You would marry a divorced person, knowing that the bible states it is adultery?

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lightbliss

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I found out my ex is living in his dream location, has his dream job, remarried, and has at least one baby. I felt as if my heart had been torn out all over again.

So, it's come to be a complete circle, which is including forgiveness but struggling with a sense of anger--"God, is THIS what you do with people who hurt us so badly? You REWARD them?"
Sorry you feel this way but just think of it this way: You may feel as though your ex got the "better half of the stick" but you are a child of God and as a father He provides for the children that seek Him.

So don't worry if he (your ex) if living flashy and whatnot because, as I like to say "Those who live in the flesh are not living for the Lord."

Matthew 6:31-33
Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

Matthew 6:19
“Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal,

Luke 12:34
For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

Mark 8:36
For what does it profit a man to gain the whole world and forfeit his soul?

Food for thought :)
 
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Blueberry

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The problem with society nowadays is that almost 90% of all divorces happen because of the wife's choosing. There can be any number of reasons WHY, but the wife is almost ALWAYS the one who wants to break off the marriage. The husband could have cheated, or beaten her, or any number of things that would justify it, but that is just a small point. There are quite a few times that the wife just gets bored and sees other men, and she wants her cake and eat it too. People nowadays just do not respect the act of marriage as a covenant for life. Wives are usually the ones that cheat nowadays anyway. There are quite a bit of cases that the wife finds herself a new lover and divorces her old husband, in which case the husband also loses half of all he owns. Women who do that are frankly quite evil with all the power they are given in today's society to get away with things like this. You don't see the husband getting cheated on and him getting half of everything SHE owns. You see the opposite mostly. This is why I just cannot respect women who divorce their husbands, despite the reasoning. Unless he severely beats you and/or cheats and he only started doing far AFTER you married him, you should never divorce your husband. It is wrong and I hope God punishes you to the fullest extent of His wrath. The real reasoning I say this is because almost everyone truly knows how a person is going to be BEFORE you marry them. If you live with a person just for a couple months, you will know exactly who they will be in the future. If he beat you before you got married, you never should have agreed to marry him afterword. To marry him and then cite abuse as a reasoning if there was prior abuse is strictly your own fault, and I believe you are in the wrong for ever joining into that marriage. You should stay with him and try your best to get him to stop through whatever means you have, and divorce should be the very very very last option. Cheating is obviously a reason to divorce someone, but if they did it before you married, I think the same things apply. If the person did it before you marry, then you already knew better once you agreed to marry them. Promises are never kept by humans when they did things in the past. Once a cheater always a cheater. Once an abuser, always an abuser. My thought is, divorce should always be a last option, ESPECIALLY if the person you marry did it prior to your marriage. You should always know the person you are marrying far before you marry them. This is why I cannot understand why people have shotgun weddings after meeting someone after only 3 months. That is a divorce waiting to happen.

This is just my opinion, but abuse and/or cheating is the only reason I could ever see divorce as a viable option, and only after every other option has been exhausted. Falling out of love is NOT a legitimate excuse to divorce your husband/wife. You chose to marry that person for better or for worse, sickness and health. This means you should stay with that person EVEN if you fall out of love with them for whatever reason if it wasn't because of cheating/physical abuse. Emotional abuse is also not even close to the same thing. Counseling is there for a reason, and if you cannot communicate properly with your spouse, there was a problem far before you got married. You made the choice to be with someone for the rest of your life, so you should own up to it.

