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In my mind my disability is the biggest obstacle for me when talking about dating. My body is not deformed, but my muscles are getting weaker. I still walk some, but need a electrical wheelchair to get around to do my things. And my dog. And some help at home, too. From being active in playing, walking, dancing, skiing I have become overweight due to that I can't move around as I used to. So I blame my Muscular Dystrophy for both making me unattractive and fat. I hate my MD and I hate my body. But still I long for someone to love and being loved. It is a natural thing to long for, but can I actually blame anyone for not falling for me? Would I my self fall for someone with a disability? One said to me he would be a pervert if he would fancy a woman like me. Those words have been stuck with me for years.
I have had a crush on a man with a disability. It was fine that the man was sitting in a wheelchair. But it didn't lead to anything. Was it because we both knew we rather wanted an able bodied person? I am not sure. Perhaps it was because we both were uncomfortable with our bodies and abilities.
And what is a disability, anyway? Brain injuries, mental issues, traumatic past experiences, light autism, ADHD, illnesses of many kinds. Who is the most disabled one? The one sitting in a wheelchair, or the person having a less visible one?
For me a disability wouldn't ruin the fact that a person is Godly, kind, clever, patient, not abusive, non smoker and a fun person to be with, and if we both have feeling for each other, why shouldn't we date or even marry?
I have had a crush on a man with a disability. It was fine that the man was sitting in a wheelchair. But it didn't lead to anything. Was it because we both knew we rather wanted an able bodied person? I am not sure. Perhaps it was because we both were uncomfortable with our bodies and abilities.
And what is a disability, anyway? Brain injuries, mental issues, traumatic past experiences, light autism, ADHD, illnesses of many kinds. Who is the most disabled one? The one sitting in a wheelchair, or the person having a less visible one?
For me a disability wouldn't ruin the fact that a person is Godly, kind, clever, patient, not abusive, non smoker and a fun person to be with, and if we both have feeling for each other, why shouldn't we date or even marry?