encouragement for the broken hearted

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jellybelly

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Nov 20, 2017
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Just recently went through a breakup. Still don't want to give up on love!

What would it take for God to give me the desires of my heart?
one word.
one snap of his fingers.
one breathe from his mouth.

The Lord is faithful!
For those who are also having a heartbreak of whatever kind. The Lord is bigger than all of our troubles.
He is ABLE, He is anxious to do it!
we just need to hold on and don't let go.
halleluja
 

HannahA

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hallelujah
amen
Psalm 34:18
 
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Ugly

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Marriage is not a promise from God. Nor is He "anxious" to give us anyone. He is anxious to see the unsaved come to Him and for us to have a relationship with Him.
God's goal is not our happiness but our holiness.
 

laughingheart

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God does care when we are brokenhearted. We are allowed our seasons of grief and pain. We can shelter under his wing and he doesn't chide us for not pretending to be happy. I am sorry for your pain jellybelly.
I think sometimes we dumb down the truth for kids in the church and try and simplify the Christian life to the point that it is like a big Disney ride. No matter how scary the ride everything turns out all right in the end. In truth painful, scary things can happen to people God loves. There is a reason the psalmist say that though he walks through the valley of death that God is with him. God is with him but he is still in the valley. Hurting isn't a lack of faith. It is part of the reality of our fallen world.
God's plans for us may be confusing and often we try and read messages in every event but sometimes our vision is too small. Our comfort comes in knowing that we don't always need to understand everything. If we obey we know we are walking in the right direction and God has it all under control.
One things that has comforted me is reading the Old Testament. Here again Sunday school, while well intentioned, did me a disservice in reducing really big stories into happy little flannel board sing alongs.
We read the stories but they don't have a lot of impact because we know the end. What if you didn't? What if you were reading the story of Joseph's life and the horror and betrayal he lived without knowing the end point. Picture yourself in every step of his journey.
What about Esther? She was married to a psychopath. She didn't get to leave that life. No nice Jewish husband or children. How could the sin pit she had to live in be God's will?
My point is that the truth of life as one of God's children is that it isn't always understandable and there is pain. There is also hope and a God that loves us so much. His plans and purposes some times go way beyond our understanding or even timeline.
I hope you do find a wonderful partner who shares your faith and increases your joy. I don't always understand what God is doing but I not only believe in him but I believe him.
 
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God does care when we are brokenhearted. We are allowed our seasons of grief and pain. We can shelter under his wing and he doesn't chide us for not pretending to be happy. I am sorry for your pain jellybelly.
I think sometimes we dumb down the truth for kids in the church and try and simplify the Christian life to the point that it is like a big Disney ride. No matter how scary the ride everything turns out all right in the end. In truth painful, scary things can happen to people God loves. There is a reason the psalmist say that though he walks through the valley of death that God is with him. God is with him but he is still in the valley. Hurting isn't a lack of faith. It is part of the reality of our fallen world.
God's plans for us may be confusing and often we try and read messages in every event but sometimes our vision is too small. Our comfort comes in knowing that we don't always need to understand everything. If we obey we know we are walking in the right direction and God has it all under control.
One things that has comforted me is reading the Old Testament. Here again Sunday school, while well intentioned, did me a disservice in reducing really big stories into happy little flannel board sing alongs.
We read the stories but they don't have a lot of impact because we know the end. What if you didn't? What if you were reading the story of Joseph's life and the horror and betrayal he lived without knowing the end point. Picture yourself in every step of his journey.
What about Esther? She was married to a psychopath. She didn't get to leave that life. No nice Jewish husband or children. How could the sin pit she had to live in be God's will?
My point is that the truth of life as one of God's children is that it isn't always understandable and there is pain. There is also hope and a God that loves us so much. His plans and purposes some times go way beyond our understanding or even timeline.
I hope you do find a wonderful partner who shares your faith and increases your joy. I don't always understand what God is doing but I not only believe in him but I believe him.
very true, in sunday school, since it's for kids, we "filter out" the harsh reality of God's behaviors.
imagine you being Job, getting all his kids killed, all his wealth taken, and his health also deteriorated.
and Hoshea was ordered to marry a prostitute, and GOD announced to him in advance that his wife will later cheat on him and humiliate him in front of his fellow Jews...yikes
 

Claudia38

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Nov 17, 2017
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hi , breakups are tough ,,,you are 27 , life is a vast expanse of opportunities. We as people see the limitations or the shortcomings of ourselves when things dont work ... You are enough...Christ thinks so ...When arrives ..the person of that season will too ..
 
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most of the time where break ups are "tough" is for sexual relationship. it's especially tough on the female. loss of virginity will "reduce" the worth of the female, especially in asian culture and christian community.
non believers are the only group to turn to if you dont want virginity to be an issue for the next relationship. that's why it's VERY UNFORTUNATE if you have sex before marriage. and no do over.....
 

Claudia38

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Nov 17, 2017
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Look poly .. I'm a real person and real about the process we experience as people . I understand your position , let our words be laced with compassion and mercy. Yes Sex is and issue but let's you forget ... your time on earth is to be a positive encourage to broken ... tomorrow your broken might be a loss or an unexplained sorrow.. doesn't mean you not loved...