So once again, WOMEN I am talking mainly to you, but men also. I just know statistics on this issue is mainly that WOMEN initiate 90% of divorces. You all know you have the power to take everything a man has and to ruin his life, and so you should use that power with great care. Emotional abuse is not abuse enough to divorce. You should communicate and fix that. Physical abuse is completely different and acceptable to end things, but even then you should do your best to alleviate that type of behavior before you choose divorce. Cheating is the one thing I will say could be an immediate cause for divorce, and that is only because the Bible says it is so. The bible doesn't mention abuse as a rightful reason to break off a marriage, and so you should never have chosen to marry someone who would hit you in the first place. All that being said, once again... if that person had prior behavior... you have no one to blame but yourself for choosing to marry them. I will not feel bad for you at that point, because you chose an abusive partner who you knew would continue deep down, and you could have chosen plenty of other men in the world. Perhaps they weren't as rich, good looking, or the "alpha" male you were once looking for, but they would've been better for you in the long run. You choose your life and your fate with a "yes" when your spouse asks you to marry them. Own up to it and grow up is my thought.

If this pisses you off... well go ahead and be mad. If your spouse never cheated or physically abused you and you divorce, I sincerely hope you stay single for the rest of your life. You probably ruined your husband's life by choosing to divorce him when he gave everything he had (even if he didn't have much) to you, and so you do not deserve to remarry. You should have stuck with your life changing decision in the first place, and you should definitely not be taking half of all he has in the process. It is wrong and I sincerely HATE divorce. I do not like when people marry too soon or too young, because those are the type of people that don't take marriage seriously for what it really is.

I'm sorry if this is abrasive, but the divorce rate at this time period is at an all time high in the history of the world. Honestly, ever since the women's sexual revolution and feminism took charge to the point where women believe they are "better" than men now (I don't mean their right to vote or get jobs, but their idea that men are all pigs and women are the Queens of the world type feminism), the world has been riddled with divorce. It ruins spouse's, your children's, and your family's lives. It is probably the most selfish thing on earth to divorce someone simply because you do not love them anymore. Once you make a choice to marry, you should do all that is in your power as a human and as a christian to keep that marriage going with God as the head of it. Aside from actual cheating/physical abuse, I really don't see any reason to ever divorce.

Dabears, for a christian this entire post sounds so vitriolic and full of rage. It seems you have already convinced yourself of your worldview and thats the way it is. Have you forgotten all those women in their late 40s or 50s that get dumped by their husbands, who supported them their whole lives, raised the kids, sometimes even so the husband could get his education, and to be tossed aside for a newer, younger flashier model, that no doubts sprouts a new kid for him to go through it all again?

You cannot be so black and white and regimented in your views. There is far too much grey. Im so tired of women getting the blame for the world. It has to be shared and owned up to. It is a male and female problem, and guess what it is? our sinful nature. I just pray that your hardened heart doesnt get so solid that you dont allow grace and love to seep in or out from it. It may come as you get older and experience more of life and the world.

I truly hope you never get married and have your wife leave you or whatever, and have some young high flying upstart look you in the eye and tell you to remain single for the rest of your life. Would Jesus have ever said that to anyone? Did he say it to the woman about to be stoned? The woman at the well? He had love, compassion, and grace. He is the God of second chances and more. We are all on this journey of growing and maturing. Please dont put women in this harsh box of yours. You will be the only one that gets hurt if you continue seeing us in this light.
 
