can a life long christian have a successful relationship with a born again christian?

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talitha

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hi im wondering if you guys can help me ponder over this subject. if someone has been brought up in a christian household and has always believed, began a relationship with someone who has experienced the worst that this world has to offer, and only came to jesus later in life... would it work? id like to think in the grace and love of god it would, but logically, is it possible? x
 
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angelos

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perhaps you do not understand the definition of born again. Also there are no "life-long" christians but as to your question then yes it is possible for an older christian to have a romantic relationship with a younger christian.
 
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anotherworld

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why it would not be logically possible?? :))

you are afraid that the person go back to "the old way'"? but this can happen with born-in-the-church peoples to.. even to priests! hehe

is is important to christian date christian? sure.. but you have other very important question to anwser: you like and respect him as a person, and he likes and respect you too? :))
 
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talitha

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thanks guys. though i dont think ive explained myself properly. what i mean is- if you were to take two christians, both living for and loving christ, one from a good christian family, knows the word and has walked with the lord all their life, and another person who is from a more secular, worldly and dysfunctional family, has seen and done terrible things but has made a phenomenal change through the love of christ- i wonder could the lifestyle differences be canceled out by a unity in christ? x
 
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talitha

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hey thanks guys. though i dont think ive explained myself correctly. what i mean is, if someone from a good christian family, with a good knowledge of the scriptures and a life long walk with god, has a relationship with someone who is from a more secular, worldly upbringing and has seen and done bad things, but has been transformed and forgiven by christ- with such varied backgrounds, can it work? id like to think so, but ive heard things to suggest not! x
 
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NukePooch

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Personally, I don't think that any differences are 'canceled out'... I believe the differences will always be there, and MAY (but not necessarily) cause problems. It's like two people, one grew up rich, the other poor...or one came from a different religion, a different culture, a different country, whatever. We're all different as Christians. Just because we're saved doesn't make us all the exact same, and thank God for that one! The differences can be an issue, but they can also be 'the good stuff' as well.

You have been shaped and molded by every single event that has happened in your life, the overwhelming majority of which are completely different events than any other human will experience. It is impossible to let that all go. We've all got good strengths and we've all got weak areas that we need God's help in.

What I'm saying is...EVERY single relationship has different people with different backgrounds, circumstances, ideals, morals, etc. Will it work? Absolutely maybe. That's the best answer I can give.
 
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I certainly hope so. That is what I've been working on for the last 3 years.
 
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thimsrebma

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I know a few couples where the woman has always been brought up n church but the man used to be in the world. But I don't know any the other way around. Makes me wonder though.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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uhh why wouldnt it work?? Well wait a minute i mean i know some people who would prefer to have their husband or wife to be completely sinless upon getting married, but thats retarded.

I would rather someone who knew what reality was like then be completely ignorant and fall for anything.
 
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ChristianTeen

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I've also wondered about this. Obviously, there are many different types of Christianity, and it's not the same religion. I'm personally not sure that it would work between two people with two different Christian religions. There would be conflicts in how to raise your children, church services, prayers, etc..
 
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anotherworld

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hmmmmm...

relationships always entail some giving up and some acceptance ;)
 
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84Niner

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ChristianTeen said:
I've also wondered about this. Obviously, there are many different types of Christianity, and it's not the same religion. I'm personally not sure that it would work between two people with two different Christian religions. There would be conflicts in how to raise your children, church services, prayers, etc..
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Uh, there may be many different christian religions, but there is only ONE genuine Christ, and only ONE body of Christ, and for that matter only ONE faith in Christ. Having said that, and assuming that the one who began this thread is a "genuine" born again Christian (I don't know of any other kind), I could see where that person might give pause to entering into a relationship with someone who had experienced a very worldly living filled with the typical sinfulness of that life, even though they were now a true Christian. For example, for the one who was raised in a Christian home whereby they grew up to love the Lord and had kept themselves pure until marriage, I could see where it might be an issue to enter into a potential marriage relationship with someone who had been with others already and was not "pure". I could understand that. However, all things are possible for those who love God, and even this kind of union could be blessed. My suggestion is to cover it with much prayer and seek the shepherding of the Holy Spirit.
 
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JesusistheChrist

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talitha said:
hey thanks guys. though i dont think ive explained myself correctly. what i mean is, if someone from a good christian family, with a good knowledge of the scriptures and a life long walk with god, has a relationship with someone who is from a more secular, worldly upbringing and has seen and done bad things, but has been transformed and forgiven by christ- with such varied backgrounds, can it work? id like to think so, but ive heard things to suggest not! x
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Hi, talitha.

To be quite honest with you, if there are any problems in such a relationship, then the problem might be with the one who was raised as a Christian from childhood. What do I mean by that? Well, Jesus said that it's the one who's been forgiven much who will love much and the one who's been forgiven little who will love little, so the secular person who got saved might actually wind up being the one who loves Jesus more.
 
Lynx

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......

Does anyone else notice that this thread was from back in 2011, started by someone who is no longer here? You're responding to ghosts, for all intents and purposes. And with much the same result.
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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Lynx said:
You're responding to ghosts, for all intents and purposes.
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One of whom is dubbed NukePooch. That is brilliant.
 
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ServantStrike

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Siberian_Khatru said:
One of whom is dubbed NukePooch. That is brilliant.
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Nobody ever gets my avatar. I think he had a more direct one.

Haven't seen him on here in ages though.
 
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jeremyPJ

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In my opinion a Christian is a Christian. I know that in some churches, folks will put a sort of separate twist on new ones vs. longer running ones, I found this to be upsetting during my times in church. Sometimes, some pastors and believers will "call this out", it made me uncomfortable. Especially when it becomes a regular occurrence.

After all, I doubt Christ pays us more by the hour by length of time served!
 
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JustinFromTwinCities

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Umm ya, not like anyone cares anymore. But the problem the OP was having seems so insignificant. Love can overcome everything
 
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