Results 1 to 18 of 18
Like Tree17Likes
  • 3 Post By Sweet_
  • 3 Post By Beez
  • 3 Post By Ugly
  • 2 Post By Lynx
  • 1 Post By zeroturbulence
  • 1 Post By Magenta
  • 1 Post By AuntieAnt
  • 1 Post By laughingheart
  • 1 Post By Daylilies
  • 1 Post By Pipp

Christian Singles Forum

Christian and single? Seek (or give) advice and encouragement here.

Thread: Waiting is sad

  1. #1
    Member Sweet_'s Avatar
    Join Date
    January 29th, 2014
    Age
    27
    Posts
    89
    Rep Power
    4

    Default Waiting is sad

    Waiting is difficult..I am sad..The feeling of loneliness get harder day by day.I am depressed and have a lot of social pressure to get married.I really hope that special person to appear.The waitings seem endless.Brothers are few.There's a brother in Christ I really like and admire for some time.But yesterday I told him how I feel and was refused without any hope.Even lost a good friend.I feel heartbroken.
    Willie-T, Adstar and pckts like this.

  2. #2
    Member Sweet_'s Avatar
    Join Date
    January 29th, 2014
    Age
    27
    Posts
    89
    Rep Power
    4

    Default Re: Waiting is sad

    I can't talk to him anymore..

  3. #3
    Senior Member maxwel's Avatar
    Join Date
    April 18th, 2013
    Age
    42
    Posts
    6,665
    Rep Power
    162

    Default Re: Waiting is sad

    Pray that God will bring you new friends, and that He will give you peace.

    You may find there's a good reason for this.
    Just pray, and see what God does.

  4. #4
    Senior Member Beez's Avatar
    Join Date
    November 27th, 2017
    Age
    68
    Posts
    179
    Rep Power
    14

    Default Re: Waiting is sad

    Hon, he apparently was not the right one for you. There would be little that could be more miserable than being bound by marriage to the wrong person.

    You are young yet. Give it time. So much better to wait for the right person and walk into a marriage relationship with maturity on both sides.

    Bless you, Sweet.
    "I permitted Myself to be sought
    by those who did not ask for Me;
    I permitted Myself to be found
    by those who did not seek Me.
    I said, 'Here am I! Here am I!'
    to a nation which did not call on My name”
    Isaiah 65.1.

    “My heart is fixed, O God, my heart is fixed: I will sing and give praise” Psalm 57.7.
    “O God, my heart is fixed; I will sing and give praise, even with my glory“ Psalm108.1.
    “He shall not be afraid of evil tidings: his heart is fixed, trusting in the LORD” Psalm 112.7.

  5. #5
    Member Sweet_'s Avatar
    Join Date
    January 29th, 2014
    Age
    27
    Posts
    89
    Rep Power
    4

    Default Re: Waiting is sad

    He told me the kind of life he wants to live is not suitable to get someone to suffer with him. He is young but his thought is much older than his age.He wants to lives in seclusion.He told me he loves his home mountain and hates the cities.And it's not suitable to bring someone with him.

  6. #6
    Senior Member Ugly's Avatar
    Join Date
    April 20th, 2011
    Age
    42
    Posts
    19,343
    Rep Power
    185

    Default Re: Waiting is sad

    Well, of he intends to go back anytime soon then he made the right choice. Imagine him starting a relationship then leaving you behind when he moved.
    Or what if he had started a relationship then shortly after moved and wanted you to go. Leave your life behind to go off to the mountains with someone you've barely started a relationship with.
    And he didn't reject You. He already has plans and goals for his life, and those plans don't include another. Some are gifted with singleness. He may be one.

