married.
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Really, it's just an excuse not an explanation. There is no just reason to cheat on your spouse ever. If you're bored and "want to have fun", try counseling or a time machine.

Also: fun/knowing who you are = cheat on spouse?
 
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Batman1978

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unfortunately that is what's happening out there. Marriage or any type of relationship is hard work, it just doesn't run on love and fresh air. did you know that 80% of marriages fail due to finances?

And the reality is that the only person you can control is yourself. If you would get married now or go into a relationship you won't be able to control your partner, i.e. where he goes without you and who he talks to when you're not around,what he does without your knowledge, etc., you would have to trust him, but people change over the years as well as their interests and priorities, and thats why you have to work at it constantly.

Why do you think great men of God, pastors, apostles, etc commit adultery, have homosexual relationships, divorce their wives so they can marry some other woman in their church, etc? Coz no one is exempt from temptation, and when it comes its your decision in that time that makes the difference.

Men's brains are totally different to woman, sexually women are stimulated emotionally and over a long period of time, and for men all they have to do is accidentally get a glimps of a part of your leg and they will be aroused. no matter who you are, if you are male, saved for ten years or not, we all are stimulated like that. Thats why we men have to up our game in the self-control sector of our lives as temptation is an ongoing battle.

Most Christians think that when they get married its happily ever after from there onwards but its not the case, and you can ask any couple, even your parents. As i said it is hard work but the benefits are great.
 
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lightbliss said:
Really, it's just an excuse not an explanation. There is no just reason to cheat on your spouse ever. If you're bored and "want to have fun", try counseling or a time machine.

Also: fun/knowing who you are = cheat on spouse?
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Sounds more like the wisdom of the world to me.
 
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Please explain DinoDillinger
 
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Well, I think if you look at society through a biblical perspective then it's not that guys discover who they are in their late 20's. It's that society is constantly teaching them...ME ME ME ME. I think for most of history people got married at young ages, and the typical reason nowadays for people staying single(purposefully) is because marriage is seen as bondage. This is often taught by "Christian" parents these days, not to waste the best years of your life in marriage but to go out and have fun. Now for alot of people, having "fun" includes random and casual sexual relationships to find out what kind of person you will want/be compatiable with in the future. The world teaches that you should find someone who is the most compatiable with you so that your life will go smoothly. So that the two people's wills will not conflict to often. Basically so that both of you can have your own way most the time.

Now for those who have been truly bought and redeemed by the blood of Jesus Christ, well they go through this process called santification. A big part of that, perhaps the whole of it in a nutshell is this...learning to not satify your own will, but the will of God. All things are worked by God to conform us into the image of His Son Jesus Christ, and He came not to be served but to serve and to give His life as a ransom for many. So then we are to lay down our lives, and in my experience, that is the most difficult to do with the people closest to you. Which for a married person is their spouse. I will not address my belief much but to say that in general churches in america today are mostly trying to teach goats to act like sheep in that it accounts for a fairly large amount of divorce in "Christianity". Now the remanant in the church is mostly taught new age ideas about why their marriage isn't working and not that we are supposed to submit to and lay down our lives for our mate which God has given us to help transform us into the image of Christ. To learn to love as God loves, not with precondition, not based on how they deserve to be loved according to their actions, but to love unconditionally, to love sacrifically, to love as we want to be loved.

Try telling most Christians in struggling marriages that God commands them to love this person who has hurt, mistreated and treated them like dirt and they will most likely respond with a "yea but they did this or that to me". People who know the bible enough like to use 1 Cor. 7 to point out how their mate is not living up to their end of the bargain. What they fail to realize is that they did not make a bargain with that person to treat one another a certain way, but they made a promise to God to treat their spouse that way regardless of their spouses meeting their promise to God.

I think this is why you see so much divorce in american christian circles. Not because they marry young, but because they love their life more than being godly, or are completely ignorant of what marriage is in the first place, which alot of people still haven't picked up in their 30s.
 
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Batman1978 said:
Hey everyone, a new book have just been published called "Good Guys versus Bad Boyz".

The links are below:
http://goodguysversusbadboyz.weebly.com/
(Temporary site)
http://www.authorhouse.com/Bookstore/ItemDetail.aspx?bookid=70248 (US)
http://www.authorhouse.co.uk/Bookstore/ItemDetail.aspx?bookid=70248 (UK)
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The description are as follows (let me know what you think):
The book is written for the Good Guys i.e. nerds, respectable, decent, quality, etc. guys out there that have trouble winning over a woman's heart.

In this present world, and centuries before, Good Guys have always/mostly lost out to the Bad Boyz. This book reveals where Good Guys go wrong in their pursuit of a woman and how they can fix their problems. It also reveals the Bad Boyz traits used to win women over and how Good Guys can utilize some of those traits to win a lady without compromising their morals or value systems. It's based on research done from interviews with women and men of different ages, races, cultures, relationship statuses, and religions.

