Why am I having so much of a problem getting a good Christian girlfriend?

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dothackzero

dothackzero

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I'm 20, I've never had a girlfriend. I've never even been kissed by a girl. Even the girls that hang with me and my best friends don't like me or really talk to me. I don't think they'd really even qualify me as a friend.

I've been praying for a girlfriend for over 5years.

There are no singles group at my church. All the girls there are either too old for, too young for me, have a boyfriend, or just don't like me.

I love God, and I'm trying to become a stronger Christian all the time.
I'm waiting until after I'm married for sex.
I don't drink
I don't smoke
I don't do drugs
I'm a virgin
I'm waiting till I'm married for sex.(This include oral and anal)
I'm a computer geek
I'm planning on becoming a video game programmer.(I'm actually pretty sure that's what God wants me to do too.)

I do have basic hygine.
I brush my teeth
I shower
I use deorderent
I don't smell badly.

I'm about 5-8" or 5-9" feet tall.
I have dirty blond hair.
I have no disfiguring scars or anything like that.

Personalty:
I'm nice.
loyal
respect(I actually look at a girl's face when I'm talking to a girl, and not her breasts)
sincere
I listen to what girls have to say, and actually care what they are feeling and saying.
trusting
honest
smart
I'm shy
I have low self confidence
I have perverted mind, and like perverted jokes, though I don't act on the pervertedness.
I like touching when it comes to girls(Nothing sexual till married) Just stuff like hugs.
I'm very lonely.
I have OCD(Around 80% contained, yay God): http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide...
GAD(Around 80% contained, yay Jesus): http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide...
ADD(Not bad enough to cause any real problems): http://www.add-adhd.org/ADHD_attention-d...
TMJ: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Temporomand...
Social Anxiety: http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide...
and a touch of depression(Probably connected to my lonelyness.).

From my facebook...

Religious Views:Non-denominational Christian

Personal InformationActivities:Video games, Anime, Progamming, and 3D Modeling, Just having fun

Interests:Video games, Anime, Progamming, 3D Modeling, music, movies, computers, computer parts(Watching how strong they are becoming), hanging out with my friends, Trying to become a stronger Christian, Trying to make new friends, Mythology

Favorite Music:After Forever, Children of Bodom,
Daath, Dark Moor,
Drowning Pool, Epica,
Killswitch Engage, Lunatica,
Nightwish, Powerman 5000,
Soilwork, SpineShank,
Static-X, The Agony Scene,
Celldweller, In Flames,
Dir en Grey, Maximum the Hormone,
Disciple, DethKlok,
Five Finger Death Punch, Krypteria,
Slipknot, Shadows Fall,
Silent Civilian, Sonic Syndicate,
Avenged Sevenfold, War of Ages,
Machine Head, Schoolyard Heroes,
Mudvayne, Sybreed,
Threat Signal

Favorite TV Shows:
Normal shows: Kyle XY, The Middle Man
Cartoons: Avatar: The Last Airbender, The Venture Bros, Robot Chicken, Family Guy, futurama
Anime: Bleach, Naruto, One Piece, Death Note, Busou Renkin, Yu Yu Hakusho, Full Metal Panic, Full Metal Alchemist

Favorite Movies: 300, Hellboy, The Dark Knight, Knowing, anything funny

Books:Bible, I don't read much else except stuff to help me out with 3D modeling and programming
 
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goth4god

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I really dont know why you can't find a girl cuz you sound uber nice!
but i feel you. I cant seem to find a guy, well one that lives at least in the same state as me. I have never been on a date. never been kissed, never even been asked out in person. all the guys that i know and would even consider going out with only think of me as a friend.
All my friends that i tell about never being asked out cant believe it, cuz they think that im really cool and are surprised i havent been asked out before. so idk. but i totally understand how you feel. I just have hope that when i finally do meet a guy he will be worth the wait.
 
Auchin

Auchin

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I feel like there are no good christian Girls out there left.
 
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challenger

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the happiness isnt in making kissing your girl friend but it is when you become good with your god
 
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Beeb0

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Don't let being single be a burden to you. If it's in Gods will, you will find that special someone & when it happens, the time you were single will be worth it all.
 
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worldlover

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it's about patience 'coz someone's special is coming to you!^^
 
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become_the_generation

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because God wants you to wait? yes you should desire to be in a relationship, but God maybe doesnt think that you are ready spiritually. maybe Hes testing you patience. "love is patient"
 
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goth4god

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Auchin said:
I feel like there are no good christian Girls out there left.
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you may feel that way but i can tell you that you are wrong! cuz there is me. and i know a few other good christian girls. so it may feel that way, but its not.
 
dothackzero

dothackzero

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goth4god said:
I really dont know why you can't find a girl cuz you sound uber nice!
but i feel you. I cant seem to find a guy, well one that lives at least in the same state as me. I have never been on a date. never been kissed, never even been asked out in person. all the guys that i know and would even consider going out with only think of me as a friend.
All my friends that i tell about never being asked out cant believe it, cuz they think that im really cool and are surprised i havent been asked out before. so idk. but i totally understand how you feel. I just have hope that when i finally do meet a guy he will be worth the wait.
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hmmm, a Christian goth. Now there's someone I'd like to meet. Basiclly I just think the goth look is hot on girls. :p
 
dothackzero

dothackzero

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challenger said:
the happiness isnt in making kissing your girl friend but it is when you become good with your god
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He not just my God, but yeah your right about that. The hard part is figuring out how.
 
dothackzero

dothackzero

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worldlover said:
it's about patience 'coz someone's special is coming to you!^^
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I know, but what if I'm one of the few "lucky" people that have the gift of celibisy?

goth4god said:
you may feel that way but i can tell you that you are wrong! cuz there is me. and i know a few other good christian girls. so it may feel that way, but its not.
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I know a few girls like that, but they all have boyfriends, don't like me, too old for me, or are too young for me. >_<
 
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Abing

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haha, still single at 20??? wow you're blessed dude, having a girlfriend is another chapter, God must be preparing you for something great.
but yeah seriously, 20 is young. i know a lot of men who are older and yet still single,but they dont take it as a burden, its a blessing, and its hard to achieve, make it the other wayy around, let Christ's image be seen instead of you and haha im pretty sure girls will be runnng after you.
 
dothackzero

dothackzero

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Abing said:
haha, still single at 20??? wow you're blessed dude, having a girlfriend is another chapter, God must be preparing you for something great.
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Hopefully a great girl.
 
