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PatriotPride2008

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Hello everyone,

I'm kinda new on here so I really don't know anyone here very well. Anyways, I'm a 21 year old adult male that is really struggling with finding a significant other or people that love and care about my unconditionally. I've been single for almost 7 years. I've been seeing some people in that frame but I always end up finding someone who wants to use me for money, sex or whatever else they want or need.

Lately, I've been really depressed and sad because all my friends are in these wonderful relationships and marriages and I pray everyday for someone to come in my life and I feel like my prayers won't be answered. I've thought of myself as the worst person of the world or if I had a special curse God refuses to tell me. I need all the prayers and encouragement I could find. Thank you and God bless!
 
Liamson

Liamson

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Well for starters Welcome to CC.

as for the other stuff... well, If you have already taken the necessary steps in becoming the person you want a woman to see as ''The One'' then I would just get involved in life. Find the things that you would want a woman that like to be interested in and do them. Travel, Explore, be adventurous, make women jealous after your heart.

Show the world just how much like Jesus you can be, the rest will come in time. Life is new, you are 21. I wouldn't worry, worry doesn't change much. :)
 
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Jullianna

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Hi, Patriot. Welcome :)

Sometimes it seems that dating only teaches us what we DON'T want, huh? :) But don't let it bog you down. Let the past BE the past, except for the good parts.

Seems like the best course is always to walk in the footsteps of the Lord, praying that the person He has for us will fall in step along the way.

Our prayers are certainly with you.
 
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PatriotPride2008

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Thank you for welcoming me in here, I appreciate it. So far, it seems that there's a lot of cool discussions and a lot of cool people to talk to and get to know not only on a part of the church body but on a friendship level as ell.

Dating and relationships as a whole has taught me some things that I wish I never of been taught. Its just sad to experience all the heatache, shame and embarrasment I've gone through since I've broken up with my ex-fiancee. Going forward, I only see myself having woman friends and having woman co-workers but I can't see myself being romantically involved in someone, having a wife and being married or having a family and being a father. I'm too scared, I've lost my trust and faith in women and relationships entirely.
 
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karine___

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but your heart can be made whole again, with God nothing's impossible. if you have Jesus no curse can stand(if there was any curse at all). think that while your "getting ready" for "her" she might be getting ready for you as well so one day when both are ready you'll meet. i suggest you don't seek "her" while your heart is broken or if your feeling bad , let God heal and work in you so you'll be able to maek the bestest choice. you have to hope and believe, hope brings joy and joy is a must!
 
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This is definitely not something you can force. When you're meant to be in an intimate relationship it'll surely happen. I think for now you should just enjoy the single life and everything it has to offer. Occupy yourself with activities that make you happy. Sometimes it's the time in which you're alone that you'll strengthen your relationship with the man upstairs and rest is secondary to that. Also I think you need to make a stand and try to put yourself in a better position so that you don't get taken advantage of. As far as a curse or whatever...that's just pure nonsense. You're over analyzing the circumstances. Try to relax and allow things to unfold the way they do. The majority of everything that happens in our lives we've got no way of preventing them, good or bad.
 
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SocialArtist

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PatriotPride2008 said:
Thank you for welcoming me in here, I appreciate it. So far, it seems that there's a lot of cool discussions and a lot of cool people to talk to and get to know not only on a part of the church body but on a friendship level as ell.

Dating and relationships as a whole has taught me some things that I wish I never of been taught. Its just sad to experience all the heatache, shame and embarrasment I've gone through since I've broken up with my ex-fiancee. Going forward, I only see myself having woman friends and having woman co-workers but I can't see myself being romantically involved in someone, having a wife and being married or having a family and being a father. I'm too scared, I've lost my trust and faith in women and relationships entirely.
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You ever hear about a sports team that lost game after game. Finally, one year they went on a winning streak and won a championship?

Well, maybe they lost trust. Maybe they lost faith. Still they kept playing and eventually one year they put it all together and won. Find what scares you. Confront it and move on. You're going to have more disappointments and failures in the future. Being willing to face that in the process of getting to where you need to get.
 
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Rheod

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I have the same problem but I'm a girl. God does love you he just wants to make sure that the right person is perfect for you. he wudnt want his son to be with the wrong woman (or visa versa)
 
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PatriotPride2008

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I understand that he won't let me marry the wrong girl because I almost did and I'm thankful that I didn't. To this day, I love her but not enough to be her friend or spend the reat of my life with her. Going forward, I have given up hope and full knowledge that thres someone out there for me because a lot of people aren't seeing what's truly inside me. I would pray about it and I see my other friends being married so I stopped praying about it. Its in God's hands and he can do whatever he wants. If it happens, great and if not then I'm perefctly okay with that too. Regardless, I will always serveand worship Him and he's my God
 
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