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lol we try to forgive each other and never go to bed mad.
My husband and I believe in being honest with each other and loving to one another. He looks out for my needs and I look out for him. I think we love and care for the other person more than we care what happens to us. It hurts us more to see the other person in pain then to have to suffer through it ourselves.
We've been married for 6 years now
and we just try and make time for each other apart from the kids and busyness of life. we remember that our relationship is important too and make time for it.try to keep each other up to date on our dreams and goals and help each other through emotional and spiritual support to reach those dreams. we don't except anything of the other person that we don't except and do ourselves. neither of us is afraid or snobbish about doing the dirty and eekky jobs like changing diapers or cleaning toilets though neither of us like doing it. lol (who does?)
anyways that is the basics: trust and honesty and love.
I pray everyone gets a chance to experience it too. (my husband's working on his grad papers now lol)
My husband and I believe in being honest with each other and loving to one another. He looks out for my needs and I look out for him. I think we love and care for the other person more than we care what happens to us. It hurts us more to see the other person in pain then to have to suffer through it ourselves.
We've been married for 6 years now
and we just try and make time for each other apart from the kids and busyness of life. we remember that our relationship is important too and make time for it.try to keep each other up to date on our dreams and goals and help each other through emotional and spiritual support to reach those dreams. we don't except anything of the other person that we don't except and do ourselves. neither of us is afraid or snobbish about doing the dirty and eekky jobs like changing diapers or cleaning toilets though neither of us like doing it. lol (who does?)anyways that is the basics: trust and honesty and love.
I pray everyone gets a chance to experience it too.
(my husband's working on his grad papers now lol)
S
married 27 years now, still happy... sure we have our ups and downs, but we work them out. I wouldn't trade my man for anyone else in the world, even if he has his quirkiness sometimes but then i'm sure i have plenty of them too. We pray together when there are needs, which really helps us focus more on God and what He has to say about "stuff"... rather than just hashing things out alone
A
I honestly believe I'm with the woman God intended me to be with for the rest of my life. that's a huge advantage.
what helps is prayer. Praying together as often as possible, good times and bad.
complete honesty. admit to everything, even affairs. If God is in the marriage, it will work out. Secrets will tear you apart.
keep a pure head, don't be tempted to get into office flirting, it just leads to friendship, which leads to . . .
keep the fires burning, go on regular date nights, weekend getaways, have FUN together. Reason for affairs and breakups is because married couples becomes married singles and they go looking for spice elsewhere.
make each other feel special, in every sense of the word, make sure they know they are No. 1 (after God)
ac
what helps is prayer. Praying together as often as possible, good times and bad.
complete honesty. admit to everything, even affairs. If God is in the marriage, it will work out. Secrets will tear you apart.
keep a pure head, don't be tempted to get into office flirting, it just leads to friendship, which leads to . . .
keep the fires burning, go on regular date nights, weekend getaways, have FUN together. Reason for affairs and breakups is because married couples becomes married singles and they go looking for spice elsewhere.
make each other feel special, in every sense of the word, make sure they know they are No. 1 (after God)
ac
R
I haven't been married that long, so I'm no expert on how to make it last. However, I know I never would've married at all if I weren't absolutely positive that God wanted me to be married, specifically to this guy.
Before I met my husband, I always rolled my eyes when people said God sent them someone and they didn't really want to be married. That just sounds so phony. But... then it happened to me. My life pre-husband was very much of the world. I was cool, I worked with celebrities and being single and available made me better at my job. I was content because I felt important and like I was standing on my own two feet- influencing the world. I made a lot of money and I thought I was already doing something 'big and important.' When I got the call to be married and have children, quite honestly, I didn't want to do it. From my perspective, it seemed like I was being demoted. As someone else commented, no one wants to be just a uterus and 'housewife' is a derogatory term for some reason.
The idea that God's call for me is to be married and raise children is a bit sickening when I felt like for so long I was meant to do something amazing. He's blessed me with so many talents. It took a while to understand what was going on. My children will be better that I ever could be and will do more for God than I ever did on my own. I only ever really served myself and sought glory for myself.
If He wants me to be a uterus, so be it. If He needs me to raise a family, it's happening. And I will do the absolute best I can for my Lord. No excuses.