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OreoSoleil

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#43
The problem with society nowadays is that almost 90% of all divorces happen because of the wife's choosing. There can be any number of reasons WHY, but the wife is almost ALWAYS the one who wants to break off the marriage. The husband could have cheated, or beaten her, or any number of things that would justify it, but that is just a small point. There are quite a few times that the wife just gets bored and sees other men, and she wants her cake and eat it too. People nowadays just do not respect the act of marriage as a covenant for life. Wives are usually the ones that cheat nowadays anyway. There are quite a bit of cases that the wife finds herself a new lover and divorces her old husband, in which case the husband also loses half of all he owns. Women who do that are frankly quite evil with all the power they are given in today's society to get away with things like this. You don't see the husband getting cheated on and him getting half of everything SHE owns. You see the opposite mostly. This is why I just cannot respect women who divorce their husbands, despite the reasoning. Unless he severely beats you and/or cheats and he only started doing far AFTER you married him, you should never divorce your husband. It is wrong and I hope God punishes you to the fullest extent of His wrath. The real reasoning I say this is because almost everyone truly knows how a person is going to be BEFORE you marry them. If you live with a person just for a couple months, you will know exactly who they will be in the future. If he beat you before you got married, you never should have agreed to marry him afterword. To marry him and then cite abuse as a reasoning if there was prior abuse is strictly your own fault, and I believe you are in the wrong for ever joining into that marriage. You should stay with him and try your best to get him to stop through whatever means you have, and divorce should be the very very very last option. Cheating is obviously a reason to divorce someone, but if they did it before you married, I think the same things apply. If the person did it before you marry, then you already knew better once you agreed to marry them. Promises are never kept by humans when they did things in the past. Once a cheater always a cheater. Once an abuser, always an abuser. My thought is, divorce should always be a last option, ESPECIALLY if the person you marry did it prior to your marriage. You should always know the person you are marrying far before you marry them. This is why I cannot understand why people have shotgun weddings after meeting someone after only 3 months. That is a divorce waiting to happen.

This is just my opinion, but abuse and/or cheating is the only reason I could ever see divorce as a viable option, and only after every other option has been exhausted. Falling out of love is NOT a legitimate excuse to divorce your husband/wife. You chose to marry that person for better or for worse, sickness and health. This means you should stay with that person EVEN if you fall out of love with them for whatever reason if it wasn't because of cheating/physical abuse. Emotional abuse is also not even close to the same thing. Counseling is there for a reason, and if you cannot communicate properly with your spouse, there was a problem far before you got married. You made the choice to be with someone for the rest of your life, so you should own up to it.

So once again, WOMEN I am talking mainly to you, but men also. I just know statistics on this issue is mainly that WOMEN initiate 90% of divorces. You all know you have the power to take everything a man has and to ruin his life, and so you should use that power with great care. Emotional abuse is not abuse enough to divorce. You should communicate and fix that. Physical abuse is completely different and acceptable to end things, but even then you should do your best to alleviate that type of behavior before you choose divorce. Cheating is the one thing I will say could be an immediate cause for divorce, and that is only because the Bible says it is so. The bible doesn't mention abuse as a rightful reason to break off a marriage, and so you should never have chosen to marry someone who would hit you in the first place. All that being said, once again... if that person had prior behavior... you have no one to blame but yourself for choosing to marry them. I will not feel bad for you at that point, because you chose an abusive partner who you knew would continue deep down, and you could have chosen plenty of other men in the world. Perhaps they weren't as rich, good looking, or the "alpha" male you were once looking for, but they would've been better for you in the long run. You choose your life and your fate with a "yes" when your spouse asks you to marry them. Own up to it and grow up is my thought.

If this pisses you off... well go ahead and be mad. If your spouse never cheated or physically abused you and you divorce, I sincerely hope you stay single for the rest of your life. You probably ruined your husband's life by choosing to divorce him when he gave everything he had (even if he didn't have much) to you, and so you do not deserve to remarry. You should have stuck with your life changing decision in the first place, and you should definitely not be taking half of all he has in the process. It is wrong and I sincerely HATE divorce. I do not like when people marry too soon or too young, because those are the type of people that don't take marriage seriously for what it really is.

I'm sorry if this is abrasive, but the divorce rate at this time period is at an all time high in the history of the world. Honestly, ever since the women's sexual revolution and feminism took charge to the point where women believe they are "better" than men now (I don't mean their right to vote or get jobs, but their idea that men are all pigs and women are the Queens of the world type feminism), the world has been riddled with divorce. It ruins spouse's, your children's, and your family's lives. It is probably the most selfish thing on earth to divorce someone simply because you do not love them anymore. Once you make a choice to marry, you should do all that is in your power as a human and as a christian to keep that marriage going with God as the head of it. Aside from actual cheating/physical abuse, I really don't see any reason to ever divorce.

