When I was married, I felt a particular "burden" to provide for my family. While I usually enjoyed my work, in the times that income was scarce, I felt that obtaining it was "on me". Similarly, if there was a physical threat, I felt called to step in between it and her/the kids.
With this in mind, I suggest that "male" is (or at least includes as a significant portion) protector/provider.
I'd offer complementary thoughts regarding "female" but as I'm not one, I don't know what "burdens" females. So, ladies, especially those who are/have been married, I welcome your perspectives.
With this in mind, I suggest that "male" is (or at least includes as a significant portion) protector/provider.
I'd offer complementary thoughts regarding "female" but as I'm not one, I don't know what "burdens" females. So, ladies, especially those who are/have been married, I welcome your perspectives.
I guess this how I personally interpret the definition of being a "helpmate"--she is strong, so that he doesn't always have to be, because as much as they might like to believe it )), men are not Terminators and have moments where they need to rest, step back, or recharge. And I believe that a woman has to have enough skill and backbone to step in during those times.
I see a marriage as two partners back-to-back against world, not one cowering behind the other, or constantly relying on someone to save them. I would rather be an assistant like Sarah Connor to Arnold's Terminator than a damsel trapped in a tower waiting for a knight, but again, that's just me. If I have my way, I'm going to find my own way out of the tower and hopefully, meet him halfway.
I believe in working, because, while a one-person income would certainly be nice (especially with children), it isn't always possible, and I believe a helpmate should be prepared to do her part, including being able to earn an income if and when needed (after all, what if her husband gets sick, or the Lord calls him home?)
There are also too many factors in life that just one person can't fight off all alone--what if a family member gets sick, becomes disabled, is no longer able to work, etc.? These days, even a few weeks out with the flu can have devastating financial repercussions on families.
I have often wondered if many men feel burdened and overwhelmed at the thought of having to provide for and protect a not just a wife, but also an entire family.
I know I sure would.
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