Why is it that so many people just assume you've been divorced if you are over 30 and unmarried? And when you say that your spouse died, it's like you just said you're growing a third eye or something?
We are people too. haha We date, we joke, we laugh, we love. It's okay to talk to us! Really!
P.S. - it sometimes helps if this is a marital status option so that it's not such a surprise to people after they begin talking with you.