Before I met my husband, I always rolled my eyes when people said God sent them someone and they didn't really want to be married. That just sounds so phony. But... then it happened to me. My life pre-husband was very much of the world. I was cool, I worked with celebrities and being single and available made me better at my job. I was content because I felt important and like I was standing on my own two feet- influencing the world. I made a lot of money and I thought I was already doing something 'big and important.' When I got the call to be married and have children, quite honestly, I didn't want to do it. From my perspective, it seemed like I was being demoted. As someone else commented, no one wants to be just a uterus and 'housewife' is a derogatory term for some reason.
The idea that God's call for me is to be married and raise children is a bit sickening when I felt like for so long I was meant to do something amazing. He's blessed me with so many talents. It took a while to understand what was going on. My children will be better that I ever could be and will do more for God than I ever did on my own. I only ever really served myself and sought glory for myself.
If He wants me to be a uterus, so be it. If He needs me to raise a family, it's happening. And I will do the absolute best I can for my Lord. No excuses.
N
Hi...I have been married for 25+ years now, but how to tell why it works?? Hmm......
I really like some of the comments already made:
AmandaHya...you have "only" (hahhaa) been married for 6 years?? and yet you have some wonderful insights to share here..and put very nicely into words too! I love your post and agree with it all (the highlighted parts, are the ones I especially loved!!) I agree with trust, honesty, and love being the center points that keep it all together...tying it in with God's word and influence in everything.
Praying together, or bringing things to pray about to each other, is also truly a blessing to a marriage. Knowing we have each others support and love with decisions, worries, and delights and everything in between, helps bring a couple a stability and togetherness that lasts.
Sharing your day with each other is important..sometimes more important than other times, but at all times knowing you CAN share what is going on while you are apart, once you are together, is very important.
Remembering what brought the two of you together ..made you love each other....in the first place, can hold you together as well. It is a base for the ups and downs sure to follow.
Holding hands, sitting together quietly, (even silently) sharing a hobby or interest, being interested in the others' hobby or interest, listening to each other on a daily basis, just...BEING together.... love gets stronger the more you share life's experiences.
Going through the trials isn't easy ..that's why they are called "trials"!! but they do bring you a closeness that you cannot share with anyone else, simply because you experienced them together, and were there for each other through them. Sharing them also makes the good times even brighter and happier, and unites you in a way that is indescribable!
Something I have noticed in my marriage, (and after talking with my mom after I was an adult and married, she tells me the same thing about her and Dad) is that we "bounce off each other" well. Hahaha ..... this just means that when I am upset or excitable, Papabean takes the reins in the situation and is the calm one with reason. In the same way if it is he who is angry or frustrated, not having the right words, I step in and stay calm, coming up with a solution, or something to ease whatever is happening.
Changing as we go, (and grow,) is huge as well. Hobbies and interests change, jobs change, friendships change, deaths happen and can change you within yourself, ..we grow up!! Being able to recognize these changes for what they are, and what they bring, or take away from, each other can help you to adjust to make things still "fit".
I have been pretty serious with this post, but this does not, and I repeat NOT!!, mean I think I have all the answers...Heavens NO! All it means is that, I and my hubby (my best friend after Jesus Himself) have found the best, and worst, in each other, and love the other because, and in spite of it!
Ok...so lets go for some lightness and/or laughter.......
Tell them you love them at least five times a day!!!
I did all the changing diapers, he did the toilets.
He wears the pants in the family (I prefer shorts and a tank top!!)
Always hug and/or kiss before parting for the day, or an hour, or.....any time spent apart!
If you make a meal you are unsure he will like.....follow it up with one of his favorite desserts!
This thread isn't what I thought it would be when I first read the title.....kinda glad though!! Like I say, I only can say little things I have come to know helps/works in my own marriage..so if anything I have said is what anyone is looking for.....I am blessed.
I really like some of the comments already made:
lol we try to forgive each other and never go to bed mad.
My husband and I believe in being honest with each other and loving to one another. He looks out for my needs and I look out for him. I think we love and care for the other person more than we care what happens to us. It hurts us more to see the other person in pain then to have to suffer through it ourselves.