You know -- its hard to comment on this one. its hard to respond without pointing a finger else where. A break up alone is hard, what about being left to raise your children alone? Many people have been dragged throuh the dirt -- God says He will bring good from our sinful actions. He will make Himself known -- and through it all He will make me stronger.

I see through the things that have happened in my life - -God wants me to just depend on Him and not trust in man -- as is what lead me to the situation I am presently in.

I encourage you to not make an opinion of someone elses hurt -- possibly they had some issues you were never aware of. Because honestly that is the main cause of our Sin.

I also encourage you to ask God to soften your heart and see others as He does. Loving as Jesus loved.
 
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DABEARS85

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I think, to be fair, that one post was a lot of rage put into it. Divorce really makes me angry. I've never been married, but I've seen a lot of good people completely ruined from it. From the experiences I've seen, when a man loses his wife to divorce... he loses himself too. Some people just move on and are okay, but I've seen so many cases where guys just get completely destroyed and never recover. I guess my reasoning to be so geared toward women in the divorce category is because of the statistics that I've seen. Women ARE generally the ones that initiate divorce.

I know you mention that women get stuck with the kids, but I have one friend who has 4 daughters, and his wife left him to go party and sleep around with other guys. She has nothing to do with the kids. A guy with 4 daughters isn't exactly an attractive match for just about anyone. The brady bunch isn't exactly a real life occurance. There is a reason why it was only a TV show. I'm not sure if he will ever find a new wife based on his situation.

I could name off tons of guys who were divorced by their wives simply because she cheated on him. They are still single, while the ex wife has a new man. The reasoning, as far as I can tell, is that women who are attractive ALWAYS have guys circling around them as "friends". These so called "friends" will wait and linger for as long as it takes, and once the girl's b/f, fiancee, husband, whatever slips up, they pounce and try to get her to lose all interest. Their whole goal is to have her move on to them. I've seen this countless times in almost every relationship.

My main experience is that women cheat FAR more than men do in relationships, all things being equal. I've just seen too many friends and aquaitences lose their g/fs or spouses due to the woman cheating on them. For some reason, this happens quite regularly. I'm not saying a good christian girl would do this, but I do know of a lot of girls that do and have. It seems like society nowadays says that it's okay to do. If you aren't happy, you cheat. Sex isn't anything near "taboo" nowadays like it used to be. There are "affair" websites online now too. You also see a lot of "cougar" websites for divorced women or unhappily married women, who all want to find a younger guy.

I think the old stigma of men going for younger girls has changed into older women going for younger men. I'm not sure the exact reason, but I really do believe in statistics in the situation. When 90% of divorces are initiated by women, it just strikes me that there really is something behind the scenes with all of it. Men really can't be to blame in everything anymore. Women, a lot of times, just want their cake and to eat it too. Women just have a lot of power nowadays in relationships compared to 50 years ago or any other time in history, and I just don't think they've used it wisely. Throughout history, it would always have been the men divorcing the women for younger girls. Men had all the power, and they abused it. Nowadays, women have that same power and they abuse it. There really is no happy medium. I think that's all I'm really saying.

I guess from all the experiences I've seen, women are mainly the culprits. Sure, men might cheat in a less serious relationship, and I've seen this a lot, but women seem to cheat far more in marriages. Once a man commits, he KNOWS he stands to lose everything if she divorces him. He will lose half of everything he has, while she stands to lose nothing at that point. I don't agree with those laws anymore, because women make just as much money as men do nowadays, if not more in some cases. Those old laws about alimony and her getting half of all he has was based on women not being able to hold high paying jobs 50 years ago. Women had a choice between becoming teachers or secretaries. Things are completely different now, and so I don't agree with the laws.

One more thing... My friend who has 4 daughters who he takes care of himself (all while working 50-60 hours a week to support them), he gets NO child support whatsoever. The law doesn't force the woman to pay it. He doesn't get alimony, but she sure did take half of what he had. She never worked, nor did he force her to, and she made bank on what he worked so hard to achieve for his family. It's a sad case, and its reasons like that that make me so angry with divorce nowadays.

