Who should do the dishes? POLL
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Anyone but the cook... Who should vacuum the floor, take the trash out, mow the lawn, shovel snow, etc? Kids need to do all of it, they pay no rent and aren't much good for anything else 
. I remember when we asked our Dad if he would buy a dishwasher, and he said, "Why would I do that when I've got 4 of them right here!".
. I remember when we asked our Dad if he would buy a dishwasher, and he said, "Why would I do that when I've got 4 of them right here!". 
This is a true story as God is my witness
Several decades ago a friend Barbara had a defacto husband named Ally (short for Alwin).
Barbara and Ally had had a BBQ and there were dishes and tongs and bowls to wash and clean.
Apparently Ally had promised to wash the dishes before the serious beer drinking commenced because Barbara had complained about always ending up with the dishes. Who would have thought it?
So Ally being an alcoholic was not in the mood to honour his part of the deal - a BBQ can generate a fair lot of dirty dishes - so Ally gets a large size rubbish bin and places it at the end of the kitchen sink bench and arm shovels the whole lot into the bin.
With a triumphant shout of "there you go, now the dishes are done!!"
Don't worry, Barbara is an alpha female; she got her revenge on Ally another day.
Several decades ago a friend Barbara had a defacto husband named Ally (short for Alwin).
Barbara and Ally had had a BBQ and there were dishes and tongs and bowls to wash and clean.
Apparently Ally had promised to wash the dishes before the serious beer drinking commenced because Barbara had complained about always ending up with the dishes. Who would have thought it?
So Ally being an alcoholic was not in the mood to honour his part of the deal - a BBQ can generate a fair lot of dirty dishes - so Ally gets a large size rubbish bin and places it at the end of the kitchen sink bench and arm shovels the whole lot into the bin.
With a triumphant shout of "there you go, now the dishes are done!!"
Don't worry, Barbara is an alpha female; she got her revenge on Ally another day.
Ideally, whoever has time . But none of the guys in my experience even SEE when the counter is full of dishes, much less do them. So in my household it was usually the women who ended up washing them unless we had a set chore schedule (which we did for many, many years). Most of us who cared to improve are pretty professional by now, because I grew up in a family of ten kids, and it was very seldom we had such "luxury" items as paper plates. So dishes were a constant .
. But none of the guys in my experience even SEE when the counter is full of dishes, much less do them. So in my household it was usually the women who ended up washing them unless we had a set chore schedule (which we did for many, many years). Most of us who cared to improve are pretty professional by now, because I grew up in a family of ten kids, and it was very seldom we had such "luxury" items as paper plates. So dishes were a constant .
I did dishes every single day from before I started kindergarten until I moved away from home at the age of eighteen... minus any days I may not have been home for whatever reason, of course The girls did take turns washing and drying (drying we used to call "waping," which our mother took great exception to, since, as she would remind us, "wape" is not a word LOL), and we only had to do dishes once a day. So if someone washed or dried the breakfast dishes, they were automatically exempt from having to do lunch, dinner, or supper dishes
(For those of you who do not know, dinner is either the noon or evening meal, and in our house, it depended on when my dad was home, because he alternated between working days for two weeks, and then evenings for two weeks. If he was home at noon, it was dinner, not lunch, and then the evening meal was supper, and not dinner
)Joseph, you have put it off too long already
Yikes!! Do we even want to know what Barbara did to Ally in revenge?
Bogans supreme.
Let's say their relationship was very tempestuous [I had to get out my spelling book for that one].
Violence against each other was not uncommon.
But Barbra ruled the roost. You did not want to be on the wrong side of her.
She had control of the money, and Ally needed money to drink.
Ally is dead now; murdered about 20 years ago.
Barbara has emphysema and is being nursed by her adult daughter and son-in-law.
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Males were exempt from most housework in my family of origin, also. There were thirteen of us by the time my parents stopped procreating (including them) I did dishes every single day from before I started kindergarten until I moved away from home at the age of eighteen... minus any days I may not have been home for whatever reason, of course
The girls did take turns washing and drying (drying we used to call "waping," which our mother took great exception to, since, as she would remind us, "wape" is not a word LOL), and we only had to do dishes once a day. So if someone washed or dried the breakfast dishes, they were automatically exempt from having to do lunch, dinner, or supper dishes
I did dishes every single day from before I started kindergarten until I moved away from home at the age of eighteen... minus any days I may not have been home for whatever reason, of course The girls did take turns washing and drying (drying we used to call "waping," which our mother took great exception to, since, as she would remind us, "wape" is not a word LOL), and we only had to do dishes once a day. So if someone washed or dried the breakfast dishes, they were automatically exempt from having to do lunch, dinner, or supper dishes
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"Anyone but me I have purple gloves you can wear
They look something like this, though the sleeve is more purple (no pink)"
This is starting to look like a fetish of sorts...
you might need to lie on the couch and talk to someone about
what purple means in your life.
