What'sThe Most Encouraging Thing Someone Ever Told You/That You Told Someone Else?

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seoulsearch

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Hey there, Singles!!

As we all know, single life has it's own set of challenges... but somehow, with God's help, we all manage to keep going.

What is the most encouraging thing that someone has said to you--something that inspires you to keep on keeping on? And what is the most encouraging thing you've said to someone else?

I have two examples of each.

As far as encouraging someone, a woman once asked me if she should go ahead and take a knitting class... To be honest, I didn't go out of my way to gush over the idea because she was always asking if she should do this or that. I just told her I thought she'd have a lot of fun and it would be something really neat to learn. Over time, she eventually made baby blankets, booties, scarves, even a pair of leg warmers... and a set of dishtowels for me, saying, "I would have never even taken that class if you wouldn't have encouraged me."

At another time, I once worked with someone who was seeking help for a personal issue, and called right at the last minute, wanting to back out of an appointment. I told the person, "It's going to be ok... just try one appointment and see how it goes, ok? One time can't hurt..." I'm happy to say that although it was a tough fight, that person is now recovered and living a completely different, healthy life.

It's amazing to me that God can use us through such "ordinary" circumstances.

As far as people encouraging me... I have many wonderful people who have supported me through life. But two very special memories for me are of the inmates I used to write--one who told me, "Kim, when I get a letter from you, it's like you're sitting right here talking to me," and that meant more to me than any grade on any paper I had ever written throughout my academic career. Hearing that I could write something real and meaningful to someone in such a dire situation was more validation than I had ever experienced in school.

Secondly, I was once very down when visiting a friend who is incarcerated. I told him, near tears, "I just don't think I have a purpose in life."

My friend... being a guy (sorry guys, have to tease you a little) and a "tough guy" at that, looked at me like I was nuts and said, "KIM. WHAT. THE. HECK. ARE YOU CRYING FOR??? It's because of our conversations that I'm back to studying the Bible and praying... and I'm someone who is seen as the toughest of the tough and the worst of the worse. If you can have an influence like that in here, I KNOW you can do something out there!!"

Duh-Oh!!!

It was one of those times when someone who REALLY knows you has the guts to drop-kick you in the rear and force you right out of your own pity party!!!

But, I was laughing through my tears, because he was basically saying, "GIRL, what's WRONG with you!!??" And, I've never forgotten what he told me.

How about all of you? What's are the things that have been said to you, or that you've said to others in order to lift each other up and encourage you or someone else to keep going?
 

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
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The fact that no one is answering... is not very encouraging... :D

Seriously... Has anyone had a teacher, parent, cousin, pastor, sibling... ANYONE say something that's kept them going in life or helped them along the way? Not just about being single, but anything? ;) I'd love to hear your stories!
 
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thimsrebma

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When I came to my new church there was this lady who was just goo goo over me. Like I was her little doll or something. I just didnt nderstand why she liked me so much. But one day she told me she was so happy I came there and that everyone was rooting for me. I still don't know what that means exactly but I think it has something to do with me becoming quilckly involved in ministry in some way. I love that lady so much.
 
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When I was in high school there was this guy who I knew in marching band (we were both drummers) and he was always happy and always had a smile on his face. He wasn't popular or anything. In fact people made fun of him a lot because he was chubby and used to play the tuba. One day at practice (no not band camp!) I asked him why hes always smiling. He said he didnt realize that he was and then he thought about it and said "its probably because I learned from my dad to never take my problems too seriously". I took that piece of advice and it really worked. I wasn't always smiling but I had a good easygoing personality and I think it helped my sex appeal because a few times in high school people would tell me they know a girl who likes me and I didn't even know who these girls were. Anyway, I guess I had forgotten all about that until now. I wish I had remembered it when life got stressful and I got depressed. Hmmm.
 
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Whyllow

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Yes You Can. My instructor told that to me when I was 12. I never had any self esteem, I was a chubby 12 year old that got taunted day in and day out by mean, nasty girls.

I took those 3 words and turned them into the life I have now. A lot of my so called friends told me I couldn't be a mom, I would be a terrible instructor, I wouldn't go anywhere in life. My goals are just dreams and not reality... truth is? They're all reachable goals. With those 3 words in mind I know I'll fight until I've finished.
 
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Jullianna

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Sorry it has taken me awhile, Seoul. Wanted to think it through. :)

Most edifying thing ever said to me: In my stepdad's last days, he told me that I was the only one of his children who had never given him a day's grief and that he always knew he could depend on me.

The most edifying thing I can say: "Thank you" with a smile. We have so many opportunities to say it everyday. I try to say it as often as possible, as a lot of people need to hear it.
 
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thimsrebma

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Sorry it has taken me awhile, Seoul. Wanted to think it through. :)

Most edifying thing ever said to me: In my stepdad's last days, he told me that I was the only one of his children who had never given him a day's grief and that he always knew he could depend on me.

The most edifying thing I can say: "Thank you" with a smile. We have so many opportunities to say it everyday. I try to say it as often as possible, as a lot of people need to hear it.

Thank you:D
 

seoulsearch

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Sorry it has taken me awhile, Seoul. Wanted to think it through. :)

Most edifying thing ever said to me: In my stepdad's last days, he told me that I was the only one of his children who had never given him a day's grief and that he always knew he could depend on me.