The book is mostly aimed at the Christian Good Guys of the world but it is also applicable to any Good Guy of any religion or stature. The book provides good and sound practical information that would level the ground in the Good Guys versus Bad Boyz battle. But in all honesty it gives the Good Guys an advantage over the Bad Boyz.

The book is applicable to the modern day man and uses smart and witty slang of the day.

Published by:
AuthorHouse™ UK Ltd.
500 Avebury Boulevard
Central Milton Keynes, MK9 2BE
UK Book Publishers, Books, Self-Publishing Publish a Book, UK Self-Publishers
Phone: 08001974150

ISBN: 9781449095482

Target market: its mostly aimed at guys, but the book was given to a few females to read and they loved it. The part they mostly like is where it is explained why women fall for Bad Boyz instead of the Good Guys…so females go ahead and read away.

Pricing: the book is available on the AuthorHouse UK and US website, by middle July 2010 it will be available on 25000 difference international websites including Amazon UK. At the moment its £6.90 on the UK site and $10.40 on the US site. If you live in those countries you would pay the normal delivery fee, but if you live abroad you would pay a pricy shipping fee, but as said the book will soon be available on different websites internationally so it would be cheaper to buy it in your own country (pricing of the book would also differ from country to country), otherwise you can buy it now if you don’t want to wait.

Peace.
Batman 1978
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I have actually noticed this in my life with being an ex biker-had less attention from women when I was clean cut
 
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Very good explanation DonDillinger, couldn't agree with your more. Wish all men knew what you just said so that there wouldn't be that 56% divorce rate. A pastor once told a couple he was about to marry "Is this a biblical wedding or is this a celebrity wedding, coz biblical weddings produce till-death-do-us-part marriages, and celebrity weddings produce marriages that break up as soon as the first fight comes along."

To godsbluesman: i understand what you are saying and the Bad Boy approach might not have worked for you but probably for many others. Take a person like me: i have no idea how to be a bad boy, in fact there's not a bad boy bone in my body and in no way do i ever want to be one...i detest their actions, but almost the entire book of Proverbs teaches us to get wisdom and knowledge, even though it costs all you have you should strive for it, and that is what I've done, I've searched for it as i had very little knowlegde on how to win a woman's hand, but through searching for answers i have received it and now i don't have a problem winning a woman's hand.

In the book i talk extensivley about pure intentions, the difference between us Good Guys and the Bad Boyz is the intention of our hearts, now pure intentions doesn't mean that you have a pure intention of winning the woman you love even if it means you have to cheat, steal, kill, etc. No, you should win that woman fair and square.

Another point is that someone said that they don't believe that someone should change themselves just to win a woman, now my point is that if you have been doing and acting in the same manner for the past few years and its not getting you that girl then you definitely have to change something about you, I remember Pastor Phil Dooley of Hillsong (by the way he is the pastor of the Hillsong church here in Cape Town) said that the message of the Bible is still the same but the methods of bringing that message over changes all the time, and that being in the parameters of the Word of God.

Anyway, about the book: as i said earlier, don't make a judgment call until you at least read it, don't judge a book by its cover.

thanx for all the replies, nice to see different responses.
 
DinoDillinger

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I will also say that although lost women will go for the bad boys alot, and a fair share of christian women. There are still plenty of women who admire a godly man who has been given wisdom by God, fears God more than man, will still be a man i.e. a leader, and is a rock for them to build their life on like Jesus is our rock. The christian man though is not a rock because he posseses some great power in himself, but he is a rock because of steadfast hope and trust in his Lord.

Also, if anybody doesn't think that they shouldn't have to change to win a woman's heart then I would remind you that right now the bride of Christ is preparing for her Lord. While I would say that character is the thing we should be most focused on, men are also called to be protectors of their wife and family. So you christian guys should hit the gym, we should be in shape, likewise women, I'm not talking about people with certain medical problems so please don't blast me but americans in general look pretty slobish. Your future spouse deserves you at your best. :)
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
This is not meaning to come off as rude, if it does i apologize, but if you know all of this stuff about women now. How come your not married???
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that is so funny

reminds me of the minister of a church of about 40 elderly people who wrote a book on how to grow a church:D
 
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Without even reading the book I can tell you with a good probability what the"bad guy" tactics are that they want us geeks to use.

Confidence, showing that you can protect your wife and family.I agree these are good things and things that we should strive for.

But as for the other tactics that bad guys use, no way would I ever change my principles to become a douchebag so that girls will like me. I rather have no girls like me, than change my principles.

Don't know might be a good book and stuff, will look into it.
 
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Do you mind giving us a brief summary of the tactics without going too much into detail? Like the "Confidence and protection" thing mentioned in the post above.

Also, I don't get why people are so resistant to changing themselves to get a partner. Guys, you have to change yourself to be a Christian! Are you against changing yourself in THAT area of life too??? You have to be 100% willing to change to meet situations that arise. If you "find out who you are" and determine yourself to remain exactly that way forever, then you likely won't turn out too great XD

But, of course, compromising on morals is totally out of the question. As far as everything else goes (hobbies, interests, habits, ect.), then heck, why not.
 
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