We've been married for 6 years now and we just try and make time for each other apart from the kids and busyness of life. we remember that our relationship is important too and make time for it.try to keep each other up to date on our dreams and goals and help each other through emotional and spiritual support to reach those dreams. we don't except anything of the other person that we don't except and do ourselves. neither of us is afraid or snobbish about doing the dirty and eekky jobs like changing diapers or cleaning toilets though neither of us like doing it. lol (who does?)
anyways that is the basics: trust and honesty and love.
I pray everyone gets a chance to experience it too. (my husband's working on his grad papers now lol)
My husband and I believe in being honest with each other and loving to one another. He looks out for my needs and I look out for him. I think we love and care for the other person more than we care what happens to us. It hurts us more to see the other person in pain then to have to suffer through it ourselves.
We've been married for 6 years now
and we just try and make time for each other apart from the kids and busyness of life. we remember that our relationship is important too and make time for it.try to keep each other up to date on our dreams and goals and help each other through emotional and spiritual support to reach those dreams. we don't except anything of the other person that we don't except and do ourselves. neither of us is afraid or snobbish about doing the dirty and eekky jobs like changing diapers or cleaning toilets though neither of us like doing it. lol (who does?)anyways that is the basics: trust and honesty and love.
I pray everyone gets a chance to experience it too.
(my husband's working on his grad papers now lol)
married 27 years now, still happy... sure we have our ups and downs, but we work them out. I wouldn't trade my man for anyone else in the world, even if he has his quirkiness sometimes but then i'm sure i have plenty of them too. We pray together when there are needs, which really helps us focus more on God and what He has to say about "stuff"... rather than just hashing things out alone
Sharing your day with each other is important..sometimes more important than other times, but at all times knowing you CAN share what is going on while you are apart, once you are together, is very important.
Remembering what brought the two of you together ..made you love each other....in the first place, can hold you together as well. It is a base for the ups and downs sure to follow.
Holding hands, sitting together quietly, (even silently) sharing a hobby or interest, being interested in the others' hobby or interest, listening to each other on a daily basis, just...BEING together.... love gets stronger the more you share life's experiences.
Going through the trials isn't easy ..that's why they are called "trials"!! but they do bring you a closeness that you cannot share with anyone else, simply because you experienced them together, and were there for each other through them. Sharing them also makes the good times even brighter and happier, and unites you in a way that is indescribable!
Something I have noticed in my marriage, (and after talking with my mom after I was an adult and married, she tells me the same thing about her and Dad) is that we "bounce off each other" well. Hahaha ..... this just means that when I am upset or excitable, Papabean takes the reins in the situation and is the calm one with reason. In the same way if it is he who is angry or frustrated, not having the right words, I step in and stay calm, coming up with a solution, or something to ease whatever is happening.
Changing as we go, (and grow,) is huge as well. Hobbies and interests change, jobs change, friendships change, deaths happen and can change you within yourself, ..we grow up!! Being able to recognize these changes for what they are, and what they bring, or take away from, each other can help you to adjust to make things still "fit".
I have been pretty serious with this post, but this does not, and I repeat NOT!!, mean I think I have all the answers...Heavens NO! All it means is that, I and my hubby (my best friend after Jesus Himself) have found the best, and worst, in each other, and love the other because, and in spite of it!
Ok...so lets go for some lightness and/or laughter.......
Tell them you love them at least five times a day!!!
I did all the changing diapers, he did the toilets.
He wears the pants in the family (I prefer shorts and a tank top!!)
Always hug and/or kiss before parting for the day, or an hour, or.....any time spent apart!
If you make a meal you are unsure he will like.....follow it up with one of his favorite desserts!
This thread isn't what I thought it would be when I first read the title.....kinda glad though!! Like I say, I only can say little things I have come to know helps/works in my own marriage..so if anything I have said is what anyone is looking for.....I am blessed.
I think this video sums up marriage nicely (courtesy of The Princess Bride).
You might have to turn your speakers up.
YouTube - ‪Princess Bride - The Wedding‬‏
You might have to turn your speakers up.
YouTube - ‪Princess Bride - The Wedding‬‏