It took me years to realize .. I can bring my booboos to God .. because when the memory of pain is restored as in Ps23. God restores my soul... and when my soul is healed so is my view on the new things of the new day God gives

So yes , we know in part the land of God as depicted in scriptures... but we are the letters people should read daily...

God
 

laughingheart

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Sep 21, 2016
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how was king xerxes a psycopath?
He was someone I learned about in history class.
Here are a couple of examples that I could find. Sorry for the mismatched font.

His best friend and trusted commander Pythius had two sons. One died in battle so he asked Xerxes to spare his other son military battle. Xerxes called his friend to the balcony. He had the son cut in half and ordered his army to march between his two parts.
Xerxes, to avoid sailing across the Hellespont with his vast army, ordered a bridge to be built across it. But soon after the bridge was finished, a violent storm dashed it into fragments.When Xerxes heard of the disaster he ordered the engineers who had planned the bridge to be beheaded. He also commanded that the Hellespont (a body of water) should be scourged with three hundred stripes and that a pair of fetters should be cast into the sea. "He sent branders, too, as some say, to brand the Hellespont; and he charged them to rebuke the water and cry unto it, 'O bitter water, thus doth the king punish thee, because without wrong from him thou has done him harm.' "

Xerxes was known to have a hair trigger temper and Esther knew she was never safe, never knew how he would respond. We will never know what her day to day life was like but my take away on this is that even if you find yourself in a situation that doesn't match with your idea of a blessed life, God is still there and still has things in control.

 

cinder

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Mar 26, 2014
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Just recently went through a breakup. Still don't want to give up on love!

What would it take for God to give me the desires of my heart?
one word.
one snap of his fingers.
one breathe from his mouth.

The Lord is faithful!
For those who are also having a heartbreak of whatever kind. The Lord is bigger than all of our troubles.
He is ABLE, He is anxious to do it!
we just need to hold on and don't let go.
halleluja

Though I'm sorry it hurts as any loss will, your post made me want to add another question

What would I have suffered if God had given me what I thought was the desire of my heart?

I think these are the situations where we really learn to trust God because in these situations following our own way is so clearly turning from his.
 
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Look poly .. I'm a real person and real about the process we experience as people . I understand your position , let our words be laced with compassion and mercy. Yes Sex is and issue but let's you forget ... your time on earth is to be a positive encourage to broken ... tomorrow your broken might be a loss or an unexplained sorrow.. doesn't mean you not loved...

It took me years to realize .. I can bring my booboos to God .. because when the memory of pain is restored as in Ps23. God restores my soul... and when my soul is healed so is my view on the new things of the new day God gives

So yes , we know in part the land of God as depicted in scriptures... but we are the letters people should read daily...

God
this is not about mercy or anything else. it's just the way things are. actions have consequences. all sins is the same..correct...but...there's a but, this applies only when you die outside of Christ. while you're still alive, different sins carry different consequences, light and heavy, temporary and permanent, etc...
you can always come to God when you're in trouble, even when said trouble is of your own making...GOD is faithful that way. but when you make mistake, depending on the mistake, you may have lost the chance for GOD's best scenario for your life, and will have to settle with second, third or fourth best outcome...but GOD still loves you, you'll just have a lower quality of life starting from this point on.
GOD's love will always be there, but so will the consequences of your mistakes.....that's what I'm saying. I'm not condemning anyone like "ha, serves you right"..no, absolutely not, I'm just saying consequences do exist and they're outside of humans' control.
another part is my advice for christians to NOT HAVE SEX OUTSIDE MARRIAGE. nothing good can come out of this, especially if you're a girl, you stand to lose everything by doing this.
 

Claudia38

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Nov 17, 2017
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I agree with u on the no sex before marriage , but I think my high view of Christ he's superior to to any mistakes...but take responsibility for your actions is a gar cry from condemnation
 
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but I think my high view of Christ he's superior to to any mistakes...but take responsibility for your actions is a gar cry from condemnation
very true, GOD will always love you, whatever your mistake is, save the unpardonable sin, although I dont know exactly what that is.
as for the second part, I was just clarifying that I'm not condemning OP or anyone.
 
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Galatea

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God is not a cosmic Santa Claus. He does not give us whatever we want. If that were true, there would be no poverty, no illness, and no pain. Slap happy Christianity is a dangerous thing to spread.
 
Nov 14, 2017
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Jesus told Pilate:

"The one who handed me over to you is guilty of a greater sin."
yes, but if the person mentioned by Jesus had accepted Jesus as Savior then died, it's gone, just like any other sin...unless it's considered as the unpardonable sin...
if that person had died outside Christ, he'd burn for eternity in lake of fire, together with all other sinners.
this is why all sins ARE the same, save the unpardonable sin

the same here means same consequences once you're dead, sinners, small fries, big shots, including the person who handed Jesus over all end up in exactly the same place, together with the petty thief that stole 10 cents from me and died yesterday
may have different consequences if you're still alive in the world of the living
 
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