You don't have to agree, and as a woman I'm sure you won't. I just know that if I ever marry, I will be very very careful with whom I choose to based on what I've already seen. I don't support prenuptual agreements either, so I'm sure whoever I marry could take all I have too. That doesn't bother me so much as the fact that women know this and use it. There's a reason you see young models try to marry old men like Hugh Heffner. They know how much money they stand to gain. There is a reason you see all these "millionaire dating services" floating around, and why you see TV shows based on it. You don't see the reversal very much of poor men marrying rich women. You also don't see those poor men divorcing the rich women to get half. The laws don't swing that way.
 
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DABEARS85

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I also encourage you to ask God to soften your heart and see others as He does. Loving as Jesus loved.
I do love and my heart is soft, just not toward the subject of divorce. I just don't agree with the way society takes it as not a big deal. It is a HUGE deal to me, and I haven't even experienced it. My parents never divorced, nor has anyone in my family. I've never been married, and overall I've only dated one girl that ever cheated on me. I just have seen so much hurt from friends and people that I know, and it bothers me. Sometimes, you take in the hurt of others who go to you for advice, and it's so hard for me to give much hope to them in the situations they've been left in. I can give a pat on the back, buy them a beer, and be there as a friend, but it won't change that their wife left them for another man. Women can literally be very evil, when a man can only do so much to a women comparatively in an overall spectrum. I've never said that men don't do it too, but I've just not seen that type of hurt placed on women that it did to the men I know.

I think.. and I could be wrong... that sex is more of a big deal to men than women. We are far more "physical" in the way we think and look at things than women. Women are more based on the feeling and emotional side. A guy that cheats on the girl will obviously devistate her, but I think it may hurt men more in the opposite case. I could be wrong, but this is just what I've seen.

I don't know any man that left his wife for another girl, took all she had in the bank, maxed all her credit cards, sold all her furniture and everything she owned, had her house go on foreclosure, and even took her dog while she was forceably overseas serving the country. I have never seen a woman being forced to pay alimony to her ex husband to her AFTER the previous things had been done to her. I have seen this done to men. I have never seen a woman kill herself over these things happening to her. I have seen this done to men.

Take it or leave it, but I feel very strongly on the issue based on these things. I hate divorce and always will. This doesn't mean by any means that I hate women though! Not at all! I just hate divorce, and I believe once you get married, you should do everything in your power to keep that marriage going, despite the circumstances or temperary unhappiness with life.

Now... all that being said... can men do it too and be completely in the wrong? Yes, of course. I don't view them as men though, because no real man would leave his family for greener pastures elsewhere. Real men stick through the bad times and the good, and support his family no matter what life throws at him. Guys that don't do this are not real men in my eyes anyway.

Sorry for the rant. God bless you all, and I apologize if I hurt anyone's feelings in all of this.
 
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DABEARS85

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Oh, and when I say that I believe married couples should do everything in their power to keep the marriage going... I'm talking more to the culprits than anything. I'm saying that the woman OR the man (it really doesn't matter either way) who decides to initiate a divorce... they should think strong and hard about fixing their marriage first. Usually, the one who initiates the divorce is the one who did wrong. They are the ones who cheated, not the one receiving the divorce papers. At least, that's what my experience has been. From what I've seen... even people that have been cheated on... all they want is their spouse to stop doing it and to come back to them. They want their love back.. they don't want revenge by ending things. The cheater is usually the one who starts the divorce proceedings... and so my anger really goes out to them... no one else.

So... women.. if you think I geared everything toward you... I'm not trying to. I'm gearing it toward the evil women who I've seen divorce their husbands after they themselves cheated on their husbands. You can switch any time I say "woman" out for "man" too, and it will be the same thing. I am against both parties on that one.

