So... you're single? Are you upset? Click here.

So… you are single. Before you make that thread about how terrible your love life is I would like to share a few thoughts with you. I am 23 and I am single myself (at the time of writing this thread). I do not offer the following information as truth, there is no scientific data to support me, and it is one dimensional. Take it as you will and I can only hope it will help you as much as it has helped me.

I am single and I am upset about it.

Why? I want you to take a moment and think deeply as to why you are truly upset. If you are not a complete person alone you will not be a complete person with someone else. Trust me. It is a common misconception to think that you are incomplete without a significant other in your life. You are perfect and I can prove it.

Ok, prove it.

Open your eyes and look into the mirror. You will never be as beautiful as you are now, this very moment. A lot of things had to be perfect for you to be where you are. You are your toughest critic in your mind, that’s what you need to change. Not your body. If you have the confidence in yourself then the rest will follow suit. Your body will reflect your mentalities. Your body language, all of it. Smile, it helps too.

You have gifts.

You see things that no one else can. You feel things that only you understand. You have talents and skills that are hidden behind a brick wall. Want to know a secret? Brick walls are not designed to keep you out. They are just there to test how badly you want what is on the other side. You can knock it down, climb over it, go around, point is you can do it! You hold the tools and there is nothing stopping you. If you get out of your way anything is possible.

I just want a boy/girl friend.

Before you begin to search you need to realize something. This isn’t something you look for. There is no treasure beneath an oasis, no X marks the spot. You can’t search for something you cannot see or touch. That is what faith is, love is the same way. It is an experience. It defies all natural laws: created from nothing and it can never be destroyed. There is no magic line that will give you that person. There are no genies to give you those three wishes; it’s all in your heart. All of it.

Don’t search, LIVE!

Regardless on your thoughts or beliefs in regards to an afterlife we can all agree that we are here, right now. Take a deep breath and take a plunge into what life has to offer. Life is not a goal. Life is not a destination. Life is a journey that we all take; a story to be told. Open your book and write in its’ pages. Write down 10 goals that you want to accomplish. This can be in a week, month, year, or lifetime. Then go do it! If you pick up a book and read the last chapter you will not understand, feel empty, cheated, deceived of something that you know is so much better. Life is the same way. Go!

Open your wings and fly.

The most beautiful birds in the world are only so beautiful because they open their wings and fly. Feel the wind in your face and see all that is around you. Take it with you when you go. On your journey you will meet someone. I promise. If you live your life to the fullest and keep a heart of gold; that special someone will take notice. Trust me.

My mentality of life: “If you live life to the fullest you will always be out of breath, have windswept hair, and have the biggest grin on your face. Welcome to my life. Welcome to my adventure. I have gifts, I am beautiful, I have wings, and I can fly.”

[bobie]

im single but im not really upset maybe because im busy at school! anyway im infatuated with a certain someone but she's not the type who'd go for me so im like whatever!

[zeroturbulence]

Not everyone can afford such a cavalier lifestyle. Some of us have big demands on our time like a steady job and kids to take care of.

[sportygirl]

I've gotten over the point of being upset, through something quite similar to this. Before my ex, all I wanted was a boyfriend, and although before knowing my ex was intersted I hadnt thought of him as anything more than a friend. But when I knew he liked me I decided I could like him, and I did I loved him. BUt, I also didnt let God into my relationship and found having a boyfriend more important than a relationship. Since that relationship ended (horribly btw) I've learned a boyfriend isnt what I desire at all. I want a best friend who actually cares about me, and patience and waiting for God has become easier (not always but mostly) and I know he has a plan and although I still talk about the crush I have right now. Despite knowing he is a good guy I'm waiting for Gods timing, all I know now is that I'm no longer going to settle for a guy just because they like me and are a christian. (I'm not saying I'm gonna be picky either, I just need to have liked them prior to them liking me or lots nad lots of prayer haha)

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

What if your single and not upset?? then what

[NightOwl]

Originally Posted by NodMyHeadLikeYeah

What if your single and not upset?? then what

Well, I guess you praise The Lord, then.

Originally Posted by NodMyHeadLikeYeah

What if your single and not upset?? then what

Live your life and stop trolling threads :P

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

Originally Posted by Sadarian

Live your life and stop trolling threads :P

uhh oohh sadarian made a joke!!

[redeemed7]

Originally Posted by Sadarian

Live your life and stop trolling threads :P

[zeroturbulence]

Originally Posted by NodMyHeadLikeYeah

What if your single and not upset?? then what

Then you probably know the big secret....that finding a bf or gf isn't the cure for unhappiness that many think it is. ...but maybe its best we keep that one to ourselves.

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

<--Can anyone figure out which one is redeemed7

[redeemed7]

Originally Posted by NodMyHeadLikeYeah

<--Can anyone figure out which one is redeemed7

I'll go with Ronald. You can be trailer park Britney!

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

no no sadarian is the other...

[zeroturbulence]

LOL Im starting to worry about you Nod.

Im starting to worry that you think like me. :P

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

hahaha personally i cant say i blame you zero.

ok ok im done posting on your thread now sadarian...

[bobie]

Originally Posted by redeemed7

rofl..........................

[resurrection33]

I enjoy being single.

[bobie]

well i heard that some ppl find their soulmate when their not looking! is dat true? just wondering!

[resurrection33]

Originally Posted by bobie

well i heard that some ppl find their soulmate when their not looking! is dat true? just wondering!

For those people the Lord wants to marry, he probably has someone picked out, don’t you think, someone who would be the perfect match? People have to figure out whether or not the Lord wants them to marry, and if so, who that person is. I suppose such a person could drop into someone’s life at any time, or it could be an old acquaintance.

[bobie]

^ so i guess we don't have to worry about being single then hehe we'll eventually get what we want!