    We never know why some have to wait, or others never find anyone or settle on someone. Yet others marry young.
    I do know that if I'd married younger there's a high chance of my being divorced now, as opposed to if I we're to marry now I jnow there is a real chance of it lasting now.
    Waiting sucks, I know, I'm 42 and never married, but waiting also gives you a better chance at lasting.
    Willie-T, Tommy379 and Beez like this.
    Give me a new voice
    Give me a heart for repentance and make it stay
    Cause I've idolized my words
    It's all my fault
    But it's comfortable
    ~Poured Out, Rival Choir~

  7. #7
    Senior Member Lynx's Avatar
    Join Date
    August 13th, 2014
    Age
    39
    Posts
    11,462
    Rep Power
    131

    Default Re: Waiting is sad

    Yup. I'm 39 and still single.

    Just remember not to waste your time while you're waiting. Experience, learn, enjoy, LIVE life whether you're living it alone or with somebody else. There's a lot of life to see, and what if you wind up not getting married until you're 60? If you wait to start living your life until then, it will be almost over.
    Willie-T and Beez like this.
    "Do you sing at church?"
    "Yes I sing at church. And I sing at work. And I sing at home... and in the car... at the supermarket... at Wal-Mart..."

  8. #8
    Senior Member zeroturbulence's Avatar
    Join Date
    August 2nd, 2009
    Age
    51
    Posts
    18,900
    Blog Entries
    21
    Rep Power
    197

    Default Re: Waiting is sad

    Quote Originally Posted by Sweet_ View Post
    Waiting is difficult..I am sad..The feeling of loneliness get harder day by day.I am depressed and have a lot of social pressure to get married.I really hope that special person to appear.The waitings seem endless.Brothers are few.There's a brother in Christ I really like and admire for some time.But yesterday I told him how I feel and was refused without any hope.Even lost a good friend.I feel heartbroken.
    That's really sad. I'm sorry that happened to you.
    laughingheart likes this.
    My dad was the greatest dad I could have ever asked for. Thank you, Dad..

    "If you talk about scripture more than you talk about God, then you've missed the point".
    - A Retired Minister
    Quote Originally Posted by loverofjesus27 View Post
    Who owns this site? Why is it bad to have fun?? And where is Harpy Eagle ??

    Quote Originally Posted by joefizz View Post
    Milk talk who in the land of taco are you posting to?

  9. #9
    Senior Member Tommy379's Avatar
    Join Date
    January 12th, 2016
    Age
    38
    Posts
    3,441
    Rep Power
    64

    Default Re: Waiting is sad

    I'd move somewhere there are a lot of Christians. Communist run governments tend to promote atheism.
    Sent from my Verizon, Samsung Galaxy smartphone

  10. #10
    Senior Member Magenta's Avatar
    Join Date
    July 3rd, 2015
    Age
    62
    Posts
    19,248
    Rep Power
    431

    Default Re: Waiting is sad

    Quote Originally Posted by Sweet_ View Post
    He wants to lives in seclusion.
    How can he be a practicing Christian in seclusion?
    zeroturbulence likes this.


    Embrace the Grace and Rejoice in His Everlasting Mercy and Love

  11. #11
    Senior Member AuntieAnt's Avatar
    Join Date
    February 23rd, 2016
    Age
    61
    Posts
    2,749
    Rep Power
    100

    Default Re: Waiting is sad

    Awwww I'm sorry you're hurting, dear. My heart is sad for you. We can all understand the desire to love and be loved, it's certainly natural. It's sure good to know you're a child of God because the Lord can fill your heart with His love and peace and joy and He will sustain you like no other can. And that love nobody can take away from you! Don't miss out on this great opportunity to trust Christ Jesus first, dearheart and let Him strengthen and prepare you for when you do meet the man who will give you his heart. And we will pray for you, too sister Sweet.
    GandalfTheWhite likes this.

    I didn’t see a temple in the city because the Lord God All-Mighty and the Lamb are its Temple. The city didn’t have need for the sun or the moon to shine on it, for the Glory of God gave it light; the Lamb is the Light.