As far as marrying a divorced woman... I would do it if she wasn't the one who initiated it through her own mistakes. If her husband cheated... abused her... or anything like that... if he left her.. then of course I would still date/marry a divorcee. If the woman is the one that cheated... if she left HER husband over things that don't involve cheating/abuse... then I wouldn't even consider it. Once a cheater, always a cheater in my eyes. I wouldn't want to become ex husband #2.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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The real question is would you marry someone whose foot was this big
 
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OreoSoleil

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I do love and my heart is soft, just not toward the subject of divorce. I just don't agree with the way society takes it as not a big deal. It is a HUGE deal to me, and I haven't even experienced it. My parents never divorced, nor has anyone in my family. I've never been married, and overall I've only dated one girl that ever cheated on me. I just have seen so much hurt from friends and people that I know, and it bothers me. Sometimes, you take in the hurt of others who go to you for advice, and it's so hard for me to give much hope to them in the situations they've been left in. I can give a pat on the back, buy them a beer, and be there as a friend, but it won't change that their wife left them for another man. Women can literally be very evil, when a man can only do so much to a women comparatively in an overall spectrum. I've never said that men don't do it too, but I've just not seen that type of hurt placed on women that it did to the men I know.

I think.. and I could be wrong... that sex is more of a big deal to men than women. We are far more "physical" in the way we think and look at things than women. Women are more based on the feeling and emotional side. A guy that cheats on the girl will obviously devistate her, but I think it may hurt men more in the opposite case. I could be wrong, but this is just what I've seen.

I don't know any man that left his wife for another girl, took all she had in the bank, maxed all her credit cards, sold all her furniture and everything she owned, had her house go on foreclosure, and even took her dog while she was forceably overseas serving the country. I have never seen a woman being forced to pay alimony to her ex husband to her AFTER the previous things had been done to her. I have seen this done to men. I have never seen a woman kill herself over these things happening to her. I have seen this done to men.

Take it or leave it, but I feel very strongly on the issue based on these things. I hate divorce and always will. This doesn't mean by any means that I hate women though! Not at all! I just hate divorce, and I believe once you get married, you should do everything in your power to keep that marriage going, despite the circumstances or temperary unhappiness with life.

Now... all that being said... can men do it too and be completely in the wrong? Yes, of course. I don't view them as men though, because no real man would leave his family for greener pastures elsewhere. Real men stick through the bad times and the good, and support his family no matter what life throws at him. Guys that don't do this are not real men in my eyes anyway.

Sorry for the rant. God bless you all, and I apologize if I hurt anyone's feelings in all of this.

You can add me to that list of what men do to woman -- we have a pile of debt and it's all in my name. -- But I see God working in making him pay me back.

As far as the sex part -- I don't agree -- it is equally important to a woman. But yes, we want a man who emotionally stable to be with us too.

I said what i said in a loving manner -- you seem very wise and kind hearted. But you must understand -- as humans we are equally sinful -- and through our own sin against God -- we will hurt others.

Through sin I was hurting -- then my choices through sin caused hurt to others. Then my sin brought me to the place i am affecting everyone -- see how it is panned out.

The key to all this -- is to have God change us. The individual -- because ultimately I am the only one who can change.

You have a great heart -- and I respect you for seeing that we all have points.

I think Psalm 51 puts the way I feel right on paper. Davids sin brought him where he was -- that is the bottom line. The hurt he felt -- was there. Paul with his sin -- his sin was ever before him. In a way it plagued him. Now God gives us hope and a new life -- but we will always know we sinned. And it is when we look at our OWN sin with disgust that we are closer to God. that's the whole purpose of this life anyway.
 
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asamanthinketh

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#49
well, do you think divorce is a wordly or eternal decision

if you had to choose between life or death and divorce was the way to life, then what would you do.
And I mean the kind of life where you will not be 6 feet under the ground or in an urn on top of someone's book shelf
 
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NukePooch

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The real question is would you marry someone whose foot was this big
Only if she slept with that foot at the end of the bed, not by my head. If she rolled over, she'd kick me into unconsciousness.
 
