Had an epiphany, for all you lonely people

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eugenius

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I finally realized something. Why I am alone. I have no father, almost no friends, nobody cares about me. My mom and grandmother don't share my faith and don't understand me sometimes. The world proudly displays its middle finger to my face daily. I spend half my time talking to the walls in my room, because there is nobody else.

But you know what? I realized something. I am alone so that I can learn to be dependant entirely on God. I have no father. The lord is my heavenly father. When people spit in my face, he still loves me. I don't trust people. I don't even like people very much, but I can always trust God.

To the rest of you who feel the indifference of the world. To you who feel that the world has abandoned you. To you who are lonely and don't want to live anymore. The reason you are like this, is so that you can learn to rely only on God. Don't trust people. Only trust the Lord.

Don't have anyone on valentines day? Who cares. Its all a bunch of BS anyway. Don't kill yourself over it. Trust Jesus. Rely on Jesus.
 
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BellaFlor

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That is very true. :)

Those who are strongest in faith, are often those who had God to trust and rely on the most. God loves you, ever since you got born into this world. We live in a cruel and hard world, everything has a lot with how succesful one can become in the world. People looks down on those that are different, and that watches through God's eyes. But blessed are those who does what the Father tells them to do, get's rooted in God's Word, and lives with Him daily. They will be rewarded a lot more for this, than those who tries making the world become their friend. When we walk with God, we walk in victory!

God Bless You!
 
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DanuckInUSA

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I love your reliance on God. Your anger towards the world though is misplaced. Don't believe that lie. We are called to love the world, especially our enemies that would seek to hurt us.
 
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BellaFlor

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If you said this to me, there is no anger intended to be in my message. Only facts. :)

Also, it is written in God's Word, that we are not to being of this world, only to live in it. I most saw it through that perspective.
 
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When you go out, meet, help, work with and work for shared values with other people, people will flock to you. Loneliness can be a self-infliction even if the forces of nature are mostly responsible for putting you there.
Ownership of ones situation is not situational :)
 
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You know whats interesting is this: The ones who have the strongest faith often feel all alone even if they are surrounded by lots of friends and family because none can understand things the way he/she does. Like the old saying goes, "its lonely at the top".
 
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You know whats interesting is this: The ones who have the strongest faith often feel all alone even if they are surrounded by lots of friends and family because none can understand things the way he/she does. Like the old saying goes, "its lonely at the top".
In the sense that at the top is similar to any group where likemindedness; in order to feel understood, is rare. It seems a mostly true saying, I just felt the need to add an adendum to cover the bases for most forms of loneliness :)
 
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In the sense that at the top is similar to any group where likemindedness; in order to feel understood, is rare. It seems a mostly true saying, I just felt the need to add an adendum to cover the bases for most forms of loneliness :)
Actually I was replying to the original post, but I can see how it was confusing.
 
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BellaFlor

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If you said this to me, there is no anger intended to be in my message. Only facts. :)

Also, it is written in God's Word, that we are not to being of this world, only to live in it. I most saw it through that perspective.
This is also something I wanted to add, that has with my first posted message to do in this thread:


Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them. For everything in the world
 
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BellaFlor

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Continuation of post above: —the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world. The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever. (1. John. 2, 15-17)
 
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Jullianna

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We no longer live, but Christ lives in us. (Galatians Chapter 2) We are not our own. We are the body of Christ. We are called to serve. We are called to love. We are called to reach out and share the truth with the blind, the hurting and the broken. When we are lonely, it is then that our focus is skewed.

Check it out: YouTube - Lincoln Brewster - The Power Of Your Name (with Darlene Zschech)


"And I will live to carry your compassion
To love a world that's broken
To be your hands and feet
And I will give with the life that I've been given
And go beyond religion to see the world be changed
By the power of Your Name!"
 
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Jullianna

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P.S. - Please don't misunderstand my post and think I'm being judgmental. You'll notice that I said "WE", which includes ME. :) Just sharing something I've learned in the past couple of years. Hope it helps...
 
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Timofree

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I finally realized something. Why I am alone. I have no father, almost no friends, nobody cares about me. My mom and grandmother don't share my faith and don't understand me sometimes. The world proudly displays its middle finger to my face daily. I spend half my time talking to the walls in my room, because there is nobody else.

But you know what? I realized something. I am alone so that I can learn to be dependant entirely on God. I have no father. The lord is my heavenly father. When people spit in my face, he still loves me. I don't trust people. I don't even like people very much, but I can always trust God.

To the rest of you who feel the indifference of the world. To you who feel that the world has abandoned you. To you who are lonely and don't want to live anymore. The reason you are like this, is so that you can learn to rely only on God. Don't trust people. Only trust the Lord.

Don't have anyone on valentines day? Who cares. Its all a bunch of BS anyway. Don't kill yourself over it. Trust Jesus. Rely on Jesus.
Totally agree about valentines, why should we just buy presents or express love when the world tells us to, Id much rather buy a gift for someone suffering through a missions organisation.....now why was I single again...?!

I can't say my situation is anywhere near as difficult as yours, but sometimes personally I need to take a step back, I find it easy to forget other people have difficulties. Most Christians my age seem to be skipping through life with loads of friends.........and it hurts, but I know I should try and be joyful with them. God disciplines those He loves, and Im not trying to make out He loves me more, just everyone has an individual walk, and different things He's shaping them for.
Who knows, I could probably of done things differently and I might of had loads of Christian friends by now. But I can't change the past, and there's no way forward but with Him
 
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garcie123

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I think you are an old soul even though only 25yo. You have lots of revelations of wisdom, thanks for sharing your epiphany. Your post was the first one I read and why I decided to join Christian Chat. Your transparency will minister to others who feel similar and struggle putting it out here. thanks gracie123:)
 

Sevndust

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it's apparent that someone needs to get out more...
 

eugenius

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I think you are an old soul even though only 25yo. You have lots of revelations of wisdom, thanks for sharing your epiphany. Your post was the first one I read and why I decided to join Christian Chat. Your transparency will minister to others who feel similar and struggle putting it out here. thanks gracie123:)
I'm glad my post did some good to someone somewhere. If it got you to join this website.
 
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Everrose

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Loneliness isn't always about being alone. You can be alone and not be lonely. You can be with people and feel utterly lonely. Loneliness comes to me when I am misunderstood...and that happens often. It isolates you from humanity. And we were made to connect with one another. God said that it was not good for Man to alone. Loneliness comes when you feel no one cares, no one has an invested interest in you, that you don't matter to them. In a nutshell, you don't feel loved.

It grieves me deeply when some Christians treat our loneliness as if it were pity party or even worse, a sin. They say that if our relationship with God was good, we would never get lonely. They misunderstand, thereby driving my loneliness even further.

Sometimes, I lie awake at night staring at the dark ceiling and wondering. If I was to die in the night, not one person would miss me. Does anyone know I'm actually alive? I feel invisible most of the time. I breathe, eat and sleep and am utterly devoted to God my Saviour and yet I still feel soooo lonely.