  12. #12
    Senior Member laughingheart's Avatar
    Join Date
    September 21st, 2016
    Age
    53
    Posts
    117
    Rep Power
    10

    Default Re: Waiting is sad

    I am sorry for your pain. I had a friend who spent years pining away for a co-worker. She finally got up the courage to tell him and he very kindly said he did not feel the same. I was so worried for her because she had talked endlessly about him but the result was different. She looked at me and said "I am free." Until she knew, until she asked, she was stuck in her fantasy and not willing to look around.
    I know you have prayed and asked for God's guidance. Sometimes he intervenes for our good. If this one was not meant to be then I am glad you were protected.
    After a year long relationship I recently had it come to an abrupt end. I was shocked but his behaviour became so odd and cold that I had to thank God from protecting me from what could have been a very sad and painful future.
    I pray that God will comfort you and walk alongside as you deal with the pressure from family. Bless your gentle heart.
    AuntieAnt likes this.

  13. #13
    Senior Member Daylilies's Avatar
    Join Date
    April 11th, 2017
    Age
    35
    Posts
    104
    Rep Power
    3

    Default Re: Waiting is sad

    Quote Originally Posted by Sweet_ View Post
    Waiting is difficult..I am sad..The feeling of loneliness get harder day by day.I am depressed and have a lot of social pressure to get married.I really hope that special person to appear.The waitings seem endless.Brothers are few.There's a brother in Christ I really like and admire for some time.But yesterday I told him how I feel and was refused without any hope.Even lost a good friend.I feel heartbroken.
    I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this; it is hard to open up your heart to someone, share your feelings and then to find out that they don't feel the same way. Especially when it causes you to lose your friendship with that person.

    I was speaking with my minister about this about a month ago and the statement that he made has really helped to change my perspective. He said that God has very special plans and perhaps a very special person for me, but special things often take a long time. However the wait for God's plans to fully unfold for me will be worth it.

    In the meantime, know that you have a lot of friends here who understand and can empathize!
    AuntieAnt likes this.

  14. #14
    Senior Member Pipp's Avatar
    Join Date
    September 17th, 2013
    Age
    34
    Posts
    3,489
    Rep Power
    71

    Default Re: Waiting is sad

    Galatians 6 : 9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not
    GandalfTheWhite likes this.
    If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until you can hardly bear to look at it.

    A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.
    Roald Dahl, The Twits

  15. #15
    Senior Member GandalfTheWhite's Avatar
    Join Date
    January 25th, 2015
    Age
    41
    Posts
    4,440
    Rep Power
    87

    Default Re: Waiting is sad

    Quote Originally Posted by Magenta View Post
    How can he be a practicing Christian in seclusion?
    Maybe he is preparing himself like John the Baptist?

  16. #16
    Member ArcanePrince's Avatar
    Join Date
    July 20th, 2017
    Age
    37
    Posts
    36
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: Waiting is sad

    You are waiting for your man to come home? Or he left?

  17. #17
    Member ArcanePrince's Avatar
    Join Date
    July 20th, 2017
    Age
    37
    Posts
    36
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: Waiting is sad

    If he left then move on. Waiting = doing nothing.

  18. #18
    Senior Member OneFaith's Avatar
    Join Date
    September 6th, 2016
    Age
    45
    Posts
    1,346
    Rep Power
    49

    Default Re: Waiting is sad

    He wasn’t a good friend, or a good Christian if he left just because you were brave enough to tell him how you feel. If a guy told me he liked me romantically and I didn’t like him in that way, I would tell him I do not feel the same, but I wouldn’t disown him as a friend or a brother in Christ, but I would avoid him if he started harassing me.

Similar Threads

  1. He is waiting for us
    By oyster67 in forum Bible Discussion Forum
    Replies: 13
    Last Post: September 3rd, 2015, 03:39 PM
  2. Waiting on Him
    By Bowhunter2394 in forum Bible Discussion Forum
    Replies: 11
    Last Post: April 26th, 2015, 10:40 PM
  3. Waiting .... Waiting ... Waiting ..
    By MsSingle in forum Christian Singles Forum
    Replies: 23
    Last Post: August 20th, 2014, 02:50 AM
  4. Waiting
    By swarovski8815 in forum Christian Poems & Poetry
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: August 1st, 2013, 04:50 PM