Look poly .. I'm a real person and real about the process we experience as people . I understand your position , let our words be laced with compassion and mercy. Yes Sex is and issue but let's you forget ... your time on earth is to be a positive encourage to broken ... tomorrow your broken might be a loss or an unexplained sorrow.. doesn't mean you not loved...
It took me years to realize .. I can bring my booboos to God .. because when the memory of pain is restored as in Ps23. God restores my soul... and when my soul is healed so is my view on the new things of the new day God gives
So yes , we know in part the land of God as depicted in scriptures... but we are the letters people should read daily...
God
this is not about mercy or anything else. it's just the way things are. actions have consequences. all sins is the same..correct...but...there's a but, this applies only when you die outside of Christ. while you're still alive, different sins carry different consequences, light and heavy, temporary and permanent, etc...
you can always come to God when you're in trouble, even when said trouble is of your own making...GOD is faithful that way. but when you make mistake, depending on the mistake, you may have lost the chance for GOD's best scenario for your life, and will have to settle with second, third or fourth best outcome...but GOD still loves you, you'll just have a lower quality of life starting from this point on.
GOD's love will always be there, but so will the consequences of your mistakes.....that's what I'm saying. I'm not condemning anyone like "ha, serves you right"..no, absolutely not, I'm just saying consequences do exist and they're outside of humans' control.
another part is my advice for christians to NOT HAVE SEX OUTSIDE MARRIAGE. nothing good can come out of this, especially if you're a girl, you stand to lose everything by doing this.