I actually try to take my cue from Ruth.. She was living for God with her mil Naomi and she just tried to glean (work) and do what she needed to take care of them both.. BUT GOD.. He puts her in a field of a respected and wealthy man of integrity and that man notices Ruth.. (he notices HER).. at that point, because he speaks to her..taking notice..wanting to know who she was and even eating a meal with her, she notices him...but doesn't notice that he notices her
as she is still oblivious and has her mind on things she needs to do..tho I am sure she was attracted to him..and since she had been previously married she was probably also unsure how to let go of her dead husband.
BUT GOD.. Naomi's heart tells her that something is up and that Ruth needs to make it know that she too is interested because Boaz would be a great provider and because Ruth needed someone to love..and take care of besides her.. so she tells Ruth to go lay at Boaz feet (um..don't do it ladies this was a custom in that day LOL)
at first Boaz isn't sure what to do because he never thought Ruth would actually be interested and he was content in merely making sure she had all she needed by way of provision..
also, the custom was that she marry her husbands next of kin..
well..this next of kin wasn't interested and neither was Ruth so she lets Boaz know she chooses him..
the rest is history as they marry and she becomes the great grandmother of David because she submitted to Naomi and she allowed herself to be caught
God taught me a long time ago not to pursue a man who may not be interest by always having me choose the wrong ones.. even the ones that pursued me.. I don't know whats best for me but HE does.. that is why , tho sometimes I feel unattractive and undesireable due to not having anyone pursue, I know God can stir the heart of someone sometime..its not like I am under a rock.. on the platform..i can't hide..and I do grocery shop
lol
and like Moriah said.. not all men are right for us..so we need to be careful who WE pursue without pursuing