Why is it so hard for me to talk to girls?
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one, talk about God more than anything(weed out the tares)
two, point her to God, not yourself(protects your heart)
Three, these two things will surely show you where her heart is and yours
Four, don't be afraid to tell her she's wrong Biblically
Five, take the initiative
Six, be able to humble yourself to her when your wrong, or your not sure your wrong
Seven, be understanding as women are fragile
Eight, Pray without ceasing for your heart and hers, and put no confidence in your flesh(check out point 2)
Lastly, Make sure you know what Marriage is all about before even thinking about a girl. You as a Guy are to be Jesus Christ to her.
which is a huge responsibility and should not be taken lightly. Before looking for a girl, ask if your have those qualities as a bride, to Jesus Christ
two, point her to God, not yourself(protects your heart)
Three, these two things will surely show you where her heart is and yours
Four, don't be afraid to tell her she's wrong Biblically
Five, take the initiative
Six, be able to humble yourself to her when your wrong, or your not sure your wrong
Seven, be understanding as women are fragile
Eight, Pray without ceasing for your heart and hers, and put no confidence in your flesh(check out point 2)
Lastly, Make sure you know what Marriage is all about before even thinking about a girl. You as a Guy are to be Jesus Christ to her.
which is a huge responsibility and should not be taken lightly. Before looking for a girl, ask if your have those qualities as a bride, to Jesus Christ
Alas all these things I have done with a girl actually on here. horrible situation happened, i got overbearing and tried selfishly to save the relationship
but, I was doing all of what i was talking about, and God was making the relationship happen, not me. She won't talk to me anymore, which I said was fine, I really miss just seeing God work in her life. ah well, ~RS knows who she is
but, I was doing all of what i was talking about, and God was making the relationship happen, not me. She won't talk to me anymore, which I said was fine, I really miss just seeing God work in her life. ah well, ~RS knows who she is
I know where youre coming from. I was that way for a long long time. The problem is that we put girls on a pedestal in our minds. When we want to approach a girl the first thing we think of is "what does she think of me? Will I sound ok? Will I sound strange because I like her?" Youve got to break that pattern. Youve got to know that she sees you as just another dude, no one special. Just try to be nice and don't freeze up worrying about whether she thinks you're nice or strange or whatever. Pretend she's an old friend that you're used to being around. That is one good way to calm yourself down. Hehe wish I thought of that sooner! lol
C
I've made numerous attempts to answer your questions and help you solve your own problems. You never reply nor do you acknowledge my advice. I am more than willing to take you under my wing and 1 on 1 through private messaging if necessary get you right up to speed. I hope you realize I'm the kind of person who is highly skilled at this sort of thing.
Just about all of your questions and stumbling points are simple and resolvable. You're no where no other man or woman hasn't already been before. Stop trying to prove to yourself you cannot succeed. You made a recent post suggesting a friend should have a woman talk to you. Why don't you just go ahead with that plan for a while, like training wheels and get your confidence going.
Just about all of your questions and stumbling points are simple and resolvable. You're no where no other man or woman hasn't already been before. Stop trying to prove to yourself you cannot succeed. You made a recent post suggesting a friend should have a woman talk to you. Why don't you just go ahead with that plan for a while, like training wheels and get your confidence going.
E
maybe you just need some practice? Its hard to tell what exactly is the problem from your post... maybe explain a little bit more? Do you get nervous, and then can't talk? Or do you freak out while you talk to them? Maybe a good way to start is talking to a girl who knows that it's practice, and she could give you pointers?
J
The 'skeezey' guy with the nice girl that someone brought up in another thread is with that girl because he had the guts to talk to her when other guys didn't. Just talk, be friendly, be polite. If she's rude, that's probably why she's single and you can move on knowing you've lost absolutely nothing.
seriously....talk to the girl...don't play games or have someone else talk with her.
seriously....talk to the girl...don't play games or have someone else talk with her.
P
I've found the most liberating thing is to have purity of intentions. I try to see each woman as a daughter of the Most High and as my sister in Christ. If you're talking for the right reasons you should find the right things to say, things that edify and convey sincere friendship. At all times the relationship is in the Lord's hands and the conversation is subject to His guidelines. That frees us to relax and actually enjoy each other's company, in Him. You still may need to get over shyness, but that will come with practice.