Medieval Times, Part 2: What Distressing Dragons Does a Modern-Day Damsel Defy?

  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
May 23, 2009
14,940
4,581
113
#1
Hey Everyone,

I've actually been writing and re-writing ideas for this thread in my head for nearly a month, but after a lot of prayer, I decided to sit down and turn it into a slight self-narration instead.

My main struggle with this topic is that, as with most things in life, I had both a very comical and a very dark approach to the subject, and I wasn't sure if I should try to tackle both perspectives all in one thread, or split the topic into two separate threads. I decided to try to merge them into one. We'll see how it goes.

My comical ideas centered around the fact that we all face what might be seen as "little dragons" everyday-- household chores (will that handsome knight clean your bathroom??), errands, paperwork, appointments, spiders, reaching for things on high shelves, and PTA meetings (personally, I would rather face spiders than go to most meetings any day--but that's just me.)

* Whether a damsel or a knight, what kinds of everyday things do you hope to have a significant other to help you with?

The other idea I had for this thread was contemplating the fact that we all face dragons in our lives that no one can see, and might be unconquerable in this lifetime (perhaps they can only be slayed on our way to heaven.) I had asked a fellow CC poster for his input on ideas for this thread, and he made what I thought was a profound observation: "Can the damsel be happy even if her knight can't slay the dragon?"

As just one example of the dragons so many face, I looked up a statistic from The National Children's Alliance and it stated that in 2015, it was estimated that nearly 700,000 children in the United States were abused and/or neglected. Personally, I always assume the stats are actually much higher, because so many cases go unreported.

We all know what happens to those children.
They grow up.
And eventually... they turn into you and me.

Christian or not, those invisible dragons are bound to rear their ugly heads in every area of our lives, most especially a marriage. After all, dragons are not known for politely going off into their caves and sleeping just because we tell them to do so. We get married, hoping to run from them... and, predictably, the dragons start to wake up and wreak havoc.

Once upon a time, I was fighting an invisible dragon, and mine was a bit different, seeing as I grew up in a loving, Christian home with absolutely no trauma or abuse. Nonetheless, I had a very powerful but unseen dragon that often influenced my thinking. I was very careful about whom I showed any hints of it, because the reactions I got was always the same--either deafening silence, or explosive anger, and so I just became very careful about letting it show. But, as with any dragon, it eventually left a visible ring of fire.

Someone in my life at that time took notice and, grabbing me by the virtual hand, told me, "We are not going to let this thing win!!! I don't have the answers. But, I'll keep praying until God shows us who we can go to in order to get them."

Although this person never became my knight, and even though he wasn't able to slay my dragon himself, it was the very fact that he was humble enough to know that he couldn't--but that he could pray continuously and keep chiding me to find the ones who at least knew how to fight it--that was the actual catalyst that opened a new door in my life.

A door... that is just a little bit further away from my dragon.

And so, I would like to ask all of you:

* Ladies and gentlemen... What are the dragons that you face in your life? (I am not asking anyone to write about anything overly personal here, as I know it could be a very sensitive subject.) Feel free to write about anything from daily chores and paying bills to overcoming loneliness or anything that you prayerfully feel comfortable sharing.

* Do you expect that your future knight or damsel will be able to slay your dragons? Why or why not?

* And if not, will you still be content, even if your God-given hero/heroine can't kill off your dragon? Why or why not, and what would you plan to do if your beloved can't fight it for you?

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this.

I realize there might not be many replies to this thread, but I look forward to reading anyone's thoughts who would like to share, and if reading this helps anyone in some small way, it is more than worth the struggle I had in writing it.

Thank you again for your time, take care, and God bless. <3
 
Last edited:
N

NoNameMcgee

Guest
#2
well seeing as how spiritually we are all the damsel

and Jesus is always the knight

physically

i guess my biggest "dragons" are things i expect to kind of handle with God myself

id never expect her to fix my problems...

aside from that lingering desire i have .. to have a wife to cherish and spend my time with
(._.')


as for her dragons

id imagine me charging headfirst and defeating all of them....

flawlessly
 

tourist

Senior Member
Mar 13, 2014
41,243
16,252
113
69
Tennessee
#3
I'm not sure if there are any dragons that I can slay for my wife but I do know that I want to be her hero if I'm not already.
 

