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I've liked this girl for a year now.We're really good friends She goes to uni with me. She has never had a boyfriend before nor has she kissed a guy
I've asked her to be my girlfriend 3 times
1st time she said she just wasn't ready for a relationship so we remained just as friends.
2nd time she said against she wasn't ready, but then we started doing lots of one on one stuff together.
3rd time we had a long discussion about it, she said that part of her wanted to, but another part didn't like the idea of being in a relationship. But at the end she said she was really sorry but just couldn't.
Then 1 month later in April she tells me that she likes me, I kinda knew that already. She told her that even though she's really afraid of being in a relationship that she wants to give it a shot. Then we go on holidays separately, we she got back, one week later, she said she was really sorry but couldn't go through with it, even though she'd be jealous if another girl went out with me.
We had a final discussion about it at the end of may and she then she says she realizes she doesn't want a relationship with me because she thinks it would be weird. She says she sees me like a brother. But to be honest, I really don't think that's entirely true. She has said in the past that the whole concept of being in a relationship with anyone would be weird. She's also said in the past that the idea of being in a relationship stresses her out, but she's never been in one so i'm having trouble understanding where she has gotten these ideas from?
Anyways about five weeks went buy with little-no contact but we met up at the end of last month, and talked and patched things up. But I still like her and I think she still likes me. We ran into each other at uni the other day and just the way she acted around me seemed like she likes me still. She's asked me to coffee as well.. I know this doesnt necesaily mean anything, but it means she's not trying to avoid hanging out with me and that she still wants to do stuff with me...
Let's just say that I'm right and that she does like me. What should I do? I've prayed so much about this, and i just feel she's the one God wants me to be with... we get along so well together, she's even told me that she feels more comfortable around me than anyone else, that she feels she can tell me things that she can't tell anyone else...
I just don't want to give up.... But what do you guys think I should do? Give up? Keep trying to do things with her, but just friendly things like coffee and just let things flow?? Be more obvious- like ask her to dinner etc - (but we've had dinner together severeal times in the past)?? I've never had a girlfriend before either, but i've never felt this way before.... and i really feel there's something between us- i think she does have feelings for me, im not sure how strong they are, but i think she is convinced that despite her feelings she doesnt want a relationship. I think had i met her when she was 30, maybe something could have happened... This is what really upsets me, and this is why i feel i just shouldnt give up. But any outside opinions would be good
THankyou all and God bless
I've asked her to be my girlfriend 3 times
1st time she said she just wasn't ready for a relationship so we remained just as friends.
2nd time she said against she wasn't ready, but then we started doing lots of one on one stuff together.
3rd time we had a long discussion about it, she said that part of her wanted to, but another part didn't like the idea of being in a relationship. But at the end she said she was really sorry but just couldn't.
Then 1 month later in April she tells me that she likes me, I kinda knew that already. She told her that even though she's really afraid of being in a relationship that she wants to give it a shot. Then we go on holidays separately, we she got back, one week later, she said she was really sorry but couldn't go through with it, even though she'd be jealous if another girl went out with me.
We had a final discussion about it at the end of may and she then she says she realizes she doesn't want a relationship with me because she thinks it would be weird. She says she sees me like a brother. But to be honest, I really don't think that's entirely true. She has said in the past that the whole concept of being in a relationship with anyone would be weird. She's also said in the past that the idea of being in a relationship stresses her out, but she's never been in one so i'm having trouble understanding where she has gotten these ideas from?
Anyways about five weeks went buy with little-no contact but we met up at the end of last month, and talked and patched things up. But I still like her and I think she still likes me. We ran into each other at uni the other day and just the way she acted around me seemed like she likes me still. She's asked me to coffee as well.. I know this doesnt necesaily mean anything, but it means she's not trying to avoid hanging out with me and that she still wants to do stuff with me...
Let's just say that I'm right and that she does like me. What should I do? I've prayed so much about this, and i just feel she's the one God wants me to be with... we get along so well together, she's even told me that she feels more comfortable around me than anyone else, that she feels she can tell me things that she can't tell anyone else...
I just don't want to give up.... But what do you guys think I should do? Give up? Keep trying to do things with her, but just friendly things like coffee and just let things flow?? Be more obvious- like ask her to dinner etc - (but we've had dinner together severeal times in the past)?? I've never had a girlfriend before either, but i've never felt this way before.... and i really feel there's something between us- i think she does have feelings for me, im not sure how strong they are, but i think she is convinced that despite her feelings she doesnt want a relationship. I think had i met her when she was 30, maybe something could have happened... This is what really upsets me, and this is why i feel i just shouldnt give up. But any outside opinions would be good
THankyou all and God bless