Beating Lonliness

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hancraven84

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Have you ever felt like there was no one that you could confide in? No one you could talk to? I feel like I'm all alone in this world. I mean I have a great family, 2 great best friends but no one that I can truly share my heart with. I know God is there, He has always been here. I know I can talk to him, but it's not the same as a physical person actually sitting there looking you in the eye and telling you it's all going to be ok. Every thing will work out. I love you for you and that's it. I have never had that true love feeling, never even a fake love feeling.. lol... I don't really talk much but I feel so much like I need to talk. But I can't get it out. My mom is here for me and she begs me to talk to her, but how can I really talk to my mom. She doesn't understand me, she loves me with all her heart and would do anything for me. She's a great woman of God but I just feel like she would yell at me for how I feel, and I can't make her just listen. She always has to say something back. I guess I need lessons in communication... I do not know how to be a conversationalist. I wish I was. Being alone is such a hard thing sometimes. I was just getting happy again at my job and then I lost it. Now I sit on the couch most of the time online, watching tv alone. all day. I have a job that's only 2 hours a day and I've started to volunteer at a place, so that's helping get me out of the house. I feel like i'm dying inside.

Anyone have any idea's or suggestions on how I can get out of this slump i'm in? I'm applying at every job that doesn't require a degree, I just feel like I need to shout out loud and stomp all around and have some sort of emotion to get me awake. I can't get out what I want to say in how i'm feeling.

Thanks.
Hannah
 
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Renewedheart

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Im kinda the same... and yeah it is pretty hard aye. I ask God to take away my lonliness also ask him to bring someone into my life for me.. but I guess I need to wait and trust in him.. even when it seems dark, very dark. I wil pray for you :)
 
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Adrianv125

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How could we ever be alone when God's presence is everywhere? How can we feel lonely when we have the God creator of the universe taking care of us all the days of our lives? I'll tell you, no one is more faithful, and good, and has loved you more than He has. He should be the fountain of your joy and peace, and His presence alone takes away all our troubles. Truly seek Him and His presence and you'll understand that no human being can give you the peace He gives.
 
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Liamson

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I think we much the same, you and I, Hannah.

I have found a sea of things to do and places to be but, I just feel like I am biding my time. Like the band on a slingshot, if I let go, there is no telling where I would land. But I'm tired of always doing crazy stuff by myself.

I have many friends, many more acquaintances, but at the end of the day its just me, much as it always has been.

Everyone is bitter, mistrustful, afraid, hurt, lonely, lost and questioning their worth. I feel like everyone is a slave to something. For some it is a fear, debt, pride or useless obligation that has people wired to always go back to what they know and what is safe.

I wish I could just show them what it feels like to be free. To run away, where no one knows anything.

Sometimes I feel like Aladdin. I extend my hand, "Do you trust me?" and the answer is always no.
 
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CoreyRyan

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Until god brings us the things we are looking for, like a spouse or whatever. Keep up the faith and keep praying. I totally understand how you feel cause i've been there and i was so upset that i was cursing god and thought there was no point in me living. And even though i dont have my wife yet that im asking for and i do get lonely at times i still know he will do those things i need... Jesus has given me so much peace in my spirit. You see

Isaiah 41:10
Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.

also
Hebrews 11:6
for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and [that] he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.

When your upset or lonely pray to god...pick up the bible and just open it and read a psalm or something. Call someone in your family and talk, just ask them how they are doing whatever. Come here on the forums and talk. Pick up a hobby start painting, or doing crafts or something.

Keep in mind that Jesus knows YOU and he loves you. And he WILL reward you! I'm praying for you, pray for me too k?
 
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jameslavander

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Try working out on the gym or read the Bible...
 
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FleeceOnEarth

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Hannah, you are definitely not the only one out there. I have felt EXACTLY like you at different times in my life. I think I'm coming out of the place that you're currently in, but I still have many of the same thoughts and feelings daily.

And I know what you mean by desiring to have God there with you, in person. We have His word and the Holy Spirit, but I've struggled my whole life with really "feeling" Him there. There is just something comforting about having someone there with you. I try to make him all that I need, all that I want. I know that is the kind of relationship He wants me to have from Him. And while I've tried for that, I've never been able to truly do it. But I'm still working on it :)

As far as the slump you're in, it sounds like depression. I don't know how you feel about things like that and taking medication for mental health issues, but sometimes it can give you the push you need to get over the hump. A Christian counselor is also good, especially if you don't want to go the medical route. But you definitely need to reach out to someone. My mom is my person that I can always go to. And she is like yours, always having a response and trying to fix whatever I'm telling her. I just have to say firmly, but lovingly, "Mom, I know you are trying to help me right now, and I'm so glad for that, but I just need to get it all out and need someone to just listen right now. I'm not ready to solve the problem yet, I just need to vent." This usually gets the message across without hurting her feelings in the process. I've done that before too, which makes me feel even worse. And it also helps to have the conversation with her when you aren't upset, explaining that there are times when you need her to just listen.

But my main advice is to not give up. It can seem lonely and hopeless and you feel like life is never going to get better. But it will. I've been there, many times. And I have to tell myself the same thing, even when I don't feel it or even believe it. You WILL get through it! :)
 
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Rin

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Not sure if this will help, but through many days thinking I am alone I have learnt this: that the only time you spend wasted is time thinking you are alone.
No matter how lonely you may feel I guarantee you, there is someone out there who is even more lonely than you are.
And I am not just talking about people with no family and no chance of a job. Even those around you, a lot of people are lonely and empty inside.

So here's my advice; look for those who may be even lonelier than you are, talk to them, care for them, be with them. And you will find that you are not so lonely anymore. People need others. It is the way we have been created. Two is better than one and three is even better.
I can feel you are frustrated and you are obviously trying, so I will pray for you and hope you the best.

If you ever want to, please talk to me, you will be giving me a favor.
 
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hancraven84

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Thanks everyone! I really needed everything that everyone said. I just feel so ridiculous sometimes cause I know in my heart of hearts that God is there, that someone is there, that there are other people more lonely than I am. I guess I'm just in a pity party for myself. I need to grow up and get out there and do something about it. God is Good and that's what I have to focus on. When I get my eyes off of myself things always look up! Thanks again everyone for your wise input! You were a blessing!
 
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jameslavander

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I'm lonely too and have nothing to do honestly I'm a Dog Care Taker and my job is to take care of 5 dogs all day in a secluded forest house. And sadly our only shopping mall which has everything from food, grocery and entertainment just got burned to the ground. So the only thing that has keeping me from getting bored is internet and the Bible. : )
 
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