Thinking Gods forgotten about me...

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AHeartThatServes

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Is there anyone out there that feels like me? That when it comes to finding a spouse, I fear that God simply has forgotten about me...I'm 39, single and female and I wanted to have children...but I am spouseless and not even dating anyone. I try to live with faith, and accept his will for me...but these desires of my heart leave me so alone...is there anyone that can relate or offer advice?
 
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OreoSoleil

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i'm spouseless and I have 2 kids -- it's interesting to be on the opposite side. Check out Hebrews 3 -- this is a time that we can allow our hearts to be hardened or face our unbelief and believe every promise God has in the Bible -- we must now work on our trust -- trusting in God --- that He will work it all out for the good.
 
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Mulehide

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I can relate, but I have no advice. Lyndies thread on Bride was a great blessing to me in this area though.
 
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godsbluesman

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I thought I would be happy........I always used to have a girlfreind or wife,was never alone. But Sis, There is sooo much more in God than in a relationship with another person.I'm not sure how to explain exactly what I mean-maybe you can understand-Living in the worldly side of life really never fulfilled me-now i know you live by your faith,and hope for a spouse and children,and maybe you feel unfulfilled in life.but God is the One in charge here,right?and we know that God Gives us what we really need in life-so if I were you I would be careful,siince God is the one who knows best.And I know how you feel-I was a virgin till I was 21 and thought Where is the one for me? but I've also found that I am much happier in the will of God! I do have 4 children,but i've also been married 3 times-lol still couldnt get it right-so now I am trusting God for whatever he has for me in My future. We are the bride of Christ. It actually says in the nt that if you can be without a spouse it is better.I wish I could give the scripture for it-maybe someone else who reads this can give that to you.being single leaves me unhindered to give all my energy to God's will.
Well,I hope maybe this gives you some insight or direction.I'm not a counselor ar anything close to it.But I;ve been on both sides of the wall and I like the side on which i am single better for now-like I said,I leave it to God for His Will to be done and not mine-we are close in age,as i am 44. I have been single for two years( no girlfreind whom I am intimate with).I will say there is someone tha i am thinkin of seriously,But I am also letting God lead the way. Maybe I;m just spouting off,but If I were you I wouldnt worry-when you stop looking,that may be just the time God decides to send someone-as it is in my case. So,sis,trust God and all else will come in His time!! GOd Bless You.
 
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jangel

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uhmmm reading thread like this makes me think what if I'll reach my 30s and I also don't have the right one...uhmmmm....:eek::D
I'm 24 and never had a bf ,but I'm happy and never worry about it..I'm happy being single and I don't want commitment...well... ok had relationship but no commitment...but knowing people like you makes me think ...yeaa , im not getting any younger.lol. The last time I dated was 2 years ago with this guy who is so nice, thoughtful,sweet... and my friends would say I coudn't find someone like him anymore but I let him go...he's someone i never thought a guy could do for me for making me special but spiritually I find him so dry so I ended it....but main reason still I'm not ready for commitment and I don't know when will I be ready for it...so for me it's best not to entertain guys more than as a friend for now.I don't know if someone will come and change my mind coz right now i felt my life will just become complicated if I enter into relationship..., but on your case, you really wanted it and the fact that you're already 39 it's like critical period in your end...I've known people in our church who do fasting on this and it was granted, did you try it? Adam did not ask for Eve but she was given to him because God saw in Adam's heart that he is longing for something that can't be found on what was already given to him...God knows...and He knows the right time but if you think you're running out of time, I believe fasting really works, but for me if God will let me choose having a happy family on my own or death, I will chose death...all we want is to be happy, we're longing for something we don't have...we work hard to achieve something...and that's all because we wanted to be happy but God promised us more than this life could offer and that's what I'm longing to have.:)
 
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Bradley

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I am 37, never had a girlfriend, and have not been on a date since 1991. I can relate perfectly, heh heh heh.
 
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Hey AHeartThatServes,

I can totally, completely relate to feeling left behind!!!! My family may be small but EVERYONE has someone in my family... even my 86-year-old Grandma and my 92-year-old Grandpa (each is on different sides of the family and each one's spouse passed away, but they found someone.)

I have often told my friends it's very sad that my grandparents have much more active social lives than I do!!!

And anyone else who tells me, "Oh, just find a good Christian guy at your church," "Just pray more,"... is in serious danger of being strangled because the ones who all give me that advice are married and/or have never been alone or if they have, it was maybe a year or two at the most.

I've met nice guys over the years but we had different interests, areas of ministry, etc.--one whom I met at a conference a few years ago who is my age and was in a similar situation as myself--his spouse had left him for someone else. He and I never started dating, though he asked, but we had some differences that just didn't seem to work out.