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I would marry a divorced woman, it wouldnt bother me
 
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Blueberry

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I would marry a divorced woman, it wouldnt bother me
I am really curious to know why it wouldnt bother you. You are one of the rare people on this forum that think that. Im divorced btw, and my view is that our God is a redeeming one, full of grace.
When I sin, Jesus wipes it away as far as the east is to the west.
 
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Lalilo

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If you only recently became a christian ' Born Again' as they say. How does your past effect your present and future. Especially if your previous marriage was outside the blessing of the Church because you used a marriage celebrent. Someone please define for me what 'Born Again' actually means?
 
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Jullianna

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#54
It's odd how divorce became an unpardonable sin somewhere along the line. Jesus forgave the woman at the well....
 
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reformed101

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THE BIBLE DOES NOT SAY MARRYING A DIVORCED PERSON IS ADULTERY....SOME DIVORCE BEFORE THEY ARE CHRISTIAN AND ONE BECOMES SAVED AND NOT THE OTHER SO YOU SHOULD'NT MARRY A NON CHRISTIAN, AND SOME DIVORCE CUZ ONE IS SAVED AND THE OTHER ISN'T BUT THE ONE WHO IS NOT WANT TO BE LET GO CUZ THEY DO NOT LIKE CHRIST AND YOU ARE TO LET THEM GO AS IT SAYS THIS ALL IN COR. 7,8 AND OTHER PLACES . BUT YOU CAN'T BE AN ELDER IF YOU HAVE BEEN MARRIED AND DIVORCED AND REMARRIED . I REMARRIED MY EX WIFE WHEN WE GOT DIVORCED IS THAT WRONG ? IF YOU ARE BOTH BELIEVERS YOU ARE TO STAY MARRIED . IF ONE IS A BELIEVER AND NOT THE OTHER THE ONE WHO IS NOT MAY LEAVE AND NO HARM DONE THEY ARE FREE GOD SAYS CUZ LIGHT DOES NOT MIX WITH DARKNESS .YOU MAY MARRY A DIVORCED PERSON IF THE ONE DIVORCED DID SO UNDER GOD TERMS, THAT IS IF THE ONE WHO DIVORCED WAS NOT A BELIEVER AND WANTED NOTHING TO DO WITH JESUS . AND YOU ARE EQUALLY YOKED ( BOTH SAVED) PLEASE READ CORINTHIANS 7
 
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Lalilo

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Thanks Reform 101
 
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I am really curious to know why it wouldnt bother you. You are one of the rare people on this forum that think that. Im divorced btw, and my view is that our God is a redeeming one, full of grace.
When I sin, Jesus wipes it away as far as the east is to the west.
Well there is that whole thing about God and forgiveness which I agree with. And Im sorry if you are actually in love with someone why let their past affect your future?
 

Crypto

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Nope I wouldn't because I would be disqualified from the ministry.
 
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asamanthinketh

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I may be incorrect, but doesn't the bible also say that divorce and marriage which go together are only for this earthly, physical world.

Many view it as an instiution, something that we do to have love, comfort, what we like.

Your faith and your spirit are not always bound to the one you marry. It just depends on who you are and where you are at in your life, how you've been blessed and what you have been able to receive from others, from the Lord.

If you are not comfortable with divorce, then I would suggest not doing it, unless it is a life or death matter.

Because I have noticed that most others hold you accountable for your decisions and what you believe and may not always know the whole truth or all the motives.

Divorces is never the first choice, the right way, but it is availalbe and necessary just like the death penalty.
 
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CHRISTELLE

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Hi, Im certainly interested on this topic as i am living the situation. And ive read all your opinions and quotes......still confused...
Ive been divorced for 8 years almost and have not remarried, but my exhusband did....did he commit adultery...or if i get married then i will commit adultery and the person that marries me will also?
Im sorry, been debating on this for years and have decided to wait and see what God has planned for me....but dont want to believe he wants me to me alone for the rest of my life!!