EmilyNats

Senior Member
Jul 28, 2016
1,374
204
63
#4
Great thread! I'm looking forward to seeing what everyone has to say. ^.^
 

Tommy379

Notorious Member
Jan 12, 2016
7,589
1,151
113
#5
I have always felt like, I wish I never existed. I've felt this way as long as I can remember, and I have memories going back to being 20 months old. I don't know why... my parents didn't mistreat me. When I was in my early 20s, I thought getting married would make it all feel better, and it did for awhile. I married a beautiful young woman. The problem was, I expected her to make me happy.

That feeling of not wanting to exist kept coming back from time to time.

My former wife had depression long before I met her. I'm sure she expected me to make her happy, and I probably did for awhile.

I lacked understanding of this, until she was already out the door. She told me when she left, I didn't make her happy anymore.

Everyone wants to be happy. We have a whole industry dedicated to it. Therapist and meds.

I have thought a lot about happiness the past 27 months. My conclusion is that: I can't make another person happy. It's not my responsibility to make them happy. She couldn't make me happy, it was never her job to. It was our own responsibilities to be happy ourselves, with what God blessed us with.

People throw so many blessings away, to quest for happiness. I've been thinking, happiness isn't something that can be received. Happiness is something we do, we make ourselves.

If I ever had someone who wanted me again, I'm not going to throw my dragon on her, or expect her to slay it.

I now wonder: is the depression, anger, pain, brokenness, shattered dreams.... the dragon, or is it happiness?
 
A

AuntieAnt

Guest
#6
I know the spiritual dragon I fight most is my flesh whenever it tries to tell me I'm not content. And when that doesn't defeat me, it throws mortality at me to see if that might shake me into believing I've missed out on something in this life.

But God’s faithful. All I have to do is fall into His arms and the dragon disappears. :eek:

If there just so happens to be a knight in my future, it would be nice if he & I have matching spiritual armor. We could slay dragons together. :)

fbd1d28736625376d4093f217ff22ce6--spiritual-warfare-prayers-christian-artwork.jpg
 
J

joefizz

Guest
#9
...Does Bowser count as a dragon? Because he IS kinda modern...

Well he does breathe fire and has a tail but according to mario bros the movie he's more of a dinosaur.
 

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
May 23, 2009
14,940
4,581
113
#10
Thank you all for the great replies and I hope people will keep on posting! :)

NoName--I loved that you pointed out that we are ALL in some kind of distress in some way, but that Jesus is our only true Knight. And if anyone can go flawlessly charging at dragons, I'm sure it would be you, lol. ;) (Go tell those dragons that they all need to stand in a single-file line, and I'm sure you'll have them whipped into shape.) :p

Tourist--I'm sure that JesusLives already sees you as her hero. It's always very inspiring to see how much you two both love and respect each other, even when you might disagree.

Emily--I couldn't agree more--I'm really enjoying reading what people are sharing, and I hope people will feel free to continue to do so.

Tommy--thank you for such an honest and open post. I am very sorry for how you've felt and I pray that God will comfort you. I have often wondered about "happiness" as well... and whether it is just an illusion that serves as some kind of motivational carrot that occasionally dangles itself in front of us.

AuntieAnt--I always enjoy how honest and joyful your posts are. Your perspectives on life remind me that while being single can be hard, it's also not the end of the world, and there are many other things to be thankful for and take part of in life.

Wine and Joe--I'm terrible at video games, but I remember getting to a point in Super Mario Bros. where I got to face Bowser ONCE--just once, mind you, and I think I lasted all of 2 seconds. :( (Have I mentioned that I'm lousy at video games?) But, I like to watch others play. :)

Thank you all for sharing and may God always keep you safe from any dragon that dares to lurk your way. :)
 
A

AuntieAnt

Guest
#11
Dear Seoulsearch, you contribute so much of yourself to bring unity to the body of Christ. You're a great encourager and bring sweet counsel to us members here. I'm sure everyone on CC would agree that you have so many precious gifts that inspire and build people up. Thank you so much for all you do here, beautiful Seoul. :)

blessing.JPG
 

Tommy379

Notorious Member
Jan 12, 2016
7,589
1,151
113
#12
Dear Seoulsearch, you contribute so much of yourself to bring unity to the body of Christ. You're a great encourager and bring sweet counsel to us members here. I'm sure everyone on CC would agree that you have so many precious gifts that inspire and build people up. Thank you so much for all you do here, beautiful Seoul. :)

View attachment 177801
Agreed. .
 