He met a great Christian girl... and is getting married this fall. I definitely can relate to you in feeling that God is constantly passing me by, as this is the 7th year I've been alone, and while I don't really like it (sometimes I pretty much hate it), I have to admit that I HAVE learned a lot, experienced a lot in life, and am at least grateful for time with friends and family.

However, as I get older, it does concern me. People say, "Oh, you're just a baby," as they go home to their spouse and house full of kids or grandkids (I have no children.)

I work with some women in their 50's and 60's who are not married and do not have kids--they wanted these things, but life just got away from them... day by day, year by year.

In other words... they were just like me... and sometimes it feels I don't have that many years behind them.

I totally, totally feel the pain of other "slightly older singles" here and hopefully we'll all be able to support and lean on each other!!!
 
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sweetnshy

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I'm 27 and have never even had a date. Sometimes it seems like I'm the only one left who is so far away from ever getting married and ironically that gives me a ray of hope--it's like, Well I'm the only one left, so it must be my turn any day now, right?! But then I meet others who are even older than me and just as far away from marriage as I am and then it's back to waiting in line for it to be my turn. :p Anyone have any idea why God doesn't remove the desire if it isn't going to be fulfilled? I don't get it.
 
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AHeartThatServes said:
Is there anyone out there that feels like me? That when it comes to finding a spouse, I fear that God simply has forgotten about me...I'm 39, single and female and I wanted to have children...but I am spouseless and not even dating anyone. I try to live with faith, and accept his will for me...but these desires of my heart leave me so alone...is there anyone that can relate or offer advice?
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The Lord hasn’t forgotten you.
 
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trustinghim

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Yes, I can relate! I don't want to bore you with my story but will tell you a better one...
There was a woman who was all alone and wanted a man and family...she was nearing 40...
Each night she laid a pair of men's pants on her bed and prayed...

Dear Lord hear my prayer, help me if you can, upon my bed I've laid some pants,
please fill em with a man!

Well, this woman went on to get married and have several children! God can prolong your youth and men will still
want you when you are 90 like Sarah:)

God's love and best to you dear one.
 
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Logos57

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AHeartThatServes said:
Is there anyone out there that feels like me? That when it comes to finding a spouse, I fear that God simply has forgotten about me...I'm 39, single and female and I wanted to have children...but I am spouseless and not even dating anyone. I try to live with faith, and accept his will for me...but these desires of my heart leave me so alone...is there anyone that can relate or offer advice?
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Can't offer any advice but can surely relate, I'm 44 and single so you know that one prayer request that more than likely is answer NO. Plus so many other prayer request God doesn't even seem to care about.

It makes it so hard to pray to God for anything, when I'm so sure if I want or need it the answer will be NO! (John 16:23-24; II Corinthians 1:18-20; Hebrews 4:16) It even has me wondering did the Blood of Jesus save me from my sins and if so does He even care about me.

Sorry about being so gloomy.
 
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SacredWarrior

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Hello fellow New Yorker. I have been single now for almost 12 years. I do not like being single, and have grown as content as I am going to be with it. I do not believe that if we have a desire to be married, that God would want us single. And I do not believe we can expect him to answer that prayer if we just do not think about it, because I for one ALWAYS think about it. If God wants me single he will have to take away my desire to be married, and he has not done that. So having said that, I can not have any more kids and I am not George Clooney, but I an available and I am in New York :)
 
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ElizabethPeter

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I may be young, and the last thing you'd probably want to do is listen to a 15 year old girl, but to be honest and truthful, God works through all people. He is undiscriminating.

God didn't forget about you. (Isaiah 59) Maybe this verse isn't what you needed to hear. But maybe God just has His timing. I'm not much help, but I hope it all works out for you. God bless.
 
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ElizabethPeter said:
I may be young, and the last thing you'd probably want to do is listen to a 15 year old girl, but to be honest and truthful, God works through all people. He is undiscriminating.

God didn't forget about you. (Isaiah 59) Maybe this verse isn't what you needed to hear. But maybe God just has His timing. I'm not much help, but I hope it all works out for you. God bless.
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This thread is from June 2010. The person that started it is no longer a member of the site. If you look in the top left of each post it tells you when it was made. It usually doesn't pay to go more than page 2, before you start getting into dated threads.
 
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chiefey

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I can relate. I have prayed so much and it seems God ignores me. I will admit I have gotten angry with Him in the past for this. However, I have come to realize that His love is so amazing! The lonliness is tough but there is no peace or true happiness without God through His son Jesus! He will provide when He is ready. Be patient and keep your mind on things that are beautiful and pure. When you feel His Spirit it is so overwhelming and awesome!
 
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