Love means never having to say your sorry

[cinder]

Ok guys, I figured it out!

A kind gentleman on youtube explained why the character (Jenny) says it in the movie....

Oliver (Ryan O'Neal) gets upset when Jenny tries to persuade him to take advantage of an opportunity to mend his relationship with is father and he yells at her for it.... Jenny (who has terminal cancer) runs off heartbroken.... Oliver runs after her looking for her... When he finally finds her freezing on the front steps of their house... She had forgotten her house key... He is obviously very sorry for getting upset at her and she is still sobbing but waiting for him to say something.... Then he says, "Jenny.....I... I'm sorry." ....And Jenny looks at him and tells him assuredly... "Don't. Love means never having to say you're sorry."

So I was right... She was telling him that he never needs to tell her he's sorry... (because she loves and trusts him with all her heart)

Here is the clip... (spoiler alert!)

This just make me not like the saying more. Let's just say that if this was real life and he never said sorry, I'd predict a 99% chance that the relationship wouldn't last (well if you take out the terminal cancer bit because you have to be a pretty big jerk to run out on someone who's dying). Never believe someone who says you don't need to apologize because if you never do something to acknowledge when you mess up or hurt someone else that someone else will inevitably start to feel taken advantage of and unloved. Sometimes you just need to hear it even if it doesn't really change anything.

 

[MichaelOwen]

I'm really surprised nobody has used this yet, but remember what God's word teaches us about love. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7:
[SUP]4 [/SUP]Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,[SUP]5 [/SUP]Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
[SUP]6 [/SUP]Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
[SUP]7 [/SUP]Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

That is love, and it's more, unconditional love. That's how Christ feels towards us, and that's how we should feel towards each other. We shouldn't be envious, or prideful when it comes to a relationship or a marriage. We should all be of a humble heart when it comes to love, because God gives us love so we in turn can provide love to our friends, loved ones, even our enemies!
Just thought that would be worth mentioning

 

[christian74]

The other does not necessarily just “know” why the hurtful act or words occur. Let’s say that a man is at work and his boss cuts him down in front of his coworkers. The man is embarrassed and angry. He comes home and says a few choice hateful things to his wife. She doesn’t know why he is running her down. She thinks it is probably something to do with her. She doesn’t automatically know “Right, he is angry and hurt from stuff at work and just taking it out on me.” He should definitely apologize and tell her what is going on with him.

Unless a haircut is dramatic, a man may very well not notice his wife or girlfriend’s haircut or new dress or something.

Of course, first of all he shouldn't run her down in the first place, end of discussion, END OF DISCUSSION - I don't care what happened at work - it's just not acceptable.

My comment was premised in the context of two people in love, deeply in love, and obviously running him/her down because of having a bad day at work is not even an option. And if she thinks her husband's hurtful word somehow has to do with her, that is not an healthy relationship either. But yes, I'm not against apologizing at all, no problem with that. But, in the context of two people in love.. I think it's little different.

 

[Lighthearted]

Love means truly saying you're sorry when you've wronged someone. Love is also that person truly accepting your apology and letting it go.