It all started when I was a baby ...
I have purple gloves you can wear They look something like this, though the sleeve is more purple (no pink)"
This is starting to look like a fetish of sorts...
you might need to lie on the couch and talk to someone about
what purple means in your life.
It all started when I was a baby ...
I still love the combination of lavender and mauve together
It ain't broke, and no doctor is going to fix it
Welp, we didn't believe in that. The outside chores and the inside chores were put on the same rotation, and girls and guys did both. But now that a lot of people have random schedules we don't have a chore rotation and the guys just don't see it. I don't know if the malady extends to the rest of the male population, or if it is just my brothers .
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How could I forget about Saturdays? Saturday was the big day for doing housework in the family home. We did laundry at least three times a week, but Saturday was the main day, with more and bigger loads (we had a wringer washer in those days). Then there was all the baking and general cleaning.
Welp, by the time I was eight years old I'd had enough of all that women's work
I used to see my dad and one, two, or all three of my brothers walk out the back door early Saturday morning, and be gone all day, to return at supper time, clean up, and sit down to eat, and of course, they never had to do the dishes That looked good to me So I volunteered/begged to work with my father and brothers on Saturdays, not even knowing where they went or what they did while they were gone
My mother protested, but my dad was appreciative of the offer of help, and he won out. I was hired! I started working with my dad and my brothers every Saturday when I was eight years old, and so on Saturdays, I was not home to do dishes, and was not normally expected to do the dinner dishes that day, either I worked with my dad and my brothers for ten years.
We were selling produce at farmer's markets, year round,
and I loved it, not just for getting me away from all that
Saturday housework business, but because I got to spend
time with my dad, and get out into the big wide world
Most of my younger sisters, however, did not like the fact that
after that, my dad tried to get them to work with him also
I have never seen a man washing dishes in my whole life....so if ever I will going to see one I think it is fantastic yayy
So, for me... men should wash the dishes it is a turn on
So, for me... men should wash the dishes
it is a turn on
Please send some my way Not to try to win my heart, no. I just need someone to do my dishes 
I am genuinely curious, why would men suffer more if they did the dishes?
I'm with SweetMorningDew--a guy who does domestic chores--and voluntarily!--is definitely a turn-on.
I've always worked, so I believe household chores should be divided (unless he stays at home and didn't work, then I would expect that he would take care of the house.)
My husband-at-the-time and I were broke college students who were both working and going to school, so we split the chores (I mowed the lawn my fair share of times, too.) When one person cooked, the other one did dishes. Since I did 99% of the cooking, he did the dishes a lot, although we often wound up doing them together.
I still follow that rule, even if I'm invited to someone else's house for dinner. After I eat, I quietly excuse myself and go to the kitchen to start doing the dishes. If it's just myself and a host, we usually wind up finishing them together. But if it's several people, I love it when the host later comes into the kitchen... and is completely shocked to find all the dishes done. (I'll also dry them and put them away if there is enough time, and if I can find where everything goes.)
P.S. I have to admit that I love good old-fashioned manners. If I cooked for a guy, I'd be wondering if he was going to offer to do the dishes. If it was a special occasion, no problem, I'll do everything. But if it was an ordinary day where we had both worked, and/or I cooked for a him a couple of times and he seemed to expect me to do everything... I would definitely stop offering to cook for him.
Now of course, if we got married and I wasn't working as much as he was, that's a different story. But as long as I'm working too, I'd expect that he would voluntarily take half the chores (and not just all the easy ones!)
Responsibility is another major turn-on.
I'm with SweetMorningDew--a guy who does domestic chores--and voluntarily!--is definitely a turn-on.
I've always worked, so I believe household chores should be divided (unless he stays at home and didn't work, then I would expect that he would take care of the house.)
My husband-at-the-time and I were broke college students who were both working and going to school, so we split the chores (I mowed the lawn my fair share of times, too.) When one person cooked, the other one did dishes. Since I did 99% of the cooking, he did the dishes a lot, although we often wound up doing them together.
I still follow that rule, even if I'm invited to someone else's house for dinner. After I eat, I quietly excuse myself and go to the kitchen to start doing the dishes. If it's just myself and a host, we usually wind up finishing them together. But if it's several people, I love it when the host later comes into the kitchen... and is completely shocked to find all the dishes done. (I'll also dry them and put them away if there is enough time, and if I can find where everything goes.)
P.S. I have to admit that I love good old-fashioned manners. If I cooked for a guy, I'd be wondering if he was going to offer to do the dishes. If it was a special occasion, no problem, I'll do everything. But if it was an ordinary day where we had both worked, and/or I cooked for a him a couple of times and he seemed to expect me to do everything... I would definitely stop offering to cook for him.
Now of course, if we got married and I wasn't working as much as he was, that's a different story. But as long as I'm working too, I'd expect that he would voluntarily take half the chores (and not just all the easy ones!)
Responsibility is another major turn-on.
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