BEING SHY

[CatWoman]

I registerd at a dateing site.There was this man who contacted me and just said "HI" .So I wrote a few words back and he replyed by saying "HI' So I wrote a few more words and his reply was "HI".So I had to write back"Dude, you have to say more than"HI if you want a lady" No wonder hes single. Im just wondering how many people are out there that are like that? They are shy and dont know how to strike up a conversation with people. I feel sorry for them because it is a handycap.I used to be shy and read a book called "HOW TO FLIRT"Its a good book and teaches that flirting does not have to be sexual or lude.The book changed me and my shyness went away.I know there has to be shy people at this website and I pray that God would help them out of their shell.

[Jullianna]

Hi I'm just teasing.

That happens a lot in the chatrooms too. Seems like it's usually one of two things: They don't speak English or they are posting HI in every female window in the room and waiting to see if anyone answers.

That does sound like a great book tho.

Originally Posted by Jullianna

Hi I'm just teasing.

That happens a lot in the chatrooms too. Seems like it's usually one of two things: They don't speak English or they are posting HI in every female window in the room and waiting to see if anyone answers.

That does sound like a great book tho.

That was my first reaction...This is what I first thought of...this clip from Mrs Doubtfire.

YouTube - ‪Do you speak English?‬‏

[SoTxSpartan]

hmmmm maybe he was just trollin you /shrug haha. Well i used to be pretty shy in real life - __- up until after highschool o.O, but for years of talking so much on CC, honestly it helped me in the real world. Gained more confidence that i could hold a conversation with a girl :-P. But what just bugs the living day lights out of me is when its a one sided conversation where im the one talking out of my butt to keep it going, it pretty much feels like talking to a wall haha.

[Aqua_Girl09]

Originally Posted by SoTxSpartan

hmmmm maybe he was just trollin you /shrug haha. Well i used to be pretty shy in real life - __- up until after highschool o.O, but for years of talking so much on CC, honestly it helped me in the real world. Gained more confidence that i could hold a conversation with a girl :-P. But what just bugs the living day lights out of me is when its a one sided conversation where im the one talking out of my butt to keep it going, it pretty much feels like talking to a wall haha.

HUGE pet peve of mine. can't STAND when one one gives one word answers to something that is CLEARLY an openended question. like "what did you do today" and they reply "nothing" YOU DIDN'T JUST SIT IN BED you went to the bathroom at SOME point right? >_<

[Liamson]

Thats sort of my, "I'm not interested" sign, is to politely give one word answers.

But with that said, nothing is more of a turn off than being mildly interested in someone and having them tell you how to date them. Beyond awkward, that is kind of condescendingly rude.

If I like someone I'm going to find a way or make a way to get to know them. But the internet is so fishy, people miss things, just don't take it seriously or take it too seriously. I wish dating was not an internet thing, the way it has evolved.

[shootingstars]

I've always been shy as well... not just with guys, with anyone. And I never understood it, it's like when I'm talking to someone I don't know that well I just don't know what to say, it's not like I have something to say something and don't... But I've tried dating sites a few times, never met anyone off of one. I usually get tired of things they keep saying in messages and deleting my account. Even when they say they're Christian they start talking about sex in no time...

I'd rather meet someone in person at church or something... but then with the way I am even if someone does like me they don't stay interested long because I don't say much. I'm doomed

[disciplemike]

I know what my problem is. I am not shy I just feel that my day is not interesting enough to talk about. I could describe everything interesting that happened and be done in 5 min. Then I don't know what else to talk about. My work schedule prevents me from going to church on sundays so I can't meet someone there and even though I live in the bible belt it seems that no one wants to talk about the Bible outside of church.

[Jullianna]

I'm still thinking about reading this book. Ha Ha Being such a tomboy, I'm not very good at the flirting thing. Feels kinda silly doing things that I see a lot of other ladies do. Am I the only one? My way of flirting is to joke and kid around with someone, ask them a lot of questions, or pay special attention to them. But...sometimes guys don't catch onto that and think you just want to be friends. *sigh*

[Vaughn1Mom]

Yea he is a goof, its not that he is shy or being silly, to be honest he is being a jerk.
Its obvious that you have a compassionate heart, you deserve someone who can hold and have a conversation not that you are bearing the weight. Its about the balance If you can I would block him cause he has shown you multiple times he does not serve a positive purpose. Move on to the next guy or get involved in something so that you can meet these people as friends first. My experience on dating sites now a days is there is usually another reason why these guys are on the sites. Guard your heart Keep your eyes open God will provide you with the God fearing Man you deserve and to him who deserves you

[CatWoman]

I just didnt understand that guy cause he contacted me first. But I did find I new guy to talk to and its going well.

[SoTxSpartan]

good to hear :-), dont dwell on people that are just trouble to begin with, waste of time haha