As I meet people out socially and see other women, I'm wondering if people, at some point, don't really want someone of the opposite sex in their life romantically. Because they've been single so long and have their own ways of doing things that might be threatened by someone else being in their life, they really have no need or want for anybody else to be there. In fact, if you gave them the opportunity to be by themselves or have a really good romantic involvement, they would choose to be by themselves. I'm just wondering if, as you get older, you kinda get like that. Does anybody else think that might be the case?
do you get to an age where you just give up?
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A guy is sitting in the park on a bench, reading a book. All of a sudden, a scandily-clad, hot blond girl walks up and sits down next to him. Scooching over to him so that she's practically on top of him, she breathes into his ear, "You wanna have some super sex?"
The guy looks up at her, pauses, and replies, "I'll have the soup."
The guy looks up at her, pauses, and replies, "I'll have the soup."
I'll have to agree with Stranger, everyone is different.
I have no special gift for singleness but I'm trying to be productive and make use of the time I'm single.
When I'm in a relationship I'll have a lot less time for things.
Yeah... when you're in a relationship you have a lot less time.
Do you realize a girlfriend actually expects you to stop doing stuff and make time for her?
Some of them even expect you to listen to whatever it is they're always talking about that never seems to end.
Well, most of them do this really.
They'll come over uninvited, when they aren't expected, when you're doing something really super important like watching reruns of a ballgame from last year... and they'll expect you to just drop everything and like take them out or something.
And they'll text you.
They'll text you a lot.
And they'll send you pics of their new dress, and their shoes, and their handbag, and their dinner, and their stuff at work, and their favorite coffee mug, and something they found in their yard, and their family members, and their friends... but not their pretty friends. Never the pretty friends.
And when you're eating, they'll actually believe they have some kind of divine right to just reach over, snatch anything off your plate that takes their fancy, and just shove it down their pie hole.
Yep.
They think eating your food is romantic or something.
They really aren't right.
And you can't smack their little hand as it zips away from your plate clutching something yummy.
Nope.
You can't smack their hand like a petulant child who can't behave around civilized humans, and retrieve your stolen dinner, because eating your food is considered some kind of bizarre romantic ritual that somehow only the woman seems to know about.
So yeah, being in a relationship is great, but being single for a while isn't exactly like walking on broken glass.
I have no special gift for singleness but I'm trying to be productive and make use of the time I'm single.
When I'm in a relationship I'll have a lot less time for things.
Yeah... when you're in a relationship you have a lot less time.
Do you realize a girlfriend actually expects you to stop doing stuff and make time for her?
Some of them even expect you to listen to whatever it is they're always talking about that never seems to end.
Well, most of them do this really.
They'll come over uninvited, when they aren't expected, when you're doing something really super important like watching reruns of a ballgame from last year... and they'll expect you to just drop everything and like take them out or something.
And they'll text you.
They'll text you a lot.
And they'll send you pics of their new dress, and their shoes, and their handbag, and their dinner, and their stuff at work, and their favorite coffee mug, and something they found in their yard, and their family members, and their friends... but not their pretty friends. Never the pretty friends.
And when you're eating, they'll actually believe they have some kind of divine right to just reach over, snatch anything off your plate that takes their fancy, and just shove it down their pie hole.
Yep.
They think eating your food is romantic or something.
They really aren't right.
And you can't smack their little hand as it zips away from your plate clutching something yummy.
Nope.
You can't smack their hand like a petulant child who can't behave around civilized humans, and retrieve your stolen dinner, because eating your food is considered some kind of bizarre romantic ritual that somehow only the woman seems to know about.
So yeah, being in a relationship is great, but being single for a while isn't exactly like walking on broken glass.
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I gave up, but I don't know that aging had much to do with it. My Testosterone levels are wickedly high, so it's not low-T that has me saying "phooey" to women. I think it was just a combination of never finding anyone I was really interested in and not wanting to have children (hence a physical relationship was kind of just self-serving and pointless).
Not all women talk about things like shoes and dresses max! and there's nothing wrong with giving a guy his space...time spent together should be convenient for both parties the majority of the time, but still be left open for spontaneity. It's not always quantity of time...but absolutely quality of time spent...and after marriage...making yourself available for "alone" time when your partner needs you. Relationships are about being best friends and sharing some of the same interests...but more about loving one another and treating the other person like you want to be treated.
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To get back on topic....
I don't think it's always an age issue. Different people may have different reasons for giving up.
I, myself, had given up a little over a year ago. I had been so broken and heart so beat up I didn't think I had it in me to trust anyone again. Turns out I met someone special unexpectedly.
But the point is I didn't give up due to age.
But no doubt some feel the way you're speaking about as well. Even at my age I wonder how easy difficult it would be to adapt to sharing a life with someone since I'm so accustomed to doing things my way. But I also figure meeting the right person may make the adjustment worth it.
I don't think it's always an age issue. Different people may have different reasons for giving up.
I, myself, had given up a little over a year ago. I had been so broken and heart so beat up I didn't think I had it in me to trust anyone again. Turns out I met someone special unexpectedly.
But the point is I didn't give up due to age.
But no doubt some feel the way you're speaking about as well. Even at my age I wonder how easy difficult it would be to adapt to sharing a life with someone since I'm so accustomed to doing things my way. But I also figure meeting the right person may make the adjustment worth it.
I will throw my hat into this ring. I got saved in March of last year, and I was one of those types who had a drug problem, you know....drug to church? And at one point I THOUGHT I was a saved man, but realized I wasn't after I made some mistakes that changed my life immensely and ultimately led me to the realization that I was not a saved man. Like many, I was an adulterer, I went after women, and for one purpose, even going to church thinking I was a saved man, I still did it. That all changed. God can use anything and everything to draw a person to him and to convict a person of their sins. That I have no doubt he did for me, and I found Christ through it all. My point in throwing this out, is that now that I'm saved, and I know I am saved, I don't pursue women like I once did. I see them as beautiful and lovely and essential, but I don't desire to have them as I did before. But I've also to come to learn that when you're in God's will, and you have a desire in your heart and it's for the right reason and pleasing to Him, He will give you the desires of your heart. Woman was made as a help meet for man, doesn't mean man is greater or woman is less than man, it means that when they are brought together and married in the sight of God, they are one. They share trials, tribulations, joys, sorrows, work, fun, everything together. If your desire is to be alone, you can still serve God and be by yourself, just don't be surprised if the Lord sends you a woman along your way, because God stated in Genesis 2:18 That it is not good that man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. God knew that if man were to be alone, his heart would hurt for loneliness, after all, God made the heart of man. Marriage was a holy institution by God where the bed is not defiled. In this day and age, it's very hard because parents are not raising their children in the sight of God as they should be raised, and as they age, and horomones build up, they only hurt themselves by lusting and committing adultery and fornication. But that doesn't mean that they should give up or be alone. God has a plan, and if it is in His will to send you someone, He will do it. His word teaches us that He is not slack concerning His promise. It's a challenge to be single, I struggle with it everyday. But I know in my heart God has a grander plan for me, and if my heart is right with Him, He will send me someone truly special to share this walk of life with and embrace it with. Those are just my thoughts.
