If I Wouldn't Have _______, I Could Have ______...

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seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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Hey everyone!

I had dinner with a friend last night and we were talking about hard lessons learned from the past. We've both been in some relationships in which the person we were with refused to work or was too angry/apathetic/ prideful ("no one will pay me what I'm worth", etc.)/drunk to hold or even look for a job, so we wound up paying for everything, in some cases providing for their kids, etc. (I AM NOT saying ANYTHING against hard-working single parents AT ALL!!! My friend and I just had the unfortunate experience of dating people who used others to take care of their kids--I most certainly know NOT ALL single parents are like this and I have tremendous respect for them.)

We also both agreed that If We Wouldn't Have spent all this time, money, and effort with the wrong people, We Could Have easily paid off/bought a new car, started a down payment for a house, and probably gone on a cruise (or missions trips.) I also wonder where I would be today in my walk with God if I hadn't gone running after so many empty rabbit holes... (Although, I do believe God never wastes any of our experiences.)

Regrets??? YES. Wishing we would have chosen differently? You betcha. Hoping to move forward and make better decisions... letting God lead instead of our own wants or opinions? Let's hope!!!

How about all of you? Fill in your own blanks:

If I Wouldn't Have _______, I Could Have ______ ....
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
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Just wanted to add, this thread isn't just about regrets in relationships but things in all areas of life we wish we would have done differently. I don't have enough room in the forum to list all of mine :) so I just started with this. ;)
 
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Aqua_Girl09

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well i'm still young and i think the lessons i went through have made my the person i am today. i remember how i used to think and act and i'm really appalled at myself for even justifying the way i was thinking.

so to say that i want to go back and change any of it. No, i'm very happy that i went through all of it and i'm waiting for the next challenge God will put me to so i can overcome it and become a better person.

Now if i could go back with this mind frame i'd probably do AWESOMELY in high school and get scholarships and take taekwondo in high school instead of waiting till now and also get into a fight or two (there were a few that were TOTALLY called for but i didn't cause was scared) and stuff like that. but i'm happy with my life. ^_^
 
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kiwi_OT

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I'll change that wording around I think.

If I could have just read my reflective communications paper requirements fully, I wouldnt have failed it, forcing a snowball effect on my second and third year in my studies which caused me to drag my degree out from 3 years to 5 years, oh and throw in having to live through a major disaster instead of going on my last placement and therefore graduating and geting my Occupational Therapists practitioners certificate on time... Grr
 
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thimsrebma

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When I look back I know there are a bunch of things I probably shouldn't have done. But at the same time I learned from those experiences. I think everything that has happened in ones life contributes to who they are now. I kinda like me.

I also think that if any one thing were different in my life, my whole life could be different but not necessarily better. For instance about a year ago a bought a new car and traded in my old one. I took the low trade in value but later thought "I could have sold it for alot more than what they gave me." But because that didnt happen you never know what the out come could have been. I could have tried to sell the car by myself and got robbed. Or the car could have broken down again before I got a chance to sell it.

So though some past decisions may look pretty dumb just look, learn and move on because we never know if the shoulda coulda wouldas would be better than who, what, when and where we are now.
 
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Reikon

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If I wouldn't have dated him, I would have less regret and less sadness
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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If i wouldnt have dumped my ex boyfriend from high school, i would be livin it up in a trailor right now with about 15 kids.

such regrets!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
VikkiKate89

VikkiKate89

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If I wouldn't have met that furry I would have lived a far less interesting life...
 
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GreenNnice

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Seoulful, YES, that last part you put epitomizes what I wish I would have done differently, speaking back in my 20s.
So....if I wouldn't have tried to get the girl, car, white picket fence, I could have been on track for God's blessings much earlier. But, again, NO regrets. NO holes in my soul, just a realization and understanding and acknowledgment that CHOICES made without God wholly have consequences, sometimes life-changing, sometimes life-adding, or, sometimes, life-ending.
 
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GreenNnice

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Nods, what were you thinking???

You could have had your own tv show, '15 is Enough.'

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The Lord leads, msamber, now don't you worry about that car trade-in for even one second morek, k-k?
, amb?So your decision was good IF you then just had faith God would carry it through so you were best blessed. That then is the end of this happy ending, that's really filled with joy.
I do believe God knows what's best for us, too, so....if you prayed about that 'car' decision beforehand its all good in the end, all God too IF you just then carry through and do with faith what God is having you do.:)
 
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Forgiven66

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kiwi_OT said:
I'll change that wording around I think.

If I could have just read my reflective communications paper requirements fully, I wouldnt have failed it, forcing a snowball effect on my second and third year in my studies which caused me to drag my degree out from 3 years to 5 years, oh and throw in having to live through a major disaster instead of going on my last placement and therefore graduating and geting my Occupational Therapists practitioners certificate on time... Grr
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Under this wording
If I could have prayed more, I wouldn't have some of the problems I'm going thru.
 
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