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SingMeToSleep

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i believe that there is someone out there for everyone and that god will put certain people in our lives at a certain time. so relax because God will send you her at exactly the right time!( it may not be the time you want) i know it can be a hard thing to wait for but good things come to those who wait :) Sometimes god wants you to spend a little bit more time with him as a single person before you share your life and time with another.
don't worry. it will happen for you! :)
 
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akinonli

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learn to be contented with Gods love and He will surelly complete the missing puzzle in your life...
 
dothackzero

dothackzero

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SingMeToSleep said:
i believe that there is someone out there for everyone and that god will put certain people in our lives at a certain time. so relax because God will send you her at exactly the right time!( it may not be the time you want) i know it can be a hard thing to wait for but good things come to those who wait :) Sometimes god wants you to spend a little bit more time with him as a single person before you share your life and time with another.
don't worry. it will happen for you! :)
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I know, I just hope I won't be single forever.

akinonli said:
learn to be contented with Gods love and He will surelly complete the missing puzzle in your life...
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I know, but the problem is how. I'm always waiting and hoping for a girlfriend.
 
dothackzero

dothackzero

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blah, they should put in a edit button. Anyway, I should probably put in the fact that I have do have the most annoying type of ocd. The type where I'm always asking for reassurence on anything I'm worried about.
 
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Baptistrw

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dothackzero said:
I'm 20, I've never had a girlfriend. I've never even been kissed by a girl. Even the girls that hang with me and my best friends don't like me or really talk to me. I don't think they'd really even qualify me as a friend.

I've been praying for a girlfriend for over 5years.

There are no singles group at my church. All the girls there are either too old for, too young for me, have a boyfriend, or just don't like me.

I love God, and I'm trying to become a stronger Christian all the time.
I'm waiting until after I'm married for sex.
I don't drink
I don't smoke
I don't do drugs
I'm a virgin
I'm waiting till I'm married for sex.(This include oral and anal)
I'm a computer geek
I'm planning on becoming a video game programmer.(I'm actually pretty sure that's what God wants me to do too.)

I do have basic hygine.
I brush my teeth
I shower
I use deorderent
I don't smell badly.

I'm about 5-8" or 5-9" feet tall.
I have dirty blond hair.
I have no disfiguring scars or anything like that.

Personalty:
I'm nice.
loyal
respect(I actually look at a girl's face when I'm talking to a girl, and not her breasts)
sincere
I listen to what girls have to say, and actually care what they are feeling and saying.
trusting
honest
smart
I'm shy
I have low self confidence
I have perverted mind, and like perverted jokes, though I don't act on the pervertedness.
I like touching when it comes to girls(Nothing sexual till married) Just stuff like hugs.
I'm very lonely.
I have OCD(Around 80% contained, yay God): http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide...
GAD(Around 80% contained, yay Jesus): http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide...
ADD(Not bad enough to cause any real problems): http://www.add-adhd.org/ADHD_attention-d...
TMJ: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Temporomand...
Social Anxiety: http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide...
and a touch of depression(Probably connected to my lonelyness.).

From my facebook...

Religious Views:Non-denominational Christian

Personal InformationActivities:Video games, Anime, Progamming, and 3D Modeling, Just having fun

Interests:Video games, Anime, Progamming, 3D Modeling, music, movies, computers, computer parts(Watching how strong they are becoming), hanging out with my friends, Trying to become a stronger Christian, Trying to make new friends, Mythology

Favorite Music:After Forever, Children of Bodom,
Daath, Dark Moor,
Drowning Pool, Epica,
Killswitch Engage, Lunatica,
Nightwish, Powerman 5000,
Soilwork, SpineShank,
Static-X, The Agony Scene,
Celldweller, In Flames,
Dir en Grey, Maximum the Hormone,
Disciple, DethKlok,
Five Finger Death Punch, Krypteria,
Slipknot, Shadows Fall,
Silent Civilian, Sonic Syndicate,
Avenged Sevenfold, War of Ages,
Machine Head, Schoolyard Heroes,
Mudvayne, Sybreed,
Threat Signal

Favorite TV Shows:
Normal shows: Kyle XY, The Middle Man
Cartoons: Avatar: The Last Airbender, The Venture Bros, Robot Chicken, Family Guy, futurama
Anime: Bleach, Naruto, One Piece, Death Note, Busou Renkin, Yu Yu Hakusho, Full Metal Panic, Full Metal Alchemist

Favorite Movies: 300, Hellboy, The Dark Knight, Knowing, anything funny

Books:Bible, I don't read much else except stuff to help me out with 3D modeling and programming
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Yeah the anime and computer geek stuff might chase girls off. And the pervertedness will chase off Christian girls.
 
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goth4god

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lol personally i like geeks, and I'm kinda just getting into anime, so i dont minds that stuff! lol
and as for the pervertedness, most of the guys i talk to have some sort of pervertedness. so at least he is being honest about it.
 
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