A

AuntieAnt

Guest
#13
Some wild news coverage caught my eye on Facebook tonight, and against my better judgement, I went ahead and reviewed it. It included an interview with a famous person I admire. And of course, that news clip led to other ones and after about 30 minutes of having my brain fried, I realized what a terrible mistake I had made. *ugh* :p

I guess the dragon of sensational news needs to be slain.

news.jpg

protection.jpg
 

Tommy379

Notorious Member
Jan 12, 2016
7,589
1,151
113
#14
Some wild news coverage caught my eye on Facebook tonight, and against my better judgement, I went ahead and reviewed it. It included an interview with a famous person I admire. And of course, that news clip led to other ones and after about 30 minutes of having my brain fried, I realized what a terrible mistake I had made. *ugh* :p

I guess the dragon of sensational news needs to be slain.

View attachment 177802

View attachment 177803
I wouldn't worry too much, all that news is fake anyways.
 

Pipp

Majestic Llamacorn
Sep 17, 2013
5,536
2,701
113
Georgia
#16
All I can say is in the past I prayed for grace to accept whatever life threw at me and so far God's grace has kept me sane. I've often wishes there was a night in shining armor that would come in and slay my dragons , but in my realistic mind I know it isn't even possible. You never know maybe one day I'll have someone who would be willing to help me while I help them and we both rely on God to slay the dragons in our lives.
 

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
May 23, 2009
14,940
4,581
113
#17
AuntieAnt--I just wanted to say thank you so much for the kind words. <3 I feel that one of my callings from God is to try to get people talking to each other in a meaningful way, and I'm really thankful to have a platform (CC!) and awesome people (you guys!!) with which to keep practicing. :)

All I can say is in the past I prayed for grace to accept whatever life threw at me and so far God's grace has kept me sane. I've often wishes there was a night in shining armor that would come in and slay my dragons , but in my realistic mind I know it isn't even possible. You never know maybe one day I'll have someone who would be willing to help me while I help them and we both rely on God to slay the dragons in our lives.
You go ahead and tell those dragons to come on out whenever they're ready, Pippy.

*Seoulsearch rolls up her sleeves.*

I promise I'll try to give it my best shot.

Just lemme at 'em. :cool:
 

Lynx

Folksy yet erudite
Aug 13, 2014
24,799
8,103
113
#18
I have nothing to add to this thread. I'm just typing this post so you know I'm paying attention. And I am paying attention. I learn much about people from these threads.
 

Tommy379

Notorious Member
Jan 12, 2016
7,589
1,151
113
#19
Maybe the damsel just needs some understanding from the knight.
 
S

Sweetmorningdew78

Guest
#20
I always think that my Knight in Shining Armour is JESUS ❤




I wanted to write something here but I was a bit shy ...I needed a very deep breath to finally comment here :D





I grew up in a very big family. At a very young age,I learned to care for everyone. I learned to be strong...I have to be strong. I learned not to depend to anyone,if I fall I get up. I don't expect anyone to save me I save myself or I would say I'm always the one to save myself :)


During the toughest times I deal it alone not because nobody will going to help me but because it is hard for me to ask for help :D I don't know if I can call that "pride" uggh asking stuff makes me feel uncomfortable that's why maybe my family and the people I know see me like a hero :D and maybe they think that I am a bodybuilder that can carry all of them :D


They don't know that I also need a warm tap on my back sometimes....


That sometimes when all is quiet as I close my eyes I pray that there's my Knight beside me as I whisper "I am tired"..... I'll lean on his shoulder and he will hold my hand... yayy I guess that's more than enough...I don't expect him to slay my dragons just a shoulder to lean on... :eek:



If God will bless me a Knight in the future, whatever comes our way we will slay it together :) by the grace of God ❤