IS THERE ANY SEPARATION
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Marriage is about two people loving each other through the best and worst of each other and each giving 100%. It's sad that when someone else is pulling the weight in the relationship, couples don't stick around and do everything possible to work through it and learn how to do better. We all have shortcomings...no reason to throw in the towel. When it can't be saved is when a person is adamant that they refuse to try any longer.
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That I completely agree with! No relationship or marriage should ever reach that point. But I am reminded of what a well known pastor once said, and it's scriptural. they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]
Safety and the safety of your children. It is sad that this situation can occur but we all know that it can. We can commit to following the Lord and His ways but we cannot compel someone else to stay on the path. There can be things hidden under the nicest veneer. I know I will probably get flamed for my opinion but I do not believe that God mandates a wife or husband live their lives an a punching bag nor for a spouse to stand by while their child is physically or sexually abused. Yes this is dark but I worked as a medical social worker and have seen too much. I do not believe that my God, my heavenly father would condemn anyone who need to flee because they are being assaulted and needs to protect their own lives. It would make him a monster and I know He is not.
Some people get caught up in addiction and are dangerous when in the grip of these chemicals. Their associates can also be a risk to the family with children again being vulnerable.
God hates divorce. Yes. I also believe he hates cruelty, abuse, power plays, cold hearts and selfishness.
Let us be honest. Anyone you married will be flawed. The person you marry will a sinner. Sinners are the only choice we have as we are all sinners. Trying to fit two sinners together for a godly marriage is one of God's beautiful miracles. When we submit to God and each care for the other, praying for them, listening to them and making their happiness a reason for our happiness it is amazing.
There are reasons that people need to be apart and it sorrows God. When they do need to part I pray that God can heal the situation. If it cannot safely be healed I pray that God comes alongside those who suffer. None of us are immune to the sorrows of this world. Pray for each other my sisters and brothers.
Some people get caught up in addiction and are dangerous when in the grip of these chemicals. Their associates can also be a risk to the family with children again being vulnerable.
God hates divorce. Yes. I also believe he hates cruelty, abuse, power plays, cold hearts and selfishness.
Let us be honest. Anyone you married will be flawed. The person you marry will a sinner. Sinners are the only choice we have as we are all sinners. Trying to fit two sinners together for a godly marriage is one of God's beautiful miracles. When we submit to God and each care for the other, praying for them, listening to them and making their happiness a reason for our happiness it is amazing.
There are reasons that people need to be apart and it sorrows God. When they do need to part I pray that God can heal the situation. If it cannot safely be healed I pray that God comes alongside those who suffer. None of us are immune to the sorrows of this world. Pray for each other my sisters and brothers.
I understand what you're saying... it "should never exist"... But we don't live in what should be. We live in the fallen world that is... so instead of taking a naive view on divorce, we should learn what we can about what causes it, what the warning signs are, what our own personal "junk" is, and what traits or history in the other person would make them a poor match... before marriage! If already married, do all the learning and processing with the understanding that God can take even a strained and breaking marriage and restore it.
Even though we live in this fallen world, we should never dwell in it. All Christian marriages should place God at the center, and continuously seek His wisdom and guidance in all their endeavors. Sadly, there are too many double-minded 'chirstians' in this world that wish to follow the false doctrines taught, and are prepared to give up so easily instead of work through problems they may have.
adultery, those are the only two reasons for divorce that are explicitly mentioned in the bible that I can remember of.
as for death, well, that goes without saying. but adultery is the only one that involves human error, and I cant in good conscience recommend trying to save marriage that's been tainted by adultery. the amount of stress and shame from this is too great that it would distract christians from happiness. I've read some studies somewhere that the amount of stress is a lot worse than to divorce, grieve and start over with someone else, which what I suggest adultery victim to do.
GOD even gave HIS permission for divorce, even if reluctantly, but a permission nonetheless. I suggest, take it. GOD wouldnt allow it if HE knows that's not needed.
as for death, well, that goes without saying. but adultery is the only one that involves human error, and I cant in good conscience recommend trying to save marriage that's been tainted by adultery. the amount of stress and shame from this is too great that it would distract christians from happiness. I've read some studies somewhere that the amount of stress is a lot worse than to divorce, grieve and start over with someone else, which what I suggest adultery victim to do.
GOD even gave HIS permission for divorce, even if reluctantly, but a permission nonetheless. I suggest, take it. GOD wouldnt allow it if HE knows that's not needed.
One thing that causes separation is that the flaws of a person do not come out until after they have been together for a while,and some people hide these flaws,but after a while they come gushing forth as if bursting out of a dam for it is part of their personality.
If they are kind of mean,and hateful,and kind of think the opposite sex is kind of not trusting,or whatever fault with them,but do not want to be alone,they will hide their faults temporarily,and then they come out after they been together for a while.
Which you hear some say they changed,or that is not the person I married.
People hide their flaws,and are on their best behavior when they first get together,for if they did not hide their flaws,and was not on their best behavior,then nobody would get together,and then the flaws,and crappy behavior come out later after they hook the person,and been together for a while,for they cannot hold the flaws back because it is their personality.
If they are mean,hateful,towards people,and bitter about the opposite sex,it will be hidden,but it will come out later as they display those flaws for it is part of their attitude.
Which is why so many people in marriage find that they cannot get along after a while,and were not really compatible in today's world compared to years ago,for people are less loving towards people than years ago when they got along better.
There is more distrust,selfishness,arrogance,lack of care for other people,heaping of money,and material things,immorality,today,than any other time in history,so marriages will not last as long.
Jesus said since iniquity shall abound the love of many shall wax cold.
If they are kind of mean,and hateful,and kind of think the opposite sex is kind of not trusting,or whatever fault with them,but do not want to be alone,they will hide their faults temporarily,and then they come out after they been together for a while.
Which you hear some say they changed,or that is not the person I married.
People hide their flaws,and are on their best behavior when they first get together,for if they did not hide their flaws,and was not on their best behavior,then nobody would get together,and then the flaws,and crappy behavior come out later after they hook the person,and been together for a while,for they cannot hold the flaws back because it is their personality.
If they are mean,hateful,towards people,and bitter about the opposite sex,it will be hidden,but it will come out later as they display those flaws for it is part of their attitude.
Which is why so many people in marriage find that they cannot get along after a while,and were not really compatible in today's world compared to years ago,for people are less loving towards people than years ago when they got along better.
There is more distrust,selfishness,arrogance,lack of care for other people,heaping of money,and material things,immorality,today,than any other time in history,so marriages will not last as long.
Jesus said since iniquity shall abound the love of many shall wax cold.
It's sad, yet can be and often is true...but NOT always! Amen!
I think one of the better ways of finding the "right" person...if God doesn't make it perfectly clear, is to take the time necessary to grow together in Christ before marriage and check out the fruits that the "other" truly bears
since one of the greatest fruits we have and what Jesus commands...is that we love one another...if the person your considering shows this time and again...chances are very good!
I think one of the better ways of finding the "right" person...if God doesn't make it perfectly clear, is to take the time necessary to grow together in Christ before marriage and check out the fruits that the "other" truly bears
since one of the greatest fruits we have and what Jesus commands...is that we love one another...if the person your considering shows this time and again...chances are very good!
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