The most edifying thing I can say: "Thank you" with a smile. We have so many opportunities to say it everyday. I try to say it as often as possible, as a lot of people need to hear it.
This is awesome!! :D

Aw c'mon, Jullianna... I bet for some people... you'd love to put on your sweetest smile, say, "Thank you", and then slowly put your gun away within full range of sight. :D

Nothing says "thank you" like the presence of a "little friend." Just kidding! ;)
 
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Jullianna

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LOL! I won't deny that there have been times when I have smiled and SAID, "Thank you!" while envisioning random acts of violence. But since it's what "comes OUT of a man that defiles him", I try to hold it in until I can repent. :)
 
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Jullianna

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thank YOU too! haha :)

Seriously, though...try saying thank you sincerely to a support center rep, food/drink server or cashier who's having a rough day and watch their expression change. :)
 
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Jullianna

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P.S. - This may very well be one of those days when I say thank you through gritted teeth, as I was on hold with Customer Support re: a computer program for about 45 minutes (which is why I was forum stalking to kill time haha) and no one ever came on the line.... So I'm gonna take a lunch break and simmer down before I call back. :)
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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I was in a womans bible study a couple years ago, all the women were probably in their early 40's so i was the youngest. They were the greatest group of ladies EVER. I'll never forget them, and i really miss them actually. Anyways They would always say..I always look foward to seeing you every week or, Your so cute Holly you look like a little model, or i love your laugh.. or your really funny. My own mother has never even said that kinda stuff to me, so this was a huge thing for me to hear. No one has ever encouraged me like those women did and i will forever be thankful God sent them.
 

Liamson

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That is good Holly. =)


I was in a Pseudo-Codependent Unofficial Relationship with a girl I would have been married to eventually. We used to hang out with each other all the time cause it was better than being alone. We did everything from Snorkeling to DisneyWorld together, mostly out of Boredom. But the catch was, we used to speed everywhere we went. Not just like 5 over but like 20-35 over and when it was clear 130's were pretty common. We also used to pass Semis on the shoulder, hide from Police and race anything else on the road. One day as we were switching drivers, she said to me, "I am not afraid to trust you. If you can believe that my very breath is tied to you, I don't care how fast we go." I've never in my life experienced that level of trust with anyone else.
 
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thimsrebma

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That is good Holly. =)


I was in a Pseudo-Codependent Unofficial Relationship with a girl I would have been married to eventually. We used to hang out with each other all the time cause it was better than being alone. We did everything from Snorkeling to DisneyWorld together, mostly out of Boredom. But the catch was, we used to speed everywhere we went. Not just like 5 over but like 20-35 over and when it was clear 130's were pretty common. We also used to pass Semis on the shoulder, hide from Police and race anything else on the road. One day as we were switching drivers, she said to me, "I am not afraid to trust you. If you can believe that my very breath is tied to you, I don't care how fast we go." I've never in my life experienced that level of trust with anyone else.

Liamson, some of your stories remind me of a weird early 90's tragic romance movie.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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That is good Holly. =)


I was in a Pseudo-Codependent Unofficial Relationship with a girl I would have been married to eventually. We used to hang out with each other all the time cause it was better than being alone. We did everything from Snorkeling to DisneyWorld together, mostly out of Boredom. But the catch was, we used to speed everywhere we went. Not just like 5 over but like 20-35 over and when it was clear 130's were pretty common. We also used to pass Semis on the shoulder, hide from Police and race anything else on the road. One day as we were switching drivers, she said to me, "I am not afraid to trust you. If you can believe that my very breath is tied to you, I don't care how fast we go." I've never in my life experienced that level of trust with anyone else.

I love the first line ...

I was in a pseudo-codependent unofficial relationship... That made me laugh cause its so you..... Big complicated words that i dont understand...
 

Liamson

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I love the first line ...

I was in a pseudo-codependent unofficial relationship... That made me laugh cause its so you..... Big complicated words that i dont understand...
Pseudo (meaning false or pretending to be something it isn't) Codependent (meaning relying on each other for far too much) Unofficial (meaning we never came out into society as a couple) Relationship (because it was still a relationship).

So really it had all the trappings of a crazy people relationship. Always doing dumb things to cover for the other person's problems and pretending to "Rescue" each other from each other's friends.

We weren't really anything though. She was mistaken for my sister a couple of times due to her then red hair and in public randomly pushing me into bushes/shrubs/trees/poles/the ocean.
 

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
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We weren't really anything though. She was mistaken for my sister a couple of times due to her then red hair and in public randomly pushing me into bushes/shrubs/trees/poles/the ocean.
Wow. If that doesn't scream "true love" and "encouraging", I don't know what does... Sorry, Liamson, you know I'm just teasing you!! But I agree with Nod... Any situation that requires that many adjectives pulled from the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) is way too complicated...

Glad you made it out alive.
 
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NukePooch

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I love the first line ...

I was in a pseudo-codependent unofficial relationship... That made me laugh cause its so you..... Big complicated words that i dont understand...
Pseudo (meaning false or pretending to be something it isn't) Codependent (meaning relying on each other for far too much) Unofficial (meaning we never came out into society as a couple) Relationship (because it was still a relationship).

So really it had all the trappings of a crazy people relationship. Always doing dumb things to cover for the other person's problems and pretending to "Rescue" each other from each other's friends.

We weren't really anything though. She was mistaken for my sister a couple of times due to her then red hair and in public randomly pushing me into bushes/shrubs/trees/poles/the ocean.

It helps Nod understand if you draw pictures in crayon.
 

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
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It helps Nod understand if you draw pictures in crayon.
Poor Nod!!! But I have to admit, this comment is seriously making me want to write "LOL... LOL..." over and over again in